SpadeofAces Posted January 8, 2016 Share Posted January 8, 2016 To find a fellow asexual, aromantic guy to be best friends with and share the bills. I guess to be married to a male best friend. No sex allowed. ;) Link to post Share on other sites
Prufrock, but like, worse Posted January 8, 2016 Share Posted January 8, 2016 Passing contact with someone so vile that I stop hoping for a relationship that I know isn't possible but can't yet make my soul let go of. Link to post Share on other sites
Guest 80814 Posted January 8, 2016 Share Posted January 8, 2016 Someone equally quiet/timid for company who isn't totally against romantic stuff, but doesn't require it either and is happy with giving a fair bit of time and space. Link to post Share on other sites
IBendTheLine Posted January 10, 2016 Share Posted January 10, 2016 I guess my main thing is the ability to have separate lives and interests, but still being able to support and care about each others and our interests. Like one of us likes drawing and the other likes hiking, but we both can participate in both and are willing to support any projects involved. Also there's the ability to be comfortable just existing around each other as much as ranting about work/project life and general philosophical discussions. Also personally I'd enjoy a slightly more dominant/aggressive partner when it comes to initiating cuddling and romantic things because I'm a clueless moron when it comes to that stuff and knowing when my partner wants or is up to it. Someone spontaneous in order to contrast my way-too-logical and over-safe mind. Link to post Share on other sites
Peachyy Posted January 10, 2016 Share Posted January 10, 2016 Well...I've given this some thought.... Link to post Share on other sites
Kathryn_K Posted January 25, 2016 Share Posted January 25, 2016 I think i understand you. I also feel the need for a platonic relationship with an asexual male. You know, even having a female ace friend would be nice. Honestly speaking, I sometimes wish I had a twin brother who shared the same sexual orientation as me so that I could not feel so much like an alien. Link to post Share on other sites
booksoversex Posted January 25, 2016 Share Posted January 25, 2016 I want a relationship like in the songs old people listen to. No, seriously - sometimes I swear I am a 60-year old, sentimental person inside. I love deep love songs with lyrics which show you, rather than tell you, what love is. A person to share the ups and downs with, a person to miss and come home to, a person who is a confidant and friend. A person who knows you better than anyone else, who understands who you are inside. I want that kind of love, not the fleeting, passionate kind. It seems to me, love is such a profound feeling, few truly experience it, at least not more than a few times in life. Some people seem to find new love instantly, but I have problems imagining they share this deep bond with everyone they get together with. I sort of want that bond, or nothing. Which is also why it's so hard to find a relationship; because I am extremely picky (this kind of trust is not something you'd give to anyone) and because I with these notions of love might make it harder to get there, because it takes so much work first. My dad always says that love is hard work, and I believe he is right. But at the same time, I believe love is easy. Not in the sense that it is easy to deal with or easy to give or easy to lose, but in the sense where it seems such a natural thing. I want to find a person who makes me not even consider if I want to stay single anymore, a person who makes it seem like an obvious thing for us to be together, a person who makes me forget all my "checklist qualities" to look for and my own insecurities. I want a person not to blow me away with candlelit dinners and roses, but rather a person to share the everyday days with, a person to drink morning coffee with. I know that love is real. My parents have that kind of love, best friends and lovers for more than 40 years. Always knowing the other person is there, knowing they won't have to walk alone through life. They can disagree and argue, but they always know they have that anchor in each other. That stability, that love, is what I dream about, and it seems to me it's not something you find at 24. I feel like the people around me aren't mature enough, I feel like the men my age aren't mature enough, I feel like I am in no way mature or "adult" enough. So it's not something I expect to find right away, and it's something I will be humbled if I ever find. Then I'll finally understand what the songs are about, what causes people to write poetry and set music to it. Link to post Share on other sites
JaySexual Posted January 26, 2016 Share Posted January 26, 2016 In daydream life: Someone asexual or demisexual, romantic, likes to be close & cuddle, maybe even kiss. Also believes in monogamous long term(ideally forever) relations/love In reality: Its best if I simply remain single. Link to post Share on other sites
residentmusician Posted January 26, 2016 Share Posted January 26, 2016 I don't have a ton of specifications. Honestly, an ideal relationship to me is just being with someone I'm best friends with who respects me and cares about me. Link to post Share on other sites
Blackpearl1976 Posted January 27, 2016 Share Posted January 27, 2016 Someone who is there for me and me for them. Someone to do things with like traveling or go the . Someone to talk to and enjoy life without worrying about "oh God they are expecting sex now" someone to be comfortable with. I'm not asking to much now am I? Link to post Share on other sites
marauders Posted January 28, 2016 Share Posted January 28, 2016 I want a monogamous relationship with someone (preferably another ace) who is not only my best friend, but also someone that I share mutual respect and love with. Link to post Share on other sites
damage_case Posted January 28, 2016 Share Posted January 28, 2016 I think i understand you. I also feel the need for a platonic relationship with an asexual male. You know, even having a female ace friend would be nice. Honestly speaking, I sometimes wish I had a twin brother who shared the same sexual orientation as me so that I could not feel so much like an alien. My dear. This is coming from an asexual male whose also from Delhi. Please understand this. You are 14... while its nice to have friends/companions... but right now is the time to study hard... explore history of the world and whats going on now. Enjoy your life the best you can and make a nice career. Romance/connecting with other people who have similar orientation is nice... but they might not have similar ideologies, mindsets or lifestyle as yours. Believe me. You are not an alien. And every shade of grey is appreciated. AVEN is a great forum to talk it out. If you ever feel down n out... you can message me or follow the Indian thread (the only reason Im saying this is because sometimes certain issues/problems are linked with stereotypical Indian issues that others might not relate to). Link to post Share on other sites
Velma Posted January 28, 2016 Share Posted January 28, 2016 Perfect for me is one of two things - 1. my husband needs to take anti-viagra to stay alive. He finally gets why I love him, but Wikipedia roulette is more fun than sex. 2. My husband takes on a mistress who has sex with him all the time and loves cleaning the house. Seriously. I have the best spouse ever except that he has this crazy expectation that married people should get all hot and steamy now and then. Sometimes he gets all frisky and I'm like geez AGAIN? Didn't we just do this last month or something? Link to post Share on other sites
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