Carradio Posted September 30, 2015 Share Posted September 30, 2015 Hello! I was wondering if anyone had any advice for me, I am an 19 year old girl, and I guess I am asexual questioning (is this a thing, I don't know I'm sorry, I'm poorly educated on this matter) I don't feel sexual attraction to literally anyone, at first I started questioning my sexuality because after being with guys and just generally feeling terribly not into whatever was happening, but I've never been attracted to girls and I feel like by this point in my life I would have felt some sort of awareness to being gay, and like I normally wouldn't care much about labeling what I am but I met this guy and I'm tired of leading boys on and then ending up doing things I don't really feel great doing so before I get anywhere with him I'm trying to figure myself out but I don't know anything. The question is, I've had clinical depression and anxiety for about 4 years and before my depression I wasn't really sexually active at all, and I'm wondering is this my depression making me uninterested and detached from sexual activity or could I be asexual. I just feel really weird and outcast-y a lot of the time because everyone always has so much fun with relationships and flirting and physical intimacy while I move between a spectrum of apathy to legitimate nausea regarding all of these things. I'm sorry this is so long, Thank you so much Quote Link to post Share on other sites
nerdperson777 Posted September 30, 2015 Share Posted September 30, 2015 Well, asexuality often gets confused by some sexual dysfunction disorder that I don't know the name of from the top of my head. If you are fine with it, you are probably asexual. If you feel pain from not being able to be attracted to others, it might be the disorder instead. I don't believe that depression makes one uninterested enough to be asexual. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
EccentricAce# Posted September 30, 2015 Share Posted September 30, 2015 People who are depressed tend to have lack of interest in sex sometimes. Have you been taking drugs for your depression? I have had clinical depression and when I was taking pills I wasn't interested to do anything. I think you should give it some time!!! Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Nicnac Posted September 30, 2015 Share Posted September 30, 2015 Hi Carradio and welcome to this awesome site. I do identify as asexual, I have never liked or enjoyed sex, to be honest with you, I suffer from depression and anxiety and am at a really bad place right now, this does not mean I doubt my sexual attraction or rather lack of it. I am still new to sorting out my feelings and other things, I do know though that this is a great site for getting information and speaking to others who WILL listen and try to help you as much as they can. Take care and always remember, you are you and special, the same as everyone else on this planet :-) Quote Link to post Share on other sites
seneca Posted October 2, 2015 Share Posted October 2, 2015 Being a long time depressive (30+ years) I can say that depression does affect you sexually. So do the meds. However, it may not be the only reason. How do you feel when you're "normal"? I had no feelings before I was diagnosed, and I still have no feelings when I have my normal periods, so that's a clue right there. I know that you're young and confused. Talk to your doctor. Maybe a different medication? Some affect people in different ways. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
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