russian_enigma Posted September 1, 2015 Share Posted September 1, 2015 I have a twin sister. The other night she told me how much she loves sex, how many guys she's had sex with, going on and on about sex. Like I was shocked, confused and mostly like not understanding what she was talking about. Shocked because this is coming from my sister, I can't even imagine her with a guy... ugh nope. Nope nope nope. Confused because she loves sex. So confused. She seems to think I'm lying about my asexuality to "get attention". Most days "getting attention" is what I generally avoid in the first place! Ok so anyways has anyone else had a similar experience like mine? Would love to hear more stories about this, I know I can't be the only one. Link to post Share on other sites
Star Bit Posted September 1, 2015 Share Posted September 1, 2015 Well, you just came out to a polar opposite, so yah, her incomprehension is to be expected. In allosexual people sexual attraction starts to develop between the ages of 8 to 11 but it's only in junior high to early high school that they have clarity on what it actually is. So they most likely can't remember a time not having it. If she's straight then try asking her how she'd feel if she had sex with a woman. Link to post Share on other sites
Xavy Posted September 1, 2015 Share Posted September 1, 2015 This reminds me of when I told my little sister that I identify as asexual and she saw that as an invitation to tell me about her sex life. Link to post Share on other sites
russian_enigma Posted September 1, 2015 Author Share Posted September 1, 2015 Well, you just came out to a polar opposite, so yah, her incomprehension is to be expected. In allosexual people sexual attraction starts to develop between the ages of 8 to 11 but it's only in junior high to early high school that they have clarity on what it actually is. So they most likely can't remember a time not having it. If she's straight then try asking her how she'd feel if she had sex with a woman. Lol yes we certainly are complete opposites of each other. I will ask her that the next time I am hanging out with her. Link to post Share on other sites
russian_enigma Posted September 1, 2015 Author Share Posted September 1, 2015 This reminds me of when I told my little sister that I identify as asexual and she saw that as an invitation to tell me about her sex life. Haha that's basically how it went with me. I was pretty shocked how much she wanted to share with me. It completely caught me off guard. Link to post Share on other sites
Star Bit Posted September 1, 2015 Share Posted September 1, 2015 This reminds me of when I told my little sister that I identify as asexual and she saw that as an invitation to tell me about her sex life. Haha that's basically how it went with me. I was pretty shocked how much she wanted to share with me. It completely caught me off guard. Some people feel the need to talk about things they really enjoy (e.g. a favorite show, food, etc.), and since she obviously really enjoys it that may explain why. Link to post Share on other sites
LadyErzsebet Posted September 2, 2015 Share Posted September 2, 2015 My little (ok, fine, she's 18) sister totally didn't believe me when I came out as ace to her a few months ago. She said it was made up/wasn't real/etc and that I was wrong about my orientation. It was super unpleasant and I was really unhappy about it, even though she was starting to make a little bit of progress in understanding after a bit. Flash forward to now: little sister, following an attempt at dating and introspection, identifies as grey-aromantic and demisexual. :D While this is super unlikely to be the case with your sister, I guess it can be taken as evidence that siblings don't always stick to their original (jerk) beliefs about asexuality. Link to post Share on other sites
Pengwyn Posted September 2, 2015 Share Posted September 2, 2015 While it may hurt that your sister doesn't believe you, you have to try to understand that many people don't know about asexuality. And if they have heard about it, they often have many misconceptions. Tell her how you feel about sex and that you've never been sexually attracted to anyone, just like she hasn't been attracted to women (presuming she is heterosexual). It may take a while, but I hope that you can help her to understand. Link to post Share on other sites
Star Bit Posted September 4, 2015 Share Posted September 4, 2015 -_- No one has the right or even guaranteed accuracy in assuming your feelings (future or present). You're the only one who can factually know what you feel. Yes, it’s faintly plausible it could change, but that's for you to disclose. People need to stop putting words into other peoples mouths. And clarify that it's not the same thing as aromantic; that misconception is all too common. Link to post Share on other sites
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