jenjen150 Posted November 20, 2015 Share Posted November 20, 2015 I'm a 15 year old girl and I've never had a crush or anything. I think I might be asexual but I'm not sure? Quote Link to post Share on other sites
RK800 Posted November 20, 2015 Share Posted November 20, 2015 Hi there, first off welcome to AVEN. I'll help you out with some definitions which might explain some things. Asexual: A person who does not experience sexual attraction and/or has no desire for partnered sex. This does not have anything to do with romantic orientation which is separate. Romantic orientation: This relates to whom or whom not a person is romantically attracted to. This relates to dating and what not and is not sexual. A person can be aromantic (lacking romantic attraction), heteroromantic, homoromantic, etc. If you have any questions feel free to ask. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted November 20, 2015 Share Posted November 20, 2015 I'd say if you're not sure, just give it time. You've got heaps of time ahead of you to work all that out. All my 15 year old brother does is game, he isn't interested in sex yet and hasn't had a crush on anyone. Also, ''crushing'' is a sign of your romantic orientation, not your sexual one. I think you just need to give it a few more years and see where things take you :) Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Frigid Pink Posted November 20, 2015 Share Posted November 20, 2015 I define "asexuality" as "no inherent desire for partnered sex." Basically, an "asexual" person isn't drawn towards sexual interaction with others. Beyond that, it varies from person to person, regardless of sexual orientation. If you want to learn more about asexuality, then I highly recommend this (scholarly) article. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Ace of Cakes Posted November 20, 2015 Share Posted November 20, 2015 Welcome to AVEN! You've received some good help already, but I'll just add that while you are young and have plenty of time to fall for someone, if you feel like you're ace, then it's fine to claim that. You're never too young to decide your identity. If it changes later, that's fine, but it doesn't invalidate what you decide now! Not having a crush on anyone wouldn't necessarily be a sign of being asexual (perhaps aromantic). However, sometimes sexual vs. romantic feelings can be hard to sort out, and if you're saying you've never had a crush, you probably mean that you haven't had romantic or sexual feelings for anyone. When I was your age, I felt pretty much the same! I did end up getting my first crush in high school, but I've only had one other since. Turns out I'm asexual and demiromantic. If you don't want to call yourself asexual for whatever reason, there's no problem with giving yourself more time to see if you end up falling for anyone. However, if you think you're asexual, then that's great too. Just don't feel pressured to slap on a label right away. It's fine to take time to question. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
jenjen150 Posted November 20, 2015 Author Share Posted November 20, 2015 Thanks guys. I appreciate your help. I've never had sexual feelings or desires and it's nice to know that there are other people out there who feel the same way. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
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