DivaCrystal Posted August 10, 2015 Share Posted August 10, 2015 I'm in high school and I am going back pretty soon since school is starting again I have come out to my friends and my family, my family perfectly fine with me being Asexual. But homecoming comes up pretty fast I think its in September and I am nervous a lot of boys like me and probably will ask me but they don't know I am Asexual and I think if I told them they'd run away screaming. I'm a normal high school girl well sort of I like anime but I am curious on how I should find another Hetero romantic like me who would be willing to take me to homecoming? I am really not sure how to do this since finding one involves giving away my sexuality (or lack of). I don't like people to know because they claim I don't exist or I am a closeted lesbian or that I haven't found the right person. Which I hate to hear I want to find another person that is like me who just wants to have a good time at homecoming. How do I find another Asexual hetero romantic guy in school? Please reply I really need advice. Link to post Share on other sites
Crystalkinz Posted August 10, 2015 Share Posted August 10, 2015 I think it's more important that you find someone accepting than asexual. After all, finding another asexual person is hard in high school, as most aren't out/don't know what asexuality even is. If you know that a guy will be understanding or accepting, I'd say you should tell him (in confidence) about your sexuality and hope for the best. There are never guarantees with this sort of thing, but if you feel it's necessary that they know your sexuality and be accepting before going with them, then that's what I'd suggest. Link to post Share on other sites
ThaHoward Posted August 10, 2015 Share Posted August 10, 2015 Do you have LGBT club in your school? Perhaps you can join one and see if it's other asexuals there, or see if it is meetups in your area. Other than that I agree with Crystalkinz. Link to post Share on other sites
Squirrel Combat Posted August 10, 2015 Share Posted August 10, 2015 Well, one thing you could do if a guys asks you is simply don't tell him. Really, by saying "Yes" all you give away is that you want to go to a dance with a guy. But if you want to find a guy at your school who is also Ace, well, the chances are pretty remote, but I look try and spot the guys you know who you have NEVER known to be in a relationship with anyone. I have known a few such guys who I was good friends with even, and they just apparently never found anyone in school who caught their fancy. It's worth a try. Link to post Share on other sites
Nori989898 Posted August 10, 2015 Share Posted August 10, 2015 Yeah, being in a similar situation as you, I understand your dilemma. Homecoming isn't a huge deal, at least not in my opinion, just take your best friend, that's what I did. Yeah, I kinda liked her at the time, but I don't anymore. That's beside the point, if you tell someone you're ace and they don't accept it, then that's on them, not you. Don't worry about asking someone you like or one of your friends, if they don't accept you for who you are then they are the ones missing out. Link to post Share on other sites
DiEvAl Posted August 10, 2015 Share Posted August 10, 2015 Having boys running away from you screaming sounds like a hilarious sight. I think you should tell them :D And if you have enough of these fans, it's quite likely at least one won't run away :D Link to post Share on other sites
Gotsu Posted August 10, 2015 Share Posted August 10, 2015 I once had this kind of relationship were you just hang out every now and then, do some chatting, maybe a movie or a walk in a park, but nothing more than that. You could try that and say to the guys that you don't want a die hard relationship, but something more casual and then see where it goes. There's nothing wrong with taking things chill and slowly, that may give you enough time to trust on them and just say that you are asexual. I think it's easier if you first meet them instead of going out with them immediately, just tell them that you need time to know them first. That you should filter the hungry ones, maybe. Link to post Share on other sites
DivaCrystal Posted October 4, 2015 Author Share Posted October 4, 2015 I don't go to the LBGT club at my school since its not very well run. Basically some of the members are highly judgmental and don't like to talk to asexuals. I'm not saying all clubs are like this just at my school. There is this guy in my class that never talks to anyone he sits in the front of class answers questions but never really talks to anybody but he has opened up to me a little more just lately. Homecoming has already passed and I decided not to go. This boy probably doesn't like me a lot of people think I'm ugly and the ones that try to be my boyfriend are really just in it for sex. So I'm still looking for a boyfriend really lonely- need cuddles. Link to post Share on other sites
chromanebula Posted October 5, 2015 Share Posted October 5, 2015 I think it's more important that you find someone accepting than asexual. After all, finding another asexual person is hard in high school, as most aren't out/don't know what asexuality even is. If you know that a guy will be understanding or accepting, I'd say you should tell him (in confidence) about your sexuality and hope for the best. There are never guarantees with this sort of thing, but if you feel it's necessary that they know your sexuality and be accepting before going with them, then that's what I'd suggest. And they're only 1% of the population, so it would be tough to find a compatible heteromantic ace guy even if they were all out. Link to post Share on other sites
Gray-Roses-73 Posted January 3, 2017 Share Posted January 3, 2017 I am the same as you, Diva. I am in 8th grade and homeschooled but I desperately need cuddles. And some find me unattractive. What state are you in? Link to post Share on other sites
Gray-Roses-73 Posted January 3, 2017 Share Posted January 3, 2017 Sorry that was blunt. Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted January 4, 2017 Share Posted January 4, 2017 Sorry guys but this topic is old! so i'll go ahead and lock this. Â You are always welcome to create a new topic should you feel like discussing this again! Â Jayce, Asexual Relationships moderator. Link to post Share on other sites
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