People's Responses When You Told Them

[cali87]

I am ridiculously lucky that pretty well all my friends are very clued into the lgbt+ world, first time I said it went like this:

2 friends had been having a convo on way to pick me up, I get in car, in continuing with conversation friend one, turns around and asks me how old I was when I had my first kiss, friend 2 laughs and starts "she hasn..." friend 1 looks at me breifly confused, I go "ace" she goes "oh!" turns back to friend 2 "see that just ties into what I was saying earlier, aside from Aces..." [she was trying to convince friend 2 that she wasnt a terrible person for being sexual and that that she(friend 2) was actually pretty damn innocent not having had her first kiss till a year ago(friend 2 is 23)]. once we had all met up at the restraunt, it occured to me that every person at the table was a different sexuality, we had straight(friend 2), gay(friend 1), Pan(friend 3) and Ace(myself), the 4 of us all work together..I know another co-worker is Bi, and I think another clued in that I'm Ace etc... we have had a LOT of staff members over the years(about 40 at any given time) and all have been/are extremly open,accepting and clued into the lgbt+ world, many apart of it.

my family is mixed. I have never come out to them and wouldn't for different reasons. my mom, brother, specific aunt, uncle and their 2 kids? I don't because I don't need to. none of them would give a hoot, they would be like my co-workers.. *ask me question* "ace" "oh ok!" lol. the rest I would not come out too because they would not get it and would probably try to come up with some sorta reason why its a "sin" or some stupidness like that. my dad would accept it, and defend me to his dying breath, but he wouldn't understand it lol

[OrchDork]

" I'm a bit irritated that she thinks it's a result of Asperger's, but at least she's accepting of it.

I'm very surprised to hear that as well! I have a few friends with Aspergers that are so high-functioning - in fact it's a fact that people with Asperger's are very often geniuses, so I'm sorry that anyone would think that, but glad she's accepting of your orientation. It sounds like your mom just needs to look into it a bit more and learn about asexuality and all. Maybe get to know some people who are also asexual, sex repulsed.

ALSO sorry to hear about your friend that is pushing you so hard to go to those meetings - even their title doesn't include A in it for Asexuals. In all honestly, I also feel as you do and do not identify with that particular community because they are all sex-related. I definitely do NOT want to sit through any meeting that talks about sex at all!! (Being sex repulsed myself). I totally get you!

My mom is actually very knowledgeable about Asperger's and autism- she's a speech pathologist and works with preschoolers with autism. She realizes that because I have Asperger's I'm very sensitive to touch,sound, smells- just about anything. She thinks there's a chance that it's connected to my asexuality, when I think there's no connection, it's just how I am. It's not like everyone who's autistic or has Asperger's is ace! She's not invalidating my orientation, it's just her way of trying to understand what I mean when I say "I'm asexual."