HippoZippo Posted November 10, 2015 Share Posted November 10, 2015 I'm trying to define my identity. The following behaviours that I exhibit, do this contrast with being asexual? 1) If I see a pretty girl, nice boobs, or bum, then I look twice and want to touch them 2) My favourite fetish is for a girl to sit on my face clothed and smother me 3) I like having boobs on my face 4) I like kissing girls 5) If I can see up a girls skirt, or down her cleavage then I will peek However I don't have an interest in sex (penetrative or oral) Is it feasible to have the above traits and be asexual? I guess what I'm looking for is people that have the same likes and dislikes as me and where they place themselves Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Lost247365 Posted November 10, 2015 Share Posted November 10, 2015 Only you can know your orientation and identity. But this is how I define asexaulity: Asexuality is lacking the potential to desire sex with others for its own sake. Alternatively, you could say this is lacking sexual attraction.Determining if this fits you is only something you can decide upon. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Archon Posted November 10, 2015 Share Posted November 10, 2015 Yes, it is feasible. Only you can say for sure, but you might be asexual. It is possible to be sensually, aesthetically, and/or romantically attracted to women without being sexually attracted to them. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
HippoZippo Posted November 10, 2015 Author Share Posted November 10, 2015 Oh I get that I am the only one that can say for sure. Just interested to see if anyone is in the same boat as me, and if so how do they identify Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Jea Posted November 10, 2015 Share Posted November 10, 2015 ...lacking the potential to desire sex with others for its own sake I LIKE THAT Lacking the potential is what so many people don't understand. THANK YOU DEAR ^_^ Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Alicia7 Posted November 10, 2015 Share Posted November 10, 2015 Hey , I am on the same boat as you are HIPPOZIPPO , I enjoy certain sexual things but not all of them..... I enjoy masturbation and mutual masturbation I enjoy people seeing me as an object of sexual desire I enjoy being touched in a sexual manner I enjoy being in love and I am capable developing romantic attraction towards males I enjoy porn in most of its subcategories and watch it frequently enough Then come the do nots: I do not feel anything emotionally or physically when kissing or touching My mind desires penetrative sex but my mind wonders or gets bored and my body doesn't react Giving sexual pleasure to any partner just bores me The whole act of sex usually is boring So yeah it can be kind of confusion I have gone from thinking I am demisexual and asexual . I am at a fence my mind wants to have pleasurable sex but my body doesn't quite react and the excitement isn't there. I feel a bit sad because I want that sexual intimacy but my body and mind kind of sense it as danger or something because I just end up losing interest during the act and before... unless I am drunk. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
HippoZippo Posted November 10, 2015 Author Share Posted November 10, 2015 Hey , I am on the same boat as you are HIPPOZIPPO , I enjoy certain sexual things but not all of them..... I enjoy masturbation and mutual masturbation I enjoy people seeing me as an object of sexual desire I enjoy being touched in a sexual manner I enjoy being in love and I am capable developing romantic attraction towards males I enjoy porn in most of its subcategories and watch it frequently enough Then come the do nots: I do not feel anything emotionally or physically when kissing or touching My mind desires penetrative sex but my mind wonders or gets bored and my body doesn't react Giving sexual pleasure to any partner just bores me The whole act of sex usually is boring So yeah it can be kind of confusion I have gone from thinking I am demisexual and asexual . I am at a fence my mind wants to have pleasurable sex but my body doesn't quite react and the excitement isn't there. I feel a bit sad because I want that sexual intimacy but my body and mind kind of sense it as danger or something because I just end up losing interest during the act and before... unless I am drunk. This is very interesting to me. I guess it is easier for a female uninterested in sex to have sex than a male, as a male needs to get hard, and if it doesn't interest him, that just won't happen. It doesn't sound like you're asexual to me Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Frigid Pink Posted November 11, 2015 Share Posted November 11, 2015 I define "asexuality" as "no desire for partnered sex." Other possible definitions are "an enduring lack of sexual desire for others" as well as "an enduring lack of sexual inclinations/feelings towards others." Basically, an "asexual" person isn't drawn towards sexual interaction with others. Beyond that, it varies from person to person, regardless of sexual orientation. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
HippoZippo Posted November 12, 2015 Author Share Posted November 12, 2015 How do we define sexual? Penetration? Or anything invloving body parts unique to one gender? Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Star Bit Posted November 12, 2015 Share Posted November 12, 2015 Yes to 1-5. Asexuality strictly pertains to sex/not desiring it; asexuals can have fetishes/kinks and can be capable of arousal. Sexual is anything involving the genitals. In the sense you're referring to, it means partnered genital stimulation of any kind. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Frigid Pink Posted November 13, 2015 Share Posted November 13, 2015 How do we define sexual? Penetration? Or anything invloving body parts unique to one gender? I define "sex" as "consensual activity between two or more people where at least one of the people is in pursuit of an orgasm (genitals don't even need to be involved and it's possible only one partner's genitals are involved such as with breast stimulation)." Quote Link to post Share on other sites
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