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How do you feel in love?


goldengirl92

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goldengirl92

One of my best friends asked me yesterday how I think I should feel in a relationship? I've only had one failed relationship, and as I was thinking of how to explain it...I realized I didn't know. I mean I always thought I'd just know. How is it for you guys? I know it's different for anyone but I don't even have an idea...

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Mmm, my heart tends to hurt a little (doesn't sound very pleasant ahaha) and I want to see that person, I think about them a lot and imagine hugging them or kissing them (depends on how romantic you are). I feel down when I'm not noticed by them and I overanalyse every little thing they do as a way of getting closer to me. Of corse everyone's different and this is only the opinion of someone who has had deep crushes and felt in-love. But I hope it helps! :)

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MissLunarWolf

For me, the emotional side of it always confused me. I don't know if I've ever felt "love" or if I've been "in love" with someone.. but I'd imagine, if you truly loved someone, you'd be willing to do anything (reasonable, and sometimes not) for that person. Sometimes, loving someone means letting that person go - even if it kills you - because that's what they want, and it'd make them happy.

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Lord Jade Cross

This takes me back to a few, shall we say, heated discussions. I suppose I need to point out, just to make sure, that this is my personal opinion based on time spent analyzing this subject so take it with a grain of salt to prevent any misunderstandings.

So, feeling like youre "in love". My idea of this is simply that you never really feel in love with anyone.You do however start becoming obsessed with that person and you begin letting your parameters shift and dwindle until you basicaly have destroyed them, at least for a while. Usually after you get out of that phase you come to your senses.

The whole shaking hands, getting nervous, butterflies in the stomach, sweating, etc, are to a questionable degree true. And I say questionable because they are not present in all cases, which leads me to believe that they simply are manifestations of an unchecked emotion. Of course feeling in love is by definition unchecked but what Im getting at is that people dont sit down and think Why they fall in love, they simply say that they are and go with it ignoring completely (though hopefully they learn as time passes) just what they are exposing themselves to, which could be good but could also be very bad.

I also have to point out that many of these sudden reactions are very repeatedly told to us by our peers, including but not limited to: family, friends, figures of authority, non verbal characters, culture,etc. So im not even positive that they are as spontaneous as they claim since you can easily program a person to behave in a certain way if you repeat the same idea to them over and over.

All in all, and again I say that this is just my personal understanding, which most likely is not at par with others, I dont think there is such a thing as falling in love but rather obssesing over someone and subsequently following popular beliefs.

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