160 Posted July 28, 2015 Share Posted July 28, 2015 So my best friend is a year younger than me(I'm 14) and I'm not really sure how to tell her I'm ace, especially since we're rarely serious to each other. We joke around a lot. So how should I tell her? I don't think she knows what asexuality is, and I don't know how to tell her. I've only told one other person, my other best friend, and she took it well, but she's gay and way more familiar with the lgbtqa+ community. Any advice? I'd appreciate it. Link to post Share on other sites
danny_195 Posted July 28, 2015 Share Posted July 28, 2015 When I came out to my best friend, I flat out told her that I'm ace. If she really is your best friend she'll accept you no matter what. Try asking her if she knows what it means first, then if not explain to her what it means and tell her what it means for you. Link to post Share on other sites
160 Posted July 28, 2015 Author Share Posted July 28, 2015 Thanks for the advice. I just can't figure out when the appropriate time is to tell her. We go on bike rides together often, would that be a good time? Also we're so goofy around each other, so it's hard to say anything serious. Thanks! Link to post Share on other sites
danny_195 Posted July 28, 2015 Share Posted July 28, 2015 I think that would be a great time. My best friend and I are the same way, always goofing around. Just tell her that you need to tell her something serious. Hope all goes well for you! Link to post Share on other sites
Archived Posted July 28, 2015 Share Posted July 28, 2015 I agree with all the things danny says. Hey, and maybe you don't have to be that serious about it. ^_^ I pretty much came out to all my friends on the same day, but I did it pretty casually. I mean if it's something that you want to handle seriously, then never mind. Otherwise, there's no harm in doing it informally. i also hope it works out. :D Link to post Share on other sites
Ricki Posted July 28, 2015 Share Posted July 28, 2015 There's rarely a best time to do something that concerns you, i found the best time for me and my friends was when I was drunk and didnt care what they said. So maybe work it in when you're joking around, or maybe just say it to them seemingly completely random out the blue? Link to post Share on other sites
Blue Phoenix Ace Posted July 28, 2015 Share Posted July 28, 2015 Maybe offer her a slice of cake first. Everybody loves cake! Link to post Share on other sites
160 Posted July 28, 2015 Author Share Posted July 28, 2015 wow thanks guys! This is all great advice! I'll definitely use this! Appreciate it! This is awesome. Link to post Share on other sites
Star Bit Posted July 28, 2015 Share Posted July 28, 2015 I flat out told my bff that i was Ace too, but thankfully, and surprisingly, she already knew what it was. You can try that though and elaborate if needed. Just inform her you're being serious. Most people don't understand what the phrase sexual attraction means so explain it in the most basic/blunt way. Sexual attraction is when someones presence turns you on which triggers the impulse to do sexual things to that persons body. The core of the term is the second part, the former is just the trigger. Link to post Share on other sites
160 Posted July 28, 2015 Author Share Posted July 28, 2015 Thanks! I'm just kind of afraid she won't understand even after i've explained it to her. Link to post Share on other sites
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