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Hi,

My name is Ricky, I am from Australia. I have recently discovered the concept of 'asexuality', and think this term may be best to describe my sexuality.

I am 32 and have dated both genders. I have never actually had a relationship that went beyond 3 dates. I have never had penetrating sexual intercourse with either gender (due to lack of interest, perhaps...). One time I had oral sex with a guy - I do not recall being aroused. Another time I engaged in mutual masturbation with another guy - wasn't that interesting. I have held hands with a female and kissed another (both of these I 'liked' a bit...), both times resulted in me getting an erection, but in both cases I wasn't moving heaven and earth to get into bed with them. I didn't pursue these further because I wasn't that motivated.

When I am infatuated with someone, not once do I think about sleeping with them, this goes for either gender. Thinking about them rarely gets an erection. And so on.

I do have fetishes surrounding nice male clothing, footwear, autoerotic stuff and bondage. On occasion this has been female focused. I masturbate to such fantasies regularly. However there is usually nothing 'physical' happening, male or female.

Thoughts? Could I dentify as asexual? If not what am I?

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Hullo! First of all, nobody but yourself can identify you. You know yourself better than we do.

Asexuality is the lack of sexual attraction. It's not a behavior. Also, some aces have fetishes and some don't. Some aces masturbate and some don't. Perhaps you may want to check out this thread if you are interested.

I hoped that has helped some. If you have anymore questions, please feel free to ask.

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Um, any form of sex is sexual intercourse.

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