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Can aromantics date?


Ailee

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So my friend-I-guess sent me a joke via text after someone told him I was asexual and it read "How do aromantics deal with break ups? They don't. Har har." Now I didn't really find it so much amusing however it made me wonder: do aromantics date and if so are they affected by break ups?

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The Great WTF

Being aromantic doesn't mean you're incapable of forming bonds or being affected by losing them. We can date, get married, and be just as emotionally affected when our relationships end as a romantic person.

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Yes, there are many aromantics who date. I've only wanted to date once, but I felt very dejected and upset when the break-up happened.

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I suppose they can, but it doesn't make much sense to me. If I squish on people, I just want to get to know them, become their friend, perhaps hug them. But I get squishes on several people, so it would be a date with five of us... I guess it depends on the people.

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nerdperson777

Some just want to be in a relationship so they might be cupioromantic/sexual, aromantic/asexual people who want to be in a relationship for different reasons.

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Some aromantics want to be in a relationship, others don't. It just depends on the person. I imagine those who do want to date will still be upset by a breakup, even if they didn't feel romantic attraction to their partner.

Also, some aromantics might get into a relationship because they don't realize they're aromantic. I know I forced myself into a relationship I didn't really want because society expected me to date and I didn't know any better. Despite being miserable in the relationship and not having any romantic feelings for my ex I still felt bad for breaking up with him and was upset about the breakup.

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Some of them can get into romantic relationships for a friends sake/platonic love; just like some asexuals can sexually compromise; they just don't intentionally pursue romantic relationships. If they do then that's Cupioromantic.

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Blue Phoenix Ace

It is written on the tablets of the Aromantic Commandments. Commandment 5:

"Thou shalt not date"

You gotta adhere to the code! You gotta!

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It is written on the tablets of the Aromantic Commandments. Commandment 5:

"Thou shalt not date"

You gotta adhere to the code! You gotta!

Well done for being the first person to make me laugh today! That was amazing!

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I am aromantic and I have dated, and ...... It doesn't end well.

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Blue Phoenix Ace

It is written on the tablets of the Aromantic Commandments. Commandment 5:

"Thou shalt not date"

You gotta adhere to the code! You gotta!

Well done for being the first person to make me laugh today! That was amazing!

I was being serious! :cake:

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It is written on the tablets of the Aromantic Commandments. Commandment 5:

"Thou shalt not date"

You gotta adhere to the code! You gotta!

Well done for being the first person to make me laugh today! That was amazing!

I was being serious! :cake:

Oh... Well... Ahem. Okay. My apologies.
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Blue Phoenix Ace

I'm not sure what the other nine commandments are. Maybe you can help me figure it out. :cake:

Thou shalt not pull out a chair for someone

Thou shalt not pay for dinner

...

???

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Going out with someone to have a meal or drink and talk about nuclear physics, or rant about your life is still a date. You can go anywhere and do anything without the intention of shagging.. Many people are very comfortable with that arrangement and if you are a guy you will find yourself surrounded by tons of pretty girls because in real life, they want to go out and enjoy themselves too without the pressure of whatever happens after the date. Many heterosexual women love to go out with Gay men for the same reason.

Yes, I was effected by break-ups but I understand them. The moment a hetero gets a "mate" he or she will leave you flat. You were a space saver. I tend not to get too attached to people for this reason.

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Going out with someone to have a meal or drink and talk about nuclear physics, or rant about your life is still a date.

It's only going to be a date if I call it a date. And i'd never call it a date. A date is either a dried plum or a section of the monthly calendar.

However, going out with someone to talk about nuclear physics sounds pretty interesting (though I'm no nuclear physicist myself)!

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