whocaresthough Posted July 4, 2015 Share Posted July 4, 2015 So, I consider myself a demi/panromantic ace, and I've had this amazing friend for yeears, since fourth grade! And we have so many similar interests, and I just love her to death. I don't know if I can call myself a demi, though, because I don't like kissing or cuddling, and I don't find the need in holding hands. The term "dating" kills me. I love hugging (her) and spending as much time as I can with her! Recently she's been in and out of the hospital, and her pain just absolutely kills me. I want to spend as much time as I possibly can! I've been really wanting to get to know her sexuality (I know, how have I been with her this long, and not know that?) and I just feel like I want to learn so much more about her on a personal level (not to make her uncomfortable, though). BTW, I've never gotten this close to anyone, and I really don't care to spend time with my other acquaintances, except my guy friend who I have a huge squish on. From as much as I've said, is this just a bad case of squish-syndrome or do you think I could be demi? Link to post Share on other sites
cal_gui Posted July 4, 2015 Share Posted July 4, 2015 Well, those kind of things are really subjective, you would have to define by yourself whether you have a romantic attachment to her or not. Using my personal criteria I would say that with my "squishes" is that correct? and close friends in general are people that I want to spend the most time possible doing something with. Whether good moments, such as a good film or a concert, or bad moments, like a awful class or a bad movie (so we goof around and mock it the whole way through). But that's the thing, you need to engage in a activity. You want to laugh with your friend. When you love someone you want to see her/him/them laugh. Simply as that. A friend is a companion in a adventure. Someone you love is the adventure. It sort of is a goal on itself. He/She/Xhe is beautiful simply because He/She/Xhe is, simply because they exist. I don't know if that makes any sense at all, but it sorta of how I see it. Link to post Share on other sites
whocaresthough Posted July 5, 2015 Author Share Posted July 5, 2015 Well, those kind of things are really subjective, you would have to define by yourself whether you have a romantic attachment to her or not. Using my personal criteria I would say that with my "squishes" is that correct? and close friends in general are people that I want to spend the most time possible doing something with. Whether good moments, such as a good film or a concert, or bad moments, like a awful class or a bad movie (so we goof around and mock it the whole way through). But that's the thing, you need to engage in a activity. You want to laugh with your friend. When you love someone you want to see her/him/them laugh. Simply as that. A friend is a companion in a adventure. Someone you love is the adventure. It sort of is a goal on itself. He/She/Xhe is beautiful simply because He/She/Xhe is, simply because they exist. I don't know if that makes any sense at all, but it sorta of how I see it. Oh my God, thank you so so much. I love you for explaining this XD Link to post Share on other sites
cal_gui Posted July 5, 2015 Share Posted July 5, 2015 Oh my God, thank you so so much. I love you for explaining this XD Link to post Share on other sites
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