Mr Writer Posted November 25, 2015 Share Posted November 25, 2015 So, naturally, being asexual I'm not homosexual, but I would like to get closer with another guy around my age (22) - a romantic friendship of sorts. However, it seems that any way for a guy to meet another guy seems to be sex-led. My parents know I'm asexual, as do my friends, but if any such relationship did evolve, I don't like the idea of being seen as/judged by others as being gay or in a homosexual/erotic relationship. Thoughts? Link to post Share on other sites
AVEN #1 fan Posted November 25, 2015 Share Posted November 25, 2015 Well so u r looking for a queerplatonic relationship or an alterous relationship, anyway in a queerplatonic relationship u have freedom to date other ppl, however the things BTW u and this guy pal lol can get very romantic and even sexual but not all the time, now talking about an alterous relationship, it's kinda of romantic friendship however it's not fully romantic nor fully platonic, it's feeling emotional closeness and doing things that both couples and friends do, as for as queerplatonic relationship, ur pal is called a zucchini, now for an alterous relationship, it's called aromate. Both of these fall off the line of typical romantic relationship. If u have alterous attraction, in ur case u r homoalterous not homoromantic, in my case I'm polyalterous XP, anyway I'm not a guy. But good lucky with that, oh in an alterous relationship there is no sex as well. And about ur fear of being called gay, well there's no way to avoid it DX, gal pals r always called lesbians even if they're not, anyway I had enough gal and guy pals to notice this. >.< Link to post Share on other sites
Mr Writer Posted November 26, 2015 Author Share Posted November 26, 2015 Thanks for the feedback. I guess you're right that I can't avoid some aspersions being cast about what is obviously an unconventional situation. Link to post Share on other sites
AVEN #1 fan Posted November 26, 2015 Share Posted November 26, 2015 Thanks for the feedback. I guess you're right that I can't avoid some aspersions being cast about what is obviously an unconventional situation.Nah, dude, u r fine, srly if u like guys, well nothing can stop u from liking them, u just simply like them, just don't give too much importance for what others think, I have been there for years, I had a guy BFF, and people always used to call us gays even through we were not, and when I had a girl BFF they used to call us lesbians, in both cases, me and my friends never cared and oh well I am very happy with 1 of them as friends right now. But in the case of lovers or aromates, well I like boys, girls, agenders and intergenders and I always thought I was messed up DX but well, those genders makes me happy and I couldn't live without someone from 1 of those, I just don't care for what others think, just think you aren't alone and like the definition of what's right and what's wrong changes ALWAYS, I hope u find someone anyway, just don't give up searching, and don't mistake bffism with alterous and romantic attractions >.<, well the search is worth it, I'm still searching though. :/ Link to post Share on other sites
Star Bit Posted December 4, 2015 Share Posted December 4, 2015 Romantic friendship as in a romantic non-sexual relationship or the phrase's actual definition? If the former then that's called a romantic relationship (and there are romantic orientations). If the latter then that's a queerplatonic relationship. Unfortunately there isn't an orientation title for that yet and i don't think there are platonic dating sites for it either. I mean, there are platonic dating sites, but i don't think QPRs are what it's aimed at so going on one many not venture well. Maybe the best route in that is going to an asexual meetup and seeing if any of the guys are ok with a QPR. (which are scheduled on and off of AVEN) AVEN fan's description of a QPR feels misinterpretable. A queerplatonic relationships is an emotionally platonic/absent in romantic attraction relationship that has characteristic(s) associated with romantic relationships. it's feeling emotional closeness and doing things that both couples and friends do Which again is the exact same thing a QPR is! However, it currently is not the orientation for wanting a QPR because the actual definition of alterous differs from what i just quoted. The bolded part is not in alterous's definition. Honestly, the creator of the term never said what physically makes an alterous relationship; all they said was that it's desiring an emotional closeness in which that person is not comfortable in calling by platonic attraction nor romantic attraction (and it may or may not actually be between those two; the person may just feel uncomfortable callings things as they are). Link to post Share on other sites
Sally Posted December 4, 2015 Share Posted December 4, 2015 I don't like the idea of being seen as/judged by others as being gay or in a homosexual/erotic relationship. Thoughts? My thought is that you're certainly showing a little homophobic attitude there. Link to post Share on other sites
Sally Posted December 4, 2015 Share Posted December 4, 2015 Nah, dude, u r fine, srly if u like guys, well nothing can stop u from liking them, there's no need to use textspeak on AVEN. Link to post Share on other sites
AVEN #1 fan Posted December 4, 2015 Share Posted December 4, 2015 Nah, dude, u r fine, srly if u like guys, well nothing can stop u from liking them,there's no need to use textspeak on AVEN. But it's the Internet, oh gosh. T-T Link to post Share on other sites
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