BlueRainbow5 Posted July 24, 2015 Share Posted July 24, 2015 At the moment I think that I am asexual as whenever I watched one of those cliché couple scenes in films I would automatically look away because I felt awkward, uncomfortable and embarrassed. Roughly a year ago - give or take - I decided that I didn't actually feel the need to have sex or have romantic relationshipsso I discovered the words asexual and aromatic. Following this, I am repulsed by sex and think of it as 'the act to continue the human race' so I feel awkward whenever my heterosexual friends make jokes about me (only two know at the moment). But now I am confused because now I am getting sexual thoughts about doing things to my best friend of the same sex. I have also had sexual dreams about the opposite sex in the past. I have never had the desire to date/have sex with anyone. I am very confused on my orientation. I don't want or plan to have a family or a romantic/sexual relationship, however on some nights I find myself looking up sexual content of the same sex. I would be very upset with myself if I was attracted to anyone because I don't want to be as I want to focus on my studies. I would see myself as weak if I developed sexual or romantic feelings for anyone because I want to spend my life living alone. If anyone could give some guidance then that would be greatly appreciated and I apologise as this is long. :/ Quote Link to post Share on other sites
WünderBâhr Posted July 24, 2015 Share Posted July 24, 2015 I woder if the "aromantic demisexual" label suits what you are going through--where sexual attraction occurs and is secondary to experiencing a strong emotional bond with someone, but you aren't interested in pursuing a romantic relationship nor develop romantic feelings for that person. Aside from that, I'm not entirely certain what, if anything, I can offer for "guidance". I don't see sexuality or romantic affection as weakness, but I can appreciate that there are those who would see sex/romance/affection as distractions. You, ultimately, know yourself best. These feelings may change or go away after some time. If they do stay, I hope you are able to find a way to manage that part of yourself in a healthy manner that allows you peace of mind. Welcome to the community! Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Archon Posted July 24, 2015 Share Posted July 24, 2015 I'm going to pose another word that may or may not suit you: lithsexual. A lithsexual person feels sexual attraction towards people but does not want to act on those feelings. A lithsexual person may have sexual feelings about someone but will not actually want to have a sexual relationship with that person in real life. Lithsexuality falls under the asexual spectrum. Furthermore, asexuals can enjoy looking at sexual content (some do, some don't) and can have sexual dreams. LIthsexuality sounds to me like what you described, though of course only you can decide what fits you. Welcome to AVEN!! Quote Link to post Share on other sites
BlueRainbow5 Posted July 27, 2015 Author Share Posted July 27, 2015 Ah, okay and thanks Quote Link to post Share on other sites
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