MassacrX99 Posted July 11, 2015 Share Posted July 11, 2015 So firstly, I began to realize I may have been asexual because of when I looked the term up. It seemed to match me though I had never realized it. Always preferring a girl for the inside and never caring whatsoever for sexual things and now that I know it has been clearing for me. But also I need to figure myself out a bit. I have been in relationships before but regular relationships (I figured I was ace maybe a month ago) and being ace is a complicated thing as I have found out. I'm rather sure I am from how I feel and I don't really feel attraction towards girls (or guys, yet I prefer girls for personal reasons). And now that I know, the only thing I desire is to be with someone in a completely non-sexual relationship, as now I know that you don't need sex to show someone that you care or to express that like I previously thought. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
SkyWorld Posted July 11, 2015 Share Posted July 11, 2015 Hullo! A lot of people can relate to you. Many asexuals felt the same way, thinking, "I thought that's what I was supposed to do." I thought the same thing about marriage. I thought it was something that I was supposed to do, but it was quite relieving that I didn't have to get married just because other people do. Besides, asexuality isn't about behavior, just simply the lack of sexual attraction. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
MassacrX99 Posted July 11, 2015 Author Share Posted July 11, 2015 Hullo! A lot of people can relate to you. Many asexuals felt the same way, thinking, "I thought that's what I was supposed to do." I thought the same thing about marriage. I thought it was something that I was supposed to do, but it was quite relieving that I didn't have to get married just because other people do. Besides, asexuality isn't about behavior, just simply the lack of sexual attraction. Okay, thank you. And thanks for responding so quickly as well. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
SkyWorld Posted July 11, 2015 Share Posted July 11, 2015 Hullo! A lot of people can relate to you. Many asexuals felt the same way, thinking, "I thought that's what I was supposed to do." I thought the same thing about marriage. I thought it was something that I was supposed to do, but it was quite relieving that I didn't have to get married just because other people do. Besides, asexuality isn't about behavior, just simply the lack of sexual attraction. Okay, thank you. And thanks for responding so quickly as well. Of course! Anytime! If you have anymore questions, please feel free to ask. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
The_Verse Posted July 11, 2015 Share Posted July 11, 2015 It certainly sounds like you might be asexual! As SkyWorld says, your behaviours do not dictate your orientation. Have you checked out this post? There are some links there you might find useful. Your experience is certainly not unusual and it seems like you've figured most of it out yourself. Welcome to AVEN! I hope you enjoy your stay! Please do help yourself to the cake Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Star Bit Posted July 11, 2015 Share Posted July 11, 2015 You shouldn't force yourself to do anything you don't want to. Though it's perfectly fine to sexually compromise for the sake of your partner. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Nadia Hope Posted July 12, 2015 Share Posted July 12, 2015 I get it. I felt this way too, until I finally realised that I was asexual and sex wasn't a thing I needed to be in a relationship. I am sorry to hear that your partners forced you to have sex with them. That is not cool on any level. There are all of the resources about asexuality on this website, read as much as you can, find books about asexuality. They will help you understand yourself even better. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
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