rattchett Posted July 17, 2015 Share Posted July 17, 2015 I don't like dick, but I'm attracted to guys. I'm attracted to girls, and any other gender you could think of, basically I don't care what gender you are. But I don't want a dick in me. ^_^ I want super romantic and loving relaitionships. I don't want to give oral sex either, dicks or otherwise. I do masturbate. Nothing goes inside though. I don't exactly desire to have sex or to masturbate, though I do get aroused. I've only wanted to have sex with one person, and he is a guy. I've had a crush on him for 2 years, just because he's so nice to me and he was when noone else was. Though I do fantasize sex with him I'm not sure I'd want to go through with it. I'll never find myself. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
SkyWorld Posted July 17, 2015 Share Posted July 17, 2015 Yes, it's possible. Some people would say it as "grey-pansexual" and there are many other combinations... say grey-heterosexual, grey-homosexual, etc. etc. Grey- is an umbrella term. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Archon Posted July 17, 2015 Share Posted July 17, 2015 To the question "is it possible to be pansexual and grey-a" the answer is certainly yes, because someone can be sexually attracted to people regardless of their gender but only rarely, not very strongly, or in some other way that puts them in the greysexual spectrum. However, you might want to look into the difference between sexual and romantic attraction, which are two separate things. It sounds to me like you are romantically attracted to people regardless of their gender if not necessarily sexually attracted to them. I only bring this up as a possibility because you say you want super romantic relationships but you don't want to have sex, or at least that is how I read your post. Getting aroused and having fantasies aren't the same as actually wanting to have sex with someone. I might be wrong though and how you identify is completely up to you. Welcome to AVEN btw Quote Link to post Share on other sites
WünderBâhr Posted July 17, 2015 Share Posted July 17, 2015 Would you say that you experience sexual attraction to your crush? Fantasies offer stimulation to arousal, but aren't always an indicator of sexual attraction. I identify as a panromantic asexual, where I experience romantic attraction toward my partner(s), without gender being a focus or basis of the relationship. So, it is possible to be pan- and asexual. I'm not exactly sure how that plays out with pansexuality and gray-a. Let's see what our handy dandy AVENWiki can tell us! Pansexual: A pansexual is someone who may experience sexual attraction toward people regardless of gender and physical sex. Pansexuality differs from bisexuality in this regard, although as the former is not as widely known, many people identifying as bisexual are also pansexual. Gray-/Grey-A: People who identify as gray-A can include, but are not limited to those who: do not normally experience sexual attraction, but do experience it sometimes experience sexual attraction, but a low sex drive experience sexual attraction and drive, but not strongly enough to want to act on them people who can enjoy and desire sex, but only under very limited and specific circumstances It also adds a relevant tidbit, further in the article: Gray-As may also append a gender orientation to the label, as in "Gray-heterosexual". So, it would seem that, according to the information, it is possible to identify as both. Whether or not either label is applicable to you highly depends on how you experience sexual attraction, if at all. This may not be the response you were looking for to answer your questions, but hopefully it helps a bit in clarifying terminology. :) Welcome to the community! Quote Link to post Share on other sites
HeartfulPeach Posted July 17, 2015 Share Posted July 17, 2015 To the question "is it possible to be pansexual and grey-a" the answer is certainly yes, because someone can be sexually attracted to people regardless of their gender but only rarely, not very strongly, or in some other way that puts them in the greysexual spectrum. However, you might want to look into the difference between sexual and romantic attraction, which are two separate things. It sounds to me like you are romantically attracted to people regardless of their gender if not necessarily sexually attracted to them. I only bring this up as a possibility because you say you want super romantic relationships but you don't want to have sex, or at least that is how I read your post. Getting aroused and having fantasies aren't the same as actually wanting to have sex with someone. I might be wrong though and how you identify is completely up to you. Welcome to AVEN btw This. And welcome to AVEN Quote Link to post Share on other sites
MarieIsEatingTacobell Posted July 18, 2015 Share Posted July 18, 2015 Hi and welcome! Yes, it is possible to identify as both Pan and Grey A. I'm someone who does! I use "PanDemisexual" to describe myself, but there's plenty of other ways to put it as people have mentioned above. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Flyaway4me Posted July 18, 2015 Share Posted July 18, 2015 Pan-romantic Grey-asexual Quote Link to post Share on other sites
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