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I know this is unnecessary,but I would like some confirmation. I hate my genitalia. I hate the idea of sex. I hate masturbation. I am 15. Is this too young or am I asexual? I realize my opinion is the only thing that matters in this case,as I have read the thread. But confirmation is nice (As in by what I said,does it sound possible? I am not a mindless social robot,but I like confirmation,). I also need to know if I am too young. Thank you all who responded to the previous post..

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Fifteen is not too young to identify with any sexuality. Many people know that they are homosexual before that age. As with people of any ar, your orientation may change in the future, but that does not stop you from being asexual at this time.

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When I hear my friends talk about sex(I am 16 btw) and boys I think some of them have been knowing they are allosexual for quite some time, so yeah, questioning your sexuality(or lack thereof) is totally valid at any age. I started identifying as asexual when I was 15 and now(a year later) I am only more sure I am asexual.

As Pengwyn said, if you start identifying as anything else on a later age, that doesn't invalidate your asexuality right now. If you stay asexual your entire life that's completely fine too, sexuality is a fluid thing but it doesn't have to be.

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chair jockey

Do you ever feel like your genitals should be something other than what they are? What about other secondary sexual characteristics? That could be a clue to something else going on in adjunct, but it's outside my competence to say much about it.

None of which really changes whether someone is asexual. You could also be sex-repulsed, which is independent of asexuality, and alibidinal, which is independent of the other two just as they are of each other. The thing to consider is that, while being trans, asexual and/or sex-repulsed are just some people's version of normal, and being alibidinal can be that too, being alibidinal CAN SOMETIMES--deliberate emphasis--be a sign of physical health issues, some of which can affect several different aspects of your health. If you're totally alibidinal but have begun puberty then you might want to find an enlightened doctor and have them run some tests just to rule out any pathologies. Which doesn't mean there _have_ to be any, just that they're possible.

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15 is typically the end of the late bloomer mark, oriention wise, so I'd say no, your current age is not too young to identify as something.

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A) Already read the thread,which is why I kept saying it was "cliched" misdeamor on my part and going to edit the post so it reads more like I read the thread but still wasn't sure whether to ask.

B) I don't want any gentiles. Both sets seem absolutely horrifying to me. I do no think I am trans. If it's any help sometimes I wish I could remove my gentiles with out repercussion. Also yes I am seeing the doctor, I am a late bloomer as well and I started my growth spurts a llittle bit last year.

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Like faeriefate said, we are not allowed to label you, but try looking into genderneutrality/agender. (for the genitalia topic you discussed)

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I'm 13, if that makes you feel any better. You're definitely not too young. Also, you should research some stuff about asexuality in general. There's a lot of information. It's not mandatory to know, but it's good to know.

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You're never too young! If anything, I'm proud of people who at a younger age figure this out rather than be confused for years. I figured out this year and I'm only 17, but still!

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WünderBâhr

Because everyone's circumstances and experiences are different, and many changes occur around your age range, it's really hard to say when someone is or is not "too young" to understand themselves or identify as asexual. The misconception being that people who are older should know themselves better, and therefore just know whether or not they are asexual. I can say from my own experience that I didn't fully grasp the concept and identity until my early 20s, so.. change and circumstance can still affect you after teen developmental years.

The most anyone can offer is what I would consider "conditional confirmation". If you feel that identifying as asexual feels right, and the information you have learned thusfar brings you to that conclusion, then we're not in any direct position to contradict you. It could be that your perspective and understanding may change with more life experience to draw from, later on. It doesn't dismiss the way you feel, now, though. So, that's why we usually point to the "we can't tell you/decide for you" bits. We're not unwilling to help, just can't be certain about something so internal and complex as identity.

Now, if you asked "does x, y, z count under/toward/as asexuality?" you would likely get all manner of opinions (**see rest of forum and Asexual Musings and Rantings forum for more examples). How consistent those would be depend on the personal experiences of those participating. We're all working with averages in statistics and stories, so it's not set in stone.

All in all, I hope that your general experience and journey of self-discovery is a positive one. Many welcomes to the community, and lots o' :cake: !

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chair jockey

Is not wanting to have any genitals at all a sign of gender dysphoria even if you're not trans? I know this isn't my thread but it seems on-topic.

(As an aside, is there such a thing as "developmental dysphoria" or "age dysphoria" when your intellectual and emotional development are at a different place from your physical development and/or chronological age?)

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