Travis Grey Posted July 5, 2015 Share Posted July 5, 2015 I had a mri done recently and the Doc saw "The MRI showed a small adenoma in the pituitary gland, which can lower libido". As it turns out these lesions are common and She's going to refer me to a endocrinologist for evaluation and treatment... Knowing that my decreased libido stems from a medical issue is a great relief. Although my self discovery about being a grey, neatly explains so much of my past, especially my teens, and my day to day life. I have always valued friendship over sexual relationships... In the majority of cases anyways; pure chemistry is the exception. My question is can I still be a grey if the root cause for my low libido is medical ? Thanks for your insights :) Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Star Bit Posted July 5, 2015 Share Posted July 5, 2015 Sexual people think libido and sex-drive are the same thing. They're not. But they're defined as the same because of the allosexual majority experiencing both at the same time/the two effecting eachother. So just because you have a low drive to masturbate desn't explain your sexual impulses toward another person. But with sexual people, sexual arousal is what triggers the sexual impulse/desire. This can be caused by the partner's presence or the person's natural hormone fluctuation. People can also desire sex just for the pleasure. Btw gray is vague, you mean Gray-Asexual/Gray-A, right? Yes, you can still be asexual/grey if it has a reason. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
nerdperson777 Posted July 5, 2015 Share Posted July 5, 2015 Let's just leave Star Bit to answer everything that requires a definition. :P Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Star Bit Posted July 5, 2015 Share Posted July 5, 2015 ..was that an insult? Quote Link to post Share on other sites
RoseGarden Posted July 6, 2015 Share Posted July 6, 2015 If it is the causes of a medical condition, that's totally okay. That's also something that was totally outside of your control (just like your sexual orientation). I also learned from many experiences with doctors and diagnosis, to take it one step at a time. Things may change, and they may not. Learning to be okay with WHO you are over WHAT you are is more important. And to Star Bit. I don't think that was an insult. You've left some comments on some of my post, and you always seem to know just what to say. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Travis Grey Posted July 10, 2015 Author Share Posted July 10, 2015 Wanted to clarify this point, I said MY case because I don't want to imply, in the least, that I think is what others where dealing with in their lives.Thank you for your feedback and it's not so much my ability to go weeks, sometimes I just forget lol, without slapping the donkey; but my drive to pursue the advances I encounter. Yes, I identify as a grey asexual Star bit, and it totally fits the bill as my "label"... Especially my teenage years. Then, and now, I'm more interested in developing friendships... Which may turn into a sexual relationship.I need to have that common ground to truly be invested; I have had a couple relationships that where purely chemistry, but those where hollow and lacked substance.My low libido, sex drive, is proven to be medical based... I made sure to get myself checked over once I figured out that I am a grey. Testosterone levels are fine, first thing I found out; took a long ass mri to find the root cause.Knowing it's medical, I have started to date again after several years... Even if I get treatment for this, it will not change my need for having a emotional connection to start. Not like I'm Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde :lol: It's for that reason I'm asking your take on this... I see the vastness that the grey a spectrum covers now. I guess that I could be just a Man that actually cares about his partners' feelings; although I hear those are all but extinct :lol: Thanks for all of your opinions, they are greatly appreciated :D Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Travis Grey Posted July 14, 2015 Author Share Posted July 14, 2015 All I ask regardless is that if you do change you let people know that just because there was a medical reason for you doesn't mean that there's a medical reason for everyone. So, as long as people are informed correctly, I'm happy. As for your medical thing, libido and sexual attraction aren't directly intertwined. I have a strong libido and low sexual attraction. Though as a science nerd in theory an increase in libido might make you more prone to sexual attraction? And yes, I know you're Grey-A. I'm only saying asexual because Grey-A is on the ace spectrum. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
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