osamunagata Posted September 27, 2015 Share Posted September 27, 2015 I am a male and have had sex with women and have also tried with men - I do not enjoy having sex. I do get stimulated by certain things - for example I masturbate to Japanese pro-wrestling videos. I thought I had a wrestling fetish so tried that as well with no luck. I find certain types of people attractive, but when it actually comes to a physical interaction the attraction and arousement goes away. I force myself to have sex, but I know I dont enjoy it and would prefer masturbating vs intercourse, oral or someone else giving me a hand job. Have others had similar issues? Quote Link to post Share on other sites
chromanebula Posted September 27, 2015 Share Posted September 27, 2015 It sounds like if you don't enjoy partnered sex and don't seek it out, you are very probably asexual. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Amathy Posted September 27, 2015 Share Posted September 27, 2015 1 welcome to AVEN. 2 nobody else can tell you if you are asexual. It is a decision you have to make for yourself. Exploring AVEN more may help clarify things, though. 3 sexual attraction and aestetic attraction are different things. look up the difference, it may be helpful for you. 4 sexual drive and sexual attraction are also different things. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Lennie Posted September 28, 2015 Share Posted September 28, 2015 If you don't like sex it is likely you are asexual, but only you decide Masturbation is not a factor in asexuality There are many forms of attraction - such as aesthetic, sensual, romantic, platonic, sexual - only sexual attraction relates to asexuality. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Meudwen Posted September 28, 2015 Share Posted September 28, 2015 I have different kinks too and aesthetic attraction to other people, and got to the point that at one time in my life I convinced myself that if I met up with someone based on a mutual kink, that it would help me finally connect with someone sexually. Did not work out that way because as soon as it became a reality my interest became less than nonexistant. What you describe sounds like asexuality to me but ditto to what everyone else said - it's not for us to say what you are, it's up to you to decide. I think you'll find lots of useful topics on here to help you learn more about yourself and come to a better understanding. Also, we have cake, so there's that. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
osamunagata Posted September 30, 2015 Author Share Posted September 30, 2015 Thanks for all the replies. Meudwen, your comment about once it becomes a reality the interest goes away is something that I go through and the way you put it makes a lot of sense to me. Thanks. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
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