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[All_my_friends_are_insects]

I have several questions about my asexuality:

1) As a teenager(16), I've heard that I might just be a late bloomer. Is this possible?

2) If yes, then is it okay for me to define myself as asexual currently? One thing I'm nervous about with this is that I'll be really embarrassed if I end up being heterosexual after all, and told a bunch of people a lie.

3) I've heard a lot of different opinions on this next topic, but I'm genuinely curious about what the real answer is. Is asexuality a part of the LGBT+ community? Since technically the only thing(at least for me, since I'm heteromantic) is that I don't like sex.

4) Can I date someone who's heterosexual? Do you think that would make it a little weird in our relationship?

[Distant Admiration]

I have several questions about my asexuality:

1) As a teenager(16), I've heard that I might just be a late bloomer. Is this possible?

2) If yes, then is it okay for me to define myself as asexual currently? One thing I'm nervous about with this is that I'll be really embarrassed if I end up being heterosexual after all, and told a bunch of people a lie.

Yes, and yes :) Asexuality can be a temporary, or permanent state. Some feel asexual phases, and some lead their entire lives as an asexual person. Nothing wrong either way, what's important is that you come to terms with your a/sexuality and be as happy as you can be. If you're entirely unsure you could always just share it with your closest friends "I suspect that I am asexual, it might be a phase or it might not be. I'm not too sure, and I hope you can understand" (they in turn will of course try to 'help you find out' somehow, which you can ask them kindly to understand that it is something you'd rather find out on your own if that is the case)

3) I've heard a lot of different opinions on this next topic, but I'm genuinely curious about what the real answer is. Is asexuality a part of the LGBT+ community? Since technically the only thing(at least for me, since I'm heteromantic) is that I don't like sex.

I don't think that there is a 'real' answer to it. A lot of people say yes, some people scream no.

http://www.asexuality.org/en/topic/43176-what-makes-asexuality-part-of-the-lgbt/what do you feel?

4) Can I date someone who's heterosexual? Do you think that would make it a little weird in our relationship?

Of course you can! :) Some might find it a bit challenging though, as sexual people meet asexual people with different levels of understanding. Having a sexual side affair is a common result, but not by any means a necessity. I feel that communication is key here. If you fall in love with someone heterosexual then don't let your asexual(ity/phase?) get in the way!

[Star Bit]

1) Perhaps but unlikely since the late bloomer end mark is 15.

2) Yes because it is currently accurate. It's fine to change titles; society is against it because they assume knowing your own orientation must be as easy as it was for them. *Sigh*, generalization.

3) We should be but it's not too supported or perhaps known.

4) Yes, but it depends if you can sexually compromise, if they're ok with their partner not actually desiring sex with them, no sex if you can't compromise, or if the amount you can compromise is sufficient with the partner's sex-drive. When to tell them your orientation? First or second explicit date.

[Kire]

I agree with pretty much everything everyone said here :) except:

I have several questions about my asexuality:
1) As a teenager(16), I've heard that I might just be a late bloomer. Is this possible?
2) If yes, then is it okay for me to define myself as asexual currently? One thing I'm nervous about with this is that I'll be really embarrassed if I end up being heterosexual after all, and told a bunch of people a lie.

Yes, and yes :) Asexuality can be a temporary, or permanent state. Some feel asexual phases, and some lead their entire lives as an asexual person. Nothing wrong either way, what's important is that you come to terms with your a/sexuality and be as happy as you can be. If you're entirely unsure you could always just share it with your closest friends "I suspect that I am asexual, it might be a phase or it might not be. I'm not too sure, and I hope you can understand" (they in turn will of course try to 'help you find out' somehow, which you can ask them kindly to understand that it is something you'd rather find out on your own if that is the case)

Yes, it is okay to come out as asexual now and if you feel that perhaps a different title fits you better down the road, that is perfectly cool. However, I didn't quite agree with your wording here--"asexuality can be a temporary or permanent state." To me, that sounds like an allo person saying "hmm I havent desired any sex in the last week--I guess I'm asexual this week." Asexuality is not a current status, it is a state. I agree with the spirit of what you're saying though.
Oh yes, also I personally would not consider someone going through an "asexual phase" asexual. But that is my personal opinion and of course others are subject to disagree with it.

[Star Bit]

What i meant was that people whos sexual orientation emerges late typically have it by as late as 15. Rarely does it happen after that unless the person is demisexual.