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Need a little help getting bead on my asexuality


The7thDraconian

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The7thDraconian

So I recently figured out that I'm asexual this past year. However, I'm not entirely sure what kind of asexual I am. I haven't really felt sexual attraction for anyone, but I also haven't felt any romantic attraction to anyone either so I always just assumed I just needed to meet the right person. However, the more I thought about it, the more I realize that I just don't have an interest in sex. By that I mean I don't seem to be very interested in having sex myself. I do enjoy sexual fantasies, but they always involve other people. The moment I put myself or even people I know in the mix, then I just lose any arousal I felt before. I think there's a term for this kind of asexuality, but I want to be sure. Any help or advice is welcome.

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Member54880

Welcome! Sexual attraction and romantic attraction are separate, so you may be both aromantic and asexual.

Here's a thread on aromanticism. Feel free to see if the label fits your experiences: http://www.asexuality.org/en/topic/97666-the-new-aromantic-thread-v15/

Another label you could also look into is autochorissexual/anegosexual since you say you enjoy sexual fantasies: http://www.asexuality.org/en/topic/116256-asexuality-vs-autochorissexualityanegosexuality/

Do you feel not just uninterested, but repulsed at the thought of you being involved in sex? If you feel that way, then sex-repulsed may be another label to look into.

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There is no extra term to describe your specifics; that's normal asexuality.

You may also be aromantic.

Autochrois is just a libidoist asexual; normal, there is no point to the term.

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scarletlatitude

There is also a group that are "self-sexual", meaning that you enjoy the feeling of sex but only if you do it on your own. It still fits under the umbrella of asexual though. I agree that you may also be aromantic. There is a sub group called "demi-sexual" too, which means you could see yourself having sex if it was with the right person at the right time. If you are somewhere in the middle, in between asexual and sexual, there is another term that is called "grey".

Does anyone know if there is a dictionary somewhere for all of these terms? We should start one if there isn't one.

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-_- Your definition of self-sexual is just straight up masturbation. Demisexual isn't 1, having a theory, and 2, with the right person at the right time. It's when sexual attraction is triggered by a bond. And yah, a list is on Aven's wiki.

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