SteveIkura Posted August 30, 2015 Share Posted August 30, 2015 Hi all Are there any guys on here who were circumcised as adults? I'm uncut, but I've always wanted to be circumcised as a personal preference. I think it looks much nicer, and I find my foreskin very irritating (not because it's too tight, I just don't like it!). It's almost a dysphoria, but because circumcision would be permanent, I've not yet been brave enough to go for it. I'm 27, and I'm considering whether I should just take the plunge and go for it. I've done a lot of research, but have run into the following problems: 1. Every source seems to be biased strongly in one direction. Both the pro- and anti-circumcision lobbies seem to be very vocal and borderline militant! So the advice seems to be either "definitely get it done, it will be the best thing you ever do" or "don't do it, you'll regret it for the rest of your life!", both of which are far too hysterical to take as good advice.2. Most of the information relates to sexual feeling, intercourse and the likelihood of STI transmission, neither of which are top issues for me. I do masturbate, but it's not that big a deal to me. Orgasms have always felt incredibly underwhelming anyway, I just do it for the release. I'm also quite interested in chastity play (which being circumcised would make easier).If you've been circumcised as an adult, how would you compare being uncut with being cut? Do you regret your decision at all, or was it worth it? I'd really appreciate other asexuals' perspectives on this, as it's been playing on my mind a lot recently. Link to post Share on other sites
Tja Posted August 30, 2015 Share Posted August 30, 2015 Sorry. I'm at the other end of this spectrum. I'm very disappointed that I was mutilated as a baby, and not given the choice of making my own decision. I agree that the penis looks nicer without the foreskin, but I also believe that it's there for a reason, or we wouldn't have been born with it. For me, I suppose it's a matter of: If it ain't broke, don't fix it. I have, recently, started looking into foreskin restoration, but need to do more research. I wish I could be more helpful for your situation. Link to post Share on other sites
DreadfulBetty Posted August 30, 2015 Share Posted August 30, 2015 It's your body do what will make you happy. I strongly believe in being able to make choices about our own bodies. It will hurt while it heals I know that for a fact :P Link to post Share on other sites
SorryNotSorry Posted August 30, 2015 Share Posted August 30, 2015 I was circumcised as a baby, so my 2ยข probably doesn't count, but I can't get phimosis or balanitis... all I can tell you is, if you think it will improve the way you feel about your body, then have it done, but try to get it done by a dr who has good recommendations. Don't have it done by some quack. After the operation, your penis will need a few weeks to heal, but if you're asexual or celibate, that shouldn't be a problem... take your Vitamin C and you'll have a faster healing time. Hope this helps. BTW my mother's uncle was 27 when he had himself circimcised, and he never found anything to complain about. Link to post Share on other sites
RHD95 Posted August 30, 2015 Share Posted August 30, 2015 Not as an adult, but almost, I got circumcised at the age of 16. It was by choice but it had to be done sooner or later because I had severe phimosis (couldn't retract my foreskin at all) since I was a kid, and for hygienic reasons it seemed like a good option. For what changed, it made urinating more comfortable (I couldn't pee straight before) and hygiene down there much easier; I don't know about the sensation, since I've never masturbated or had sex before (which I wonder if it contributed to my phimosis), there is a number of people who claim it lowers sensitivity. Healing was a bit painful the first days because I had the get used to friction of the glans with clothes and remove the bandage, but after a few weeks that disappeared. Remaining abstinent after healing was for obvious reasons a non-issue for me (being a non-libidoist helped there ^_^) but still had to be careful for spontaneous erections (to keep stitches from falling), so I slept with an ice pack to prevent them just in case. Do you have a health reason to do it or it's just for aesthetic/ convenience reasons? I did it because I had a compelling reason due to my condition and I don't regret it, but if I had had the choice (and no phimosis) I'm not sure if I would have done it. IMO as it's been said above me, if it ain't broke don't fix it :) Link to post Share on other sites
Lia Posted August 30, 2015 Share Posted August 30, 2015 Moved from Asexual Q&A to The Gray Area, Sex and Related Discussions Lia Asexual Q&A Co-Moderator Link to post Share on other sites
borealmist Posted September 1, 2015 Share Posted September 1, 2015 It's almost a dysphoria, but because circumcision would be permanent, I've not yet been brave enough to go for it. I'm 27, and I'm considering whether I should just take the plunge and go for it. Well, you're an adult so it's up to you :). 1. The circumcision debate centres largely around non-consensual circumcision which will naturally get quite vocal. The truth is that both extremes happen, most will end up in the middle, but even when only some have a horrific experience with it, when it was involuntary it's a pretty bad violation. 2. There aren't that many good arguments from the specific effects either way. The STD arguments are largely irrelevant as the protection isn't good enough to skip the condom anyway which means it makes no difference in practice. Sensitivity might be reduced due to callousing, but whether that's a good or bad thing will depend on the person. I can't say anything about it personally, but I have a friend who got circumcised as an adult for medical reasons and it's worked out fine for him. I'm not sure how much information there is available, but if you're on the fence about it, you might want to look in to the options regarding how much to actually cut. Maybe it's possible to test the experience some as well, by using surgical tape or something so you can get a feel for it. Link to post Share on other sites
anotherdude Posted December 23, 2015 Share Posted December 23, 2015 I'm a little late to this one, but wanted to chime in. For most intact guys, the majority of stimulation is from running the inner foreskin against the ridge of the corona. Circumcision strips some, or depending on the style, potentially all of the inner foreskin. The glans rubs then against undergarments until it thickens and desensitizes. If you want the cut experience, pull back your foreskin and tape it in place for a day or two until the skin dries out. Then rub some lidocaine on your glans and masturbate using only the top 3/4" of your inner foreskin, with no skin movement. If you're fine with the result, you're fine with being cut. The folks who tend to be happy with circumcision fall into one of a couple categories. a) fetishists; they're into it sexually for whatever reason; b) people with health problems (phimosis, infections, frenulum breve, et. al.); the foreskin is supposed to come down, and if it doesn't, yeah, sex isn't much fun; and c) people who don't know any better; they define success as "can orgasm," which is pretty much always possible even if you don't have genitals. I can tell you that as a cut guy, I have the same amazing orgasms (I assume) everyone else has when I get there, but the 'getting there' sucks. I could do taxes while getting a blowjob. When I was fooling around as a teenager, I couldn't figure out why people were saying that was so great. Present day, I'm indifferent to most sex and don't like to play with cut guys. All of my intact partners have been wildly more sensitive, which makes things a lot more fun. So, yeah. If it's what you really want, go for it, but if your foreskin functions normally, I'm quite certain you'll end up worse from the experience. Much of the fun of chastity is being hypersensitive when you're released. Link to post Share on other sites
nanogretchen4 Posted December 23, 2015 Share Posted December 23, 2015 I'm American and circumcision seems to be the norm here. My father and brother and the great majority of the boys I grew up with were all circumcised. The textbook diagrams and the illustration in a box of condoms were circumcised. I was over twenty before I ever saw an uncircumcised penis, and I was quite startled at first, but I didn't care one way or another once I got used to it. I'm a little skeptical that it makes a huge difference. It's not at all obvious that American men have less sex or enjoy it significantly less as a result of routine circumcision. I think men who got circumcised as adults are the only ones qualified to say. Most of the reviews are actually positive, but that's probably because a man doesn't get circumcised as an adult without a pretty good reason. So, yeah, unbiased sources are pretty much nonexistent. Ironically, I'm beginning to think the minority of American men who aren't circumcised are disproportionately likely to convert to Judaism as adults. I don't have actual statistics on this, but I know a surprising number of men who got circumcised as adults for this reason. None of them have expressed regret. From their overall attitude it seems to have been a bit of a macho bonding thing. Link to post Share on other sites
Vixrotre Posted December 26, 2015 Share Posted December 26, 2015 How about an EDUCATIONAL VIDEO?! :D Link to post Share on other sites
nanogretchen4 Posted December 27, 2015 Share Posted December 27, 2015 The cornflakes don't work either. Link to post Share on other sites
Vixrotre Posted December 27, 2015 Share Posted December 27, 2015 The cornflakes don't work either. Yeah, he actually covered them a little in "Adam Ruins Nutrition" episode where he talked about vitamins, breakfast and fraud "wonder diets". :D Link to post Share on other sites
Potatwho Posted January 21, 2016 Share Posted January 21, 2016 In my experience it's a positive result, I got it done when i was 23 because of phimosis. There is definitely going to be a change in sensation as your more exposed to the elements, and it adapts so it becomes normal again, which means you're not going to feel as much on the same areas as you did before the circumcision. Definitely easier to keep clean. I don't regret it at all, Link to post Share on other sites
Hobbes! Posted January 21, 2016 Share Posted January 21, 2016 I'm really sceptical about the benefits as far as hygiene is concerned, unless severe phimosis is involved. Besides that, based on what you've said it doesn't seem like there are many reasons for you, personally, to keep hold of yours. Link to post Share on other sites
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