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LostPenguin

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This may seem like a weird question. But I've actually come up with many odd questions I've refrained from asking. I'm rather naive about some aspects of sexuality even though I've tried to be otherwise- so here's a quick question for any gals with experience.

Warning: Sexual-ish acts referenced here! Be ye forewarned!

Okay, now that that's out of the way..

Boob fondling! Having never experienced it (and not particularly caring to) but watching a lot of rather perverted stuff (porn included) which sometimes (often) lies, my question is this. Do women actually get anything out of it at all? Does it effect them in any way? I'm asking asexual and sexual chicas alike. Honestly, part of my question is rooted in whether asexuality would have an affect on it, but if sexual girls don't react either, that's going out the window...

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I read somewhere that boobs are "erogenous zones"(sp), which means they're like semi-sexual areas. Or I could refrain from posting stuff I am clueless about.

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Oooh. I have experienced, and I enjoy it quite a bit. It just feels good, like cuddling or hugging or whatever feels good- to me, at least. It doesn't feel sexual to me, but I'm sure it can feel sexual to others.

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When my ex did it, it was just weird and awkward. That was all. I stood there wondering "Are you done yet?" and wanting to look at my watch or something. It kind of creeped me out, but maybe that was just because it was supposed to mean something (and I guess it did, to him), but it didn't. At all.

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Lady Heartilly
Oooh. I have experienced, and I enjoy it quite a bit. It just feels good, like cuddling or hugging or whatever feels good- to me, at least. It doesn't feel sexual to me, but I'm sure it can feel sexual to others.

Yes, I'm pretty much the same way. I felt really weird about liking it so much because it's usually considered sexual, and I'm very much asexual to the point where I don't even have a sex drive, but when my last boyfriend touched me there I really liked how it felt. Well there was one time when he squeezed one, and that was terribly not fun at all, but just being caressed there while cuddling felt very very enjoyable to me.

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LostPenguin, I am SO glad you asked that!!! I have been wondering that for a while! My boyfriend likes that area even though I am rather flat, but I don't really like it at all... I feel similar to what moonsparrow described. He has taken a "Human Sexuality" class in college and part of it was female anatomy and he was saying something about how supposedly the nippels were supposed to be one of the more sensitive places and for me I just wanted him to get it done with. I really like full body contact and when you're fondling boobs, that kind of gets in the way.... it also takes away from the pleasure of making out... oh and I know you wanted to compare sexuals to asexuals, so I should probably tell you that I'm just confused... My sex drive is rather low and I have times of asexuality and times of not knowing what I am.

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Haven't experienced done anything with bf. But I know that some textures etc. close to my nipples produce states that might be interpreted as pleasurable, though it is really minor pleasure. I think I have other sensitive areas than this.

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with one boyfriend I couldn't handle it, because he used to bite my nipples. that was more pain than pleasure to me.

with another one I could handle it, but it didn' t appeal to me

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It's an unfortunate matter that some of my friends tell me way too much about themselves and their sex lives (I often think its because they enjoy grossing me out). But apparently for most sexuals, this is very pleasing as long as the other person knows that they're doing. I believe it usually 'ignites' other areas.

And for the record, nipples are erogenous zones on men too.

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It's an unfortunate matter that some of my friends tell me way too much about themselves and their sex lives (I often think its because they enjoy grossing me out). But apparently for most sexuals, this is very pleasing as long as the other person knows that they're doing. I believe it usually 'ignites' other areas. Although frankly I'd think it would hurt. I guess that's more minority opinion though.

And for the record, nipples are erogenous zones on men too.

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Lady Heartilly
with one boyfriend I couldn't handle it, because he used to bite my nipples. that was more pain than pleasure to me.

EWEWEWEWEW!!!!!! I wouldn't be able to tolerate anything like that! I just like being caressed/massaged there while cuddling, but biting . . . gross!

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Well forbidden fury, I have yet to talk to another male who gets any particular stimulation from having his nipples nibbled or carressed. I don't find it offensive or repulsive and actually kind of like it, but no sexual stimulation from it. It might as well be my elbows or shoulders that are the recipients of that attention. I have discivered that the manner in which a female treats a males breasts and nipples is a mirror of how she would like to be treated. (Unless, of course, she is faking the whole affair.) I have known some females who got nothing out of it and others who could actually reach climax with only nipple and breast stimulation. Just like every other aspect of sexuality, we are all different.

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I have a friend who likes to grab people's breasts. I, thankfully, have not received such treatment, for the most part... but I do not tolerate it well. Poking them is just fine, I don't give a damn if you poke one (or both) of my breasts. I'll poke yours back, no big deal. Grabbing is a whole different story, though. It's going to not be tolerated at all before long, because I am going to get my nipples pierced... and it doesn't feel good at all to have an injury grabbed.

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biggreenmonkey

I haven't found breast fondling to be pleasurable, although perhaps it's because I've never been warmed up physically?

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When my ex did it, it was just weird and awkward. That was all. I stood there wondering "Are you done yet?" and wanting to look at my watch or something. It kind of creeped me out, but maybe that was just because it was supposed to mean something (and I guess it did, to him), but it didn't. At all.

I had the same experience.

But this particular relationship had a very large hand in developing my sexual aversion, so really, on retrospect it all makes sense that this is what happened, the being creeped outness.

I honestly didn't even know people did these things and so of course I was naturally really weirded out.

Having no desire to have your nipples touched can have a grave effect when they are.

On the other hand, many women find it very sexual and get much pleasure and can become aroused from it.

I'm not particularly aroused from it, but I'm not creeped out by it anymore. I mean, I would be if somebody I didn't want touching me was doing it, of course, duh. But I mean as a general act, it makes more sense to me than it used to.

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On the other hand. I used to think it quite entertaining when me and my girlfriends grabbed eachother's breasts to be silly. This had nothing to do with physical pleasure though.

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Maybe a big factor is the gentleness of said actions? Because having my breasts yanked or something would be not fun (or bit, as someone said earlier o.O) but I'm willing to imagine there are more pleasurable ways to go about it.

Not that I've experienced any of the above, mind you.

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I would imagine so. Grabbing or being bitten wouldn't be fun- it would hurt. But being more gentler is definitely enjoyable, for me at least.

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Grabbing would be uncomfortable to me. Although it's never happened.

In the movie "Spanglish" Adam Sandler's character is being nagged by his wife who is getting out of the shower and in an attempt to calm her down, he looks to 'grab her breast' and gives her a patronizing one liner.

I was HORRIFIED! Thankfully the wife chewed him out big time for doing it.

Anyway, back to the question... *L* That comment just reminded me of that movie.

For me it depends on the mood. Most of the time it's just cuddly feeling, sometimes it's really annoying almost offensive, once in a blue moon it might make me feel a tiny bit aroused.

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I asked about boob fondling on an other website and everyone thought my boyfriend was just doing it wrong or something, lol. They said that I should be doing it to myself so I can tell him what feels good, lol. They thought I was missing out when I got into the fact that I can't even make it feel good when I do it myself and the fact that I can only "arouse" myself during masturbation once a month or less. They started telling me stuff about how I should go get a vibrator and all kinds of other crap :roll:.

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Lady Heartilly
They said that I should be doing it to myself so I can tell him what feels good, lol. They thought I was missing out when I got into the fact that I can't even make it feel good when I do it myself.

It doesn't really do anything for me when I try to do it myself; I think it's because I know what's coming. And yeah, I definitely have to agree that the gentleness plays a huge part in it.

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mylittlevoices

I don't mind it usually, in fact sometimes, it can be nice and be somewhat arousing. Being rough is a definite no no, can you say ouch.

Those of a slightly nervous disposition may want to not read the next part of my post;

I went into Ann Summers once with a sexual friend of mine, and in there they had nipple clamps :shock: They looked like they should belong in a medeival torture chamber, it made me shudder. I can't even stand a little bit of pain, papercuts are hell for me, yes I'm a big wimp.

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Ech, I hate having my nipples touched -_- It's uncomfortable and also really annoying. It tickles. But in a not-nice way.

Boob massaging in general is sort of OK but not something I'm overly keen on. Definitely not arousing for me. The one time somebody did that to me I fell asleep. Although that could've been to do with the fact that I had mono at the time. But ummmmm... yes..... xD

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Ok, now I am wondering if I really an asexual, since my answers very different from everyone elses.

Yes, I do find it very sexually pleasurable. It's got a similar effect as masterbating. Also, I know at least one guy who gets rather turned on by it too, (this is a VERY sexual guy might I add) but not all sexual guys find it appealing.

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Ok, now I am wondering if I really an asexual, since my answers very different from everyone elses.

Yes, I do find it very sexually pleasurable. It's got a similar effect as masterbating. Also, I know at least one guy who gets rather turned on by it too, (this is a VERY sexual guy might I add) but not all sexual guys find it appealing.

I've heard that the nipples can be a sensitive area like that- it wouldn't necessarily mean that you're not asexual. After all, some asexuals masturbate.

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