Jea Posted July 5, 2015 Share Posted July 5, 2015 So I'm a little confused (I think all my posts start like this XD). I don't get the nuance between ace and non-libidoist (probably because I am both). Libidoist means a person has a libido, aka sexual desires? Isn't that the opposite of being ace? Please note that I'm asking, I don't mean this a a skeptical post, I just genuinely want to understand :) Quote Link to post Share on other sites
hbadger98 Posted July 5, 2015 Share Posted July 5, 2015 No, it basically means that they experience arousal. Nothing more than that. A libido doesn't mean that they have thoughts of what to do with it, just that they get turned on.... Does that make sense without me being crude? It's simply a biological thing, not a psychological thing really. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
The Great WTF Posted July 5, 2015 Share Posted July 5, 2015 Having a libido is a little like having an itch. It's an involuntary need for sexual release that can be satisfied with sex, masturbation, kink play, or whatever else the libidoed person prefers, but it's not pointed in any particular direction. It just is. Whereas sexual attraction, the lack of which defines asexuality, can be compared to having an itch that you want/need a very specific person to scratch. It's wanting some kind of sexual contact with the specific person you are attracted to. (This is kind of an over-simplified version, mind you, but that's what it can be easily boiled down to.) Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Liska Posted July 5, 2015 Share Posted July 5, 2015 What hbadger said -- I am definately asexual; have no interest in having sexual relations with others, even though I've gotten the opportunity many times- and I have no attraction to anyone else of either sex... but I've unfortunately developed a very high libido lately, which I hate and absolutely drives me crazy because it interrupts my day. But, it won't go away until I "take care of it" so it's a necessary evil. It's something that I take care of myself, instead of having someone else take care of it for me. For the heck of it I have brought/allowed a friend (ahem) over to see if maybe I'm just confused and not actually Ace, but no go there- a libido is just an annoying necessity I have to take care of, like a chore. I'm jealous of those ace's who are non libidoists... Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Confusion 0 Posted July 5, 2015 Share Posted July 5, 2015 I have a libido, but I've learnt to ignore it. Is it just me? Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Bad_Mr_Tree Posted July 5, 2015 Share Posted July 5, 2015 Having a libido is a little like having an itch. It's an involuntary need for sexual release that can be satisfied with sex, masturbation, kink play, or whatever else the libidoed person prefers, but it's not pointed in any particular direction. It just is. Whereas sexual attraction, the lack of which defines asexuality, can be compared to having an itch that you want/need a very specific person to scratch. It's wanting some kind of sexual contact with the specific person you are attracted to. (This is kind of an over-simplified version, mind you, but that's what it can be easily boiled down to.) You read my mind! I agree 200% with this. :)) Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Star Bit Posted July 5, 2015 Share Posted July 5, 2015 Libido and sex-drive are synonms but that's because sexual people; the majority, experience both at the same time/think desire for pleasure is the same thing as desire for sex with another person. We use libido to refer to masturbation-drive. Sex-drive is the desire to have sex. Sexual attraction is the impulse/desire to do sexual things to/with a specific person. In sexual people, sexual arousal triggers this desire, which is caused by a persons presence. Cupiosexual is having a sex-drive but not finding anyone sexually enticing. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
AlwaysADreamer Posted July 5, 2015 Share Posted July 5, 2015 I have a libido, but I've learnt to ignore it. Is it just me? A lot of people, especially in the asexual community, have a libido and it's not uncommon for someone to learn to ignore it. So it's not just you :) Quote Link to post Share on other sites
nerdperson777 Posted July 5, 2015 Share Posted July 5, 2015 Now my idea of having a libido is skewed. I don't have any sexual desire but I can get aroused by images or sounds. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Sage Raven Domino Posted July 5, 2015 Share Posted July 5, 2015 No matter what or who arouses you, if you need to release tension by having an orgasm, then you do have a libido, but in the ace case, it doesn't result in longing to find a partner for its release via in-person genital contact (which would be sexual desire) - one can engage in cyber (which is still a (grey-)ace activity imo), release it on their own or even ignore it. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
whocaresthough Posted July 7, 2015 Share Posted July 7, 2015 I have libido, but I'm sex-repulsed. So when I see or hear something sexual, I have two combating forces inside my body and it makes me wanna puke D: Quote Link to post Share on other sites
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