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Hi everybody, I'm new here and not entirely sure about my orientation. I am a male and i do find other males physically attractive and would like a romantic relationship with one. However, i did have past relationships with other males that didn't really work out well. I have this disgusting feeling after sex and it causes me to lose attraction to the person. There was only one person I ever dated that i actually enjoyed sex with. I'm not sure if I'm homoromantic or Demisexual. What do you think?

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dragontrash

From what I know, if you desire a romantic relationship with someone of the same gender, then I think "homoromantic" sounds about right.

As for being demisexual, the definition is "a person who does not experience sexual attraction unless they form a strong emotional connection with someone" (courtesy of AVENwiki). I don't really know a lot about demisexuality, but it seems like there are always gray areas to research into a little more.

The term "sex-repulsed" comes to mind when I read your post. You might find this page at least a little bit interesting: http://www.asexuality.org/wiki/index.php?title=Repulsed

I hope this helped at least a little bit!

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Hullo and welcome to AVEN! :cake:

Well, only your yourself can choose to identify with what makes you feel comfortable, not anyone else. Perhaps you already know that, but I tend to say that just in case.

One can be both homoromantic and demisexual. Or, one could also say it as demi-homosexual.

The tricky thing about actually having sex (and enjoying it) and actual sexual attraction is that they are two different things that may or may not interact with each other. An asexual, for example, could enjoy sex (the activity) and yet not feel any sexual attraction to anyone. Attraction is not the same as behavior. And physical attraction is one of those tricky terms that has many different definitions that can be a bit confusing, like whether or not it's sexual or aesthetic, etc.

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WheelCuddle

It's hard for men to separate sex and love, but they really are separate. You can love without having sex. There are those who will be satisfied with that.

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