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Ace/Aro and into BDSM?


Dumbledore

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While I was with my ex I discovered that I was very much into the nonsexual aspects of BDSM, and now I'm talking to him again and getting back into that particular aspect of our relationship.

I know I'm not alone as an ace/aro person within the kink community, but it'd be nice to chat about it with anyone who's willing :*

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Have you check out website like fetlife?

yeah i've had one for awhile. i've met a few people on there, but not a whole lot of aromantic people yet, which is more specific to the situation i'm facing

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  • 3 weeks later...

Hey! This is a big part of what I'm figuring out with my own a/sexuality and something-romantic right now. BDSM is hugely important to me, though in my case it's more that I only experience sexual desire in very specific D/S contexts. I'm working on what term works best. Gray-ace, aceflux, something like that... also leaning away from romantic these days but yeah, still figuring that out.

I do enjoy the non-sexual parts of BDSM, often more than anything sexual. It's a context where I can enjoy sexuality, but that's not the primary goal/reward of engaging in it.

Definitely happy to chat. ^_^

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  • 2 weeks later...

I've dabbled in BDSM a little while ago. I've always been into impact play and bondage, but it's hard for me to get any real experience due to my massive social anxiety and being aro/ace doesn't help me when the scene is so highly sexualized as it is.

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  • 9 months later...

i'm into the kink, i'm asexual and live in nyc and I want to experience something. I never experienced anything yet.. i want to find someone to experience something with... and i do have social anxiety but I think I have good ways of coping with it... a mask will help me not feel as anxious during the play... so I think puppy play interests me to some degree and others too.. there's a lot of things i would like to try...

i'm not een sure if i'm as nervous about this as before in my life... i think i'm more open and if people found out, i wouldn't be that ashamed probably.. as long as my mother doesnt find out lol because then i have to live with her knowing and that will be awkward as fuck.. and nerve wrecking especially since i still live with her but I'm pretty much out a lot and sleep at different homes because of a special job I have, won't mention it because I don't want to give too much info.

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