How often do you get THE URGE? (Probably TMI)

[McKinley]

For partnered sex? Never.

For solo sex? A couple of times a week, on average.

[J. van Deijck]

That's somewhat funny, but I used to feel basically no urge at all through my whole life, or rather it's been happening so rarely that I haven't been noticing it. But now when it comes to my relationship, I just feel it almost all the time and it's just something new.

[Black Butterfly]

Every 2-4 weeks I get what I would call a twinge, but it is weak and fleeting. Sometimes I say, "I should probably do something about that", but then I forget or can't be bothered. Every 6-8 weeks I feel the need to really do something about it, maybe several days in a row. But I don't want anyone else involved. Other people's touch tends to sap my arousal and be distracting, especially because I feel pressured to act like I'm enjoying it when I'm really kind of annoyed. I can take care of it much more efficiently by myself, with much more enjoyment, and get on with my life.

[Queen Under the Mountain]

For partnered sex, never.

For masturbation, usually every two or three weeks, but it's weak and not always I act on it. A real and overwhelming URGE I had only once.

[scordatura]

Masturbation, pretty much daily. More often shortly after buying a new sex toy. :) And I get turned on regularly when reading fanfic, although I don't think about that when I'm getting myself off. I have a fairly high libido, and I'm okay with that. I rather like it, even. But I don't often get the urge to do anything with a partner. And when I do get that urge I remember that wait, I don't get off from that, so why bother? That gets rid of the feeling fairly quickly.

[Guest]

Bwahaha, my libido is like next to nothing compared to my teens. ....hm, though, even then, I acted on it (masturbation) like...every few weeks? Probably would have been more without the teachings of masturbation being a sin and all.

Like I can go weeks without wanting to masturbate. And anymore I mainly do it for fun, not because of libido...I guess if it was entirely up to libido, I might be able to go without it at all?

Frequency of what I actually do will vary...I guess something like anywhere from a month, to daily.

[Penny Dreadful]

On and off all day during certain times of the month.

[m4rble]

I get the urge to masturbate about every two weeks or so, but that can fluctuate. I can masturbate without any urge, just as a stress reliever I guess(although I have to be in the right state of mind). I've never felt like I wanted partnered sex.

[pasdechat88]

If I'm in a relationship with someone I care about, maybe like once a month? Even then, I don't really experience a feeling of needing to have sex because I'm just so turned on by the person--it's more of a desire to be close. When I haven't been in a serious relationship, I've gone for years without missing partnered sex. As for masturbation--a couple of times a week, but I wouldn't really describe it as an "urge." I usually just set some time aside because, you know, it feels good and it's relaxing. I suppose when I go for months without it, I do start to miss it a little, though.

[Goodbyeblueyes]

I get urges not all that often, but usually if I end up acting on it, it's gone within a few minutes. I find I get more of them when I'm about to get my period. I don't know if other women/people with vaginas experience that as well?

For masturbation, I can honestly go without it. Like I mentioned before, if I do get the urge and it's strong enough for me to act on it, nothing really has time to happen before the moment passes.

If it's for partnered sex, I find a lot more pleasure/enjoyment in foreplay/kissing/cuddling/etc. over actual sex, but I'm a lot more likely to do it with my current partner than anyone else I've dated before. Either I trust him more than other people, or my desire scale has been out of whack recently... Or I'm more demi than I thought? I know he enjoys it, so emotionally, it's pretty cool. Physically, it's nothing grand on my end.

[m4rble]

I never feel I absolutely have to masturbate. I don't really know what people mean when they say they have a frustrating libido.

[levelskid]

Maybe twice every day?

[Lord Jade Cross]

Havent had the urge for partnered sex so far in life and cant really remember the last time I felt any urge to masturbate.

[fresetu]

Solo-action: roughly once every 24 - 72 hours (as a norm; outliers in both directions)

Partnered: just maybe (still somewhat unsure) only once (as in ever)

[Rawrs]

Like once in 10 days. It's really annoying tbh. I don't mind the urge, but masturbation always feels like a waste of time. It's kind of sickening.