weedhopper1994 Posted July 26, 2015 Share Posted July 26, 2015 I am afraid of getting into a relationship, because it usually ended up with sex being the number one thing of interest. I am not 100% asexual because about 1 to 2 times a year I want to engage in sex with the one I love. I do like to be close and cuddle to my boyfriend( when I have one) but he it generally reads my closeness as a sign that I what sex. That is most often the farthest thought in my mind (98% of the time). Because of my "mixed messages" now I totally avoid any kind of romantic relationship. I will only hug or sit close to my family members because they are the only people I feel safe being close with. I miss my late beloved because he knew (but not understood) my libido is VERY low.---I am feeling lonely ---I miss his hugs and being able to set a watch "Northern Exposure" ( a cool weekly program that is not longer played on T.V.) Link to post Share on other sites
Star Bit Posted July 26, 2015 Share Posted July 26, 2015 What you're describing is a type of Gray-Asexual; more specifically Hyposexual. It sounds like you need to date an asexual that's ok with sexual compromise. There's a meetup section on here (look for one in your area or create your own) and asexual dating sites. Link to post Share on other sites
scarletlatitude Posted July 26, 2015 Share Posted July 26, 2015 I feel ya. Can't we be romantic WITHOUT being sexual? I would totally cuddle if that's all it was. Cuddling usually leads to other things that I don't want. :( I am very much like you. I don't like to date because "date" means something very different to the men I am attracted to, apparently. Unfortunately I don't have any answers either, just cakes. Link to post Share on other sites
weedhopper1994 Posted July 26, 2015 Author Share Posted July 26, 2015 What you're describing is a type of Gray-Asexual; more specifically Hyposexual. It sounds like you need to date an asexual that's ok with sexual compromise. There's a meetup section on here (look for one in your area or create your own) and asexual dating sites. Thank you, for a word(s) that describes me. I google the two words. I fit both of them pretty well. I think I am more gray-A, with some hyposexual. In one point of my life I did go to a sex therapist, because I felt bad for my late husband. I wanted a stronger libido because I loved him so dearly and I felt he deserved someone more like him. I've never thought to seek "medical attention" until I was with him. Before and now after him I never worried about it.....until now because I am missing him and starting to feel lonely. In addition, I do not want to " fix" myself. In many way I am comfortable with my grayness and I want another to be comfortable with me too....but I feel there are not any men( a least until now) that were gray-A . I didn't think there was a gray area ,as you will, to sex.... Link to post Share on other sites
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