Confusion 0 Posted June 30, 2015 Share Posted June 30, 2015 Just curious, really. I myself am a sex-averse grey-a, but I haven't yet seen anyone in the forums who is the same. There must be some of you out there, I'm just curious to see how many :D Link to post Share on other sites
Nixtmar Posted June 30, 2015 Share Posted June 30, 2015 This was definitely in the wrong post. :) I'm sure there are others on here. I sadly do not qualify as Grey. I am however sex-aversed. Link to post Share on other sites
argar Posted June 30, 2015 Share Posted June 30, 2015 Although I would not say I am sex-averse to the idea of sex, I am extremely uncomfortable with the reality of it. So much so that it has never really happened. I think I had an experience once, but I was so intoxicated I don't really remember. It bothers me that I can't attach any physical sensation to the experience though. Link to post Share on other sites
Confusion 0 Posted July 3, 2015 Author Share Posted July 3, 2015 Are we that hard to find? Is every other Grey-A completely indifferent to sex? Or are you all ignoring my thread? :evil: Anyway, I don't know if there is already an official term for it, (Right now I feel like the only one of my kind on AVEN ) but I have decided to start referring to myself as a "Grey-Averse". I think it sounds a lot better than "Sex-Averse Grey-A". I just hope it doesn't make me sound like I have some sort of sexual aversion to Grey-As... I know this thread hasn't existed for very long, but I'm starting to think there aren't very many of us out there. Link to post Share on other sites
Annie Moose Posted July 3, 2015 Share Posted July 3, 2015 I would probably describe myself that way. I do experience occasional attraction to men, but still not enough that I would want to have sex. The idea of actually having sex is indeed repulsive to me. I guess maybe what I'm experiencing is just aesthetic attraction, but I don't know. That's why I am glad there is a grey area. Link to post Share on other sites
Dee-Ari Posted July 7, 2015 Share Posted July 7, 2015 Replying from my phone, so excuse me for possible weird errors. I think I might think og myself as such? It's a matter of definitions though. I enjoy cuddling (with one particular person) and if I, during the course of cuddling sensually, get turned on, it might lead to a desire to "get off" in a way that involves the other person. Hence the gray-A. I am however completely repulsed by the thought of anything involving genitals/penetration etc. Like the mood would immediately be ruined if she would try to put her hand in my panties. I'm most averse to the thought of penetrative sex with a person who has a penis, so the few times I have gotten to the point where I want to "get off" with a guy, I quickly retreat out of fear of what it could lead to. A part of me wants it, but that is only a physical desire, psychologically I am strongly averse. This is actually rather unpleasant because it makes my body feel like a traitor for getting turned on when I don't want to be doingsomething sexual... it makes it hard not to send mixed signals. So I do consider myself at the same time gray-a and sex-averse. But it would depend on the definition of sex, really :) Link to post Share on other sites
Hardly any Posted July 7, 2015 Share Posted July 7, 2015 Yeah, I'm pretty sex-averse. I mean, when I'm in a relationship & am feeling sexual attraction I want it, but 99% of the time I'm more "ick" than anything else. Link to post Share on other sites
YoungLiterary Posted July 9, 2015 Share Posted July 9, 2015 As an idea, I'm indifferent to sex, but as a reality, I'm definitely repulsed (and fearful). I just recently figured out I'm grey-asexual, so I hope you don't mind me replying here :p Link to post Share on other sites
crazypimpernelfan Posted July 9, 2015 Share Posted July 9, 2015 I guess I'm somewhat of both averse and repulsed? :P My gray-sexuality works strangely sometimes. :P Link to post Share on other sites
scarletlatitude Posted July 10, 2015 Share Posted July 10, 2015 I am touch repulsed unless I really really really like the person. I don't even like hugging my family. I've never had sex so I can't say for sure if I'm repulsed... maybe just grey and averse? I can't tell if it's the sex I don't like, or the general touching, or both. It is definitely a thing that exists though. Link to post Share on other sites
Torquil Posted July 10, 2015 Share Posted July 10, 2015 I'm most averse to the thought of penetrative sex with a person who has a penis, so the few times I have gotten to the point where I want to "get off" with a guy, I quickly retreat out of fear of what it could lead to. A part of me wants it, but that is only a physical desire, psychologically I am strongly averse. This is actually rather unpleasant because it makes my body feel like a traitor for getting turned on when I don't want to be doingsomething sexual... it makes it hard not to send mixed signals. This raises an interesting point. Most asexuals are capable of sexual arousal, but again most do not have a conscious desire for sexual intercourse. This just highlights that bodily arousal and mental desire are two different things. Your body may be sending some signals that it wants sex, but your mind somehow does not translate that into a desire for action. It's very strange, isn't it? Link to post Share on other sites
Confusion 0 Posted July 11, 2015 Author Share Posted July 11, 2015 I'm most averse to the thought of penetrative sex with a person who has a penis, so the few times I have gotten to the point where I want to "get off" with a guy, I quickly retreat out of fear of what it could lead to. A part of me wants it, but that is only a physical desire, psychologically I am strongly averse. This is actually rather unpleasant because it makes my body feel like a traitor for getting turned on when I don't want to be doingsomething sexual... it makes it hard not to send mixed signals. This raises an interesting point. Most asexuals are capable of sexual arousal, but again most do not have a conscious desire for sexual intercourse. This just highlights that bodily arousal and mental desire are two different things. Your body may be sending some signals that it wants sex, but your mind somehow does not translate that into a desire for action. It's very strange, isn't it? That's exactly why I was so curious to find others like myself. Personally, I can feel some amount of sexual attraction, but sex, to me, just seems entirely unromantic, and I wouldn't desire it in a romantic relationship. Link to post Share on other sites
Mitchu Posted July 11, 2015 Share Posted July 11, 2015 Hey! I haven't figured out if I'm grey or ace yet. So I'm not sure if I fit but.. maybe... My situation is kinda complicated.. I'm married, and we have sex. It's really weird though, because on one hand I can physically enjoy it, and on the other hand I'm repulsed by lots of stuff about it.. the icky/gross stuff particularly.. :p I mean, if it were just me I wouldn't want it, but yeaahh.. Link to post Share on other sites
Andromache Posted July 12, 2015 Share Posted July 12, 2015 Hi :) I think I fit that description too! While I am (rarely and is always in a 'weak' sort of way) sexually attracted to people I don't think there's ever been an occasion where I've been like 'ok yeah sure I'd actually have sex with this person'. I don't mind other stuff but someone bringing up sex spoils the moment for me. Link to post Share on other sites
Rea-be Posted July 15, 2015 Share Posted July 15, 2015 I think I can kind of relate to this sort of thing. While I dont mind talking about sex, watching people have (porn), reading smut, etc. the thought of actually having penetrative sex puts me off a little. idk how people get so into it and do it with no problem at all and LOVE IT. the thought of someone thrusting into me repeatedly while i just lay there until they finish...yikes. ahaha. i dont know why but it makes me feel weird. Link to post Share on other sites
just another fangirl Posted July 15, 2015 Share Posted July 15, 2015 I'm new here but am sex-repulsed and in the grey area, so you're not alone! Link to post Share on other sites
abacct Posted July 15, 2015 Share Posted July 15, 2015 I've come to accept the fact recently that I'm gay, but I'm so sex-repulsed and experience attraction so rarely and unusually that I believe I could still fall somewhere along the gray-a spectrum. My sex repulsion comes from my gender dysphoria and mental issues, I think. Perhaps in ten years I won't be sex repulsed anymore, but who knows? As of right now, I am. Link to post Share on other sites
Confusion 0 Posted July 16, 2015 Author Share Posted July 16, 2015 I've come to accept the fact recently that I'm gay, but I'm so sex-repulsed and experience attraction so rarely and unusually that I believe I could still fall somewhere along the gray-a spectrum. My sex repulsion comes from my gender dysphoria and mental issues, I think. Perhaps in ten years I won't be sex repulsed anymore, but who knows? As of right now, I am. Exactly, labels are not permanent. Right now, I'm calling myself 'genderfuid', but I'm so unsure, I might change it later on. Link to post Share on other sites
gracious Posted July 27, 2015 Share Posted July 27, 2015 I guess this thread is a little old now, but... I would say that "sex-averse grey-asexual" applies to me reasonably well. I can still feel attracted to people, but trying to think about actually having sex with them is really difficult for me and mostly just makes me feel anxious. In the past I have met people where it is easy for me to have/think about having sex with them, though, so I'm not sure if my orientation has shifted or if I just don't have anyone in my life right now who makes me feel that way. I suppose only time can tell? Link to post Share on other sites
Devil Kisses Posted July 27, 2015 Share Posted July 27, 2015 I'm sex-adverse when it comes to men. I might have felt attracted to men, but I don't find it appealing to kiss or have sex with men. I'm still fine with cuddling. Link to post Share on other sites
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