AlwaysADreamer Posted August 22, 2015 Share Posted August 22, 2015 I was thinking about coming out to one of my younger brothers. He is 14. Is he too young for me to come out of the closet to him? I was going to wait anyway, because someone close to us came out and I want to give him a chance to process that before coming out. How old do you think is old enough to be told about this kind of thing? (Also, I wasn't sure if this was the right place to put this. Please move it if it's not. Thanks!) Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Gojirin Posted August 22, 2015 Share Posted August 22, 2015 My personal opinion is that if you're old enough to have "the talk" then you're probably old enough to talk about asexuality. Younger people especially are more accepting and never intolerant on their own. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
praetorius Posted August 22, 2015 Share Posted August 22, 2015 I don't think there's any "age limit," so long as done in an "age-appropriate" manner (e.g. one that addresses the level of knowledge and type of concerns likely to be had by the hearer). Quote Link to post Share on other sites
TooOldForThis Posted August 22, 2015 Share Posted August 22, 2015 Not sure what you mean. Are you worried he won't be able to keep a secret? I think that's less a matter of age, and more of an individual's personality. If you mean, will he understand/will he be scarred by the information, then fourteen is absolutely old enough. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
VZwolf Posted August 22, 2015 Share Posted August 22, 2015 I've always been a firm believer in the idea that people should be open about things to young people as it becomes necessary. So to give an example, if a child finds out about sex at an early age and asks about it, the parent or guardian of that child should be as truthful as they can. I saw a video a few years ago where two gay men tell a kid they're married, and his response was basically "Oh. That's cool. PING PONG!" Admittedly your brother is a bit older, but I still find that video inspiring. I'd say go for it. If you're comfortable and confident that the situation will turn out positively, absolutely you should come out to your brother. But I'd make sure that you're prepared to answer some difficult questions. It might be worth preparing information in advance just so you have something to point to, to help him understand. Good thinking, giving him time to process your friends' outing (How did that go?)! Hope your own goes well. Let us know what happens! Quote Link to post Share on other sites
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