grey~wolf Posted June 26, 2015 Share Posted June 26, 2015 I am currently in a relationship with a boy, and am starting to question my asexuality. I've been identifying as asexual for about a year and never felt sexual attraction and still don't know if I feel sexual attraction toward my boyfriend, but we have engaged in sexual activities and we plan to soon engage in sexual intercourse. I enjoy the sexual contact and am starting to think I may be feeling sexual attraction or it may just be I like the feeling of sexual intimacy. Has anyone felt this way, and can anyone help me better identify my sexuality? Quote Link to post Share on other sites
shockkkk Posted June 26, 2015 Share Posted June 26, 2015 Well I (along with others) prefer to define asexuality along the lines of not desiring sex with other people, and I believe that pursuing sexual activities with other people for your own pleasure is not asexuality. I'm not sure if you want to actively pursue such activities or are just able to find them enjoyable, but if its the former I would say you aren't asexual. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Rising Sun Posted June 26, 2015 Share Posted June 26, 2015 It's hard to know. That said, you can be asexual and enjoy sexual contact. It isn't incompatible. A low level of sexual attraction can also be confused with a high level of sensual attraction, and it was my case in my first relationship. I experienced sexual attraction later in life, and I now can say that it's a very different feeling from sensual attraction. I'd say that if you have vivid sexual fantasies involving your partner, if your partner turns you on, if you like a lot the idea of initiating sex with him, you're very probably grey or demi rather than asexual. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Dee-Ari Posted June 26, 2015 Share Posted June 26, 2015 Hmmm.. it's hard to say, really. I mean we pick a label based on our current experiences, and it's hard to tell what the future brings. Like, a person could identify as homosexual for a long time, then one day fall in love with someone of the opposite gender and realize they were bi.. ya know?From what you describe the "easiest" label might be grey-asexual? I mean, you obviosuly haven't had many experiences of sexual attraction before to have identified as asexual, and now you do for the first time. The thing is, you can't really know if it's a one-time thing or a general thing, ya know? Maybe it's just this special guy, and you're demi. Maybe you sometimes in rare cases do feel sexual attraction and you're gray. maybe you will continue to feel these things. for other people in the future etc. and figure out that you're more comfortable identifying as allosexual.. Ya know^^ It's okay..! As Sherlock Holmes said, we should use facts to build theories rather than fitting facts to preexisting theories.But like the above user also said, it's possible to not experience sexual attraction and still enjoy some sexual contact. :)Last but not least, and I know you're not asking about this, but please be careful to keep your comfort in mind when you do attempt sexual intercourse (I make it sound like a crime xD sorry!). I personally have been in the position of enjoying sensual activities, becoming aroused, and having me and my partner assume that meant I was "ready for sex".. Just a quick reminder that it's ALWAYS okay to back out at any point.. It doesn't make you any more or less anything. If it's unpleasant, it's unpleasant. I'm just saying, because a bad experience can kind of ruin the sensual thing ^^ Which would be a shame. And just..ya know, take care? :3 But back on topic. Really, your identity is yours to decide. If you feel more comfortable identifying as demi or grey, you should totally do that. :) It sounds likely based on what you wrote, but only you know! If you guys have sex and it's great and you want more..Enjoy it^^ It's supposed to be pleasant and make you happy so don't sweat about the labels. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
grey~wolf Posted June 26, 2015 Author Share Posted June 26, 2015 Rising Sun, I don't have sexual fantasies, and the thought of sex makes me more nervous than turned on, but I feel very safe and comfortable with him. I don't feel it as a necessity and am quite indifferent to actually having sex, but I'm open to trying it because he wants to and I feel ready. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Rising Sun Posted June 26, 2015 Share Posted June 26, 2015 Rising Sun, I don't have sexual fantasies, and the thought of sex makes me more nervous than turned on, but I feel very safe and comfortable with him. I don't feel it as a necessity and am quite indifferent to actually having sex, but I'm open to trying it because he wants to and I feel ready. This sounds much more asexual than grey or demi to me, even if I can be wrong. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
grey~wolf Posted June 26, 2015 Author Share Posted June 26, 2015 Hmmm.. it's hard to say, really. I mean we pick a label based on our current experiences, and it's hard to tell what the future brings. Like, a person could identify as homosexual for a long time, then one day fall in love with someone of the opposite gender and realize they were bi.. ya know? From what you describe the "easiest" label might be grey-asexual? I mean, you obviosuly haven't had many experiences of sexual attraction before to have identified as asexual, and now you do for the first time. The thing is, you can't really know if it's a one-time thing or a general thing, ya know? Maybe it's just this special guy, and you're demi. Maybe you sometimes in rare cases do feel sexual attraction and you're gray. maybe you will continue to feel these things. for other people in the future etc. and figure out that you're more comfortable identifying as allosexual.. Ya know^^ It's okay..! As Sherlock Holmes said, we should use facts to build theories rather than fitting facts to preexisting theories. But like the above user also said, it's possible to not experience sexual attraction and still enjoy some sexual contact. :) Last but not least, and I know you're not asking about this, but please be careful to keep your comfort in mind when you do attempt sexual intercourse (I make it sound like a crime xD sorry!). I personally have been in the position of enjoying sensual activities, becoming aroused, and having me and my partner assume that meant I was "ready for sex".. Just a quick reminder that it's ALWAYS okay to back out at any point.. It doesn't make you any more or less anything. If it's unpleasant, it's unpleasant. I'm just saying, because a bad experience can kind of ruin the sensual thing ^^ Which would be a shame. And just..ya know, take care? :3 But back on topic. Really, your identity is yours to decide. If you feel more comfortable identifying as demi or grey, you should totally do that. :) It sounds likely based on what you wrote, but only you know! If you guys have sex and it's great and you want more..Enjoy it^^ It's supposed to be pleasant and make you happy so don't sweat about the labels. Hmmm.. it's hard to say, really. I mean we pick a label based on our current experiences, and it's hard to tell what the future brings. Like, a person could identify as homosexual for a long time, then one day fall in love with someone of the opposite gender and realize they were bi.. ya know? From what you describe the "easiest" label might be grey-asexual? I mean, you obviosuly haven't had many experiences of sexual attraction before to have identified as asexual, and now you do for the first time. The thing is, you can't really know if it's a one-time thing or a general thing, ya know? Maybe it's just this special guy, and you're demi. Maybe you sometimes in rare cases do feel sexual attraction and you're gray. maybe you will continue to feel these things. for other people in the future etc. and figure out that you're more comfortable identifying as allosexual.. Ya know^^ It's okay..! As Sherlock Holmes said, we should use facts to build theories rather than fitting facts to preexisting theories. But like the above user also said, it's possible to not experience sexual attraction and still enjoy some sexual contact. :) Last but not least, and I know you're not asking about this, but please be careful to keep your comfort in mind when you do attempt sexual intercourse (I make it sound like a crime xD sorry!). I personally have been in the position of enjoying sensual activities, becoming aroused, and having me and my partner assume that meant I was "ready for sex".. Just a quick reminder that it's ALWAYS okay to back out at any point.. It doesn't make you any more or less anything. If it's unpleasant, it's unpleasant. I'm just saying, because a bad experience can kind of ruin the sensual thing ^^ Which would be a shame. And just..ya know, take care? :3 But back on topic. Really, your identity is yours to decide. If you feel more comfortable identifying as demi or grey, you should totally do that. :) It sounds likely based on what you wrote, but only you know! If you guys have sex and it's great and you want more..Enjoy it^^ It's supposed to be pleasant and make you happy so don't sweat about the labels. Hmmm.. it's hard to say, really. I mean we pick a label based on our current experiences, and it's hard to tell what the future brings. Like, a person could identify as homosexual for a long time, then one day fall in love with someone of the opposite gender and realize they were bi.. ya know? From what you describe the "easiest" label might be grey-asexual? I mean, you obviosuly haven't had many experiences of sexual attraction before to have identified as asexual, and now you do for the first time. The thing is, you can't really know if it's a one-time thing or a general thing, ya know? Maybe it's just this special guy, and you're demi. Maybe you sometimes in rare cases do feel sexual attraction and you're gray. maybe you will continue to feel these things. for other people in the future etc. and figure out that you're more comfortable identifying as allosexual.. Ya know^^ It's okay..! As Sherlock Holmes said, we should use facts to build theories rather than fitting facts to preexisting theories. But like the above user also said, it's possible to not experience sexual attraction and still enjoy some sexual contact. :) Last but not least, and I know you're not asking about this, but please be careful to keep your comfort in mind when you do attempt sexual intercourse (I make it sound like a crime xD sorry!). I personally have been in the position of enjoying sensual activities, becoming aroused, and having me and my partner assume that meant I was "ready for sex".. Just a quick reminder that it's ALWAYS okay to back out at any point.. It doesn't make you any more or less anything. If it's unpleasant, it's unpleasant. I'm just saying, because a bad experience can kind of ruin the sensual thing ^^ Which would be a shame. And just..ya know, take care? :3 But back on topic. Really, your identity is yours to decide. If you feel more comfortable identifying as demi or grey, you should totally do that. :) It sounds likely based on what you wrote, but only you know! If you guys have sex and it's great and you want more..Enjoy it^^ It's supposed to be pleasant and make you happy so don't sweat about the labels. Hmmm.. it's hard to say, really. I mean we pick a label based on our current experiences, and it's hard to tell what the future brings. Like, a person could identify as homosexual for a long time, then one day fall in love with someone of the opposite gender and realize they were bi.. ya know? From what you describe the "easiest" label might be grey-asexual? I mean, you obviosuly haven't had many experiences of sexual attraction before to have identified as asexual, and now you do for the first time. The thing is, you can't really know if it's a one-time thing or a general thing, ya know? Maybe it's just this special guy, and you're demi. Maybe you sometimes in rare cases do feel sexual attraction and you're gray. maybe you will continue to feel these things. for other people in the future etc. and figure out that you're more comfortable identifying as allosexual.. Ya know^^ It's okay..! As Sherlock Holmes said, we should use facts to build theories rather than fitting facts to preexisting theories. But like the above user also said, it's possible to not experience sexual attraction and still enjoy some sexual contact. :) Last but not least, and I know you're not asking about this, but please be careful to keep your comfort in mind when you do attempt sexual intercourse (I make it sound like a crime xD sorry!). I personally have been in the position of enjoying sensual activities, becoming aroused, and having me and my partner assume that meant I was "ready for sex".. Just a quick reminder that it's ALWAYS okay to back out at any point.. It doesn't make you any more or less anything. If it's unpleasant, it's unpleasant. I'm just saying, because a bad experience can kind of ruin the sensual thing ^^ Which would be a shame. And just..ya know, take care? :3 But back on topic. Really, your identity is yours to decide. If you feel more comfortable identifying as demi or grey, you should totally do that. :) It sounds likely based on what you wrote, but only you know! If you guys have sex and it's great and you want more..Enjoy it^^ It's supposed to be pleasant and make you happy so don't sweat about the labels. Hmmm.. it's hard to say, really. I mean we pick a label based on our current experiences, and it's hard to tell what the future brings. Like, a person could identify as homosexual for a long time, then one day fall in love with someone of the opposite gender and realize they were bi.. ya know? From what you describe the "easiest" label might be grey-asexual? I mean, you obviosuly haven't had many experiences of sexual attraction before to have identified as asexual, and now you do for the first time. The thing is, you can't really know if it's a one-time thing or a general thing, ya know? Maybe it's just this special guy, and you're demi. Maybe you sometimes in rare cases do feel sexual attraction and you're gray. maybe you will continue to feel these things. for other people in the future etc. and figure out that you're more comfortable identifying as allosexual.. Ya know^^ It's okay..! As Sherlock Holmes said, we should use facts to build theories rather than fitting facts to preexisting theories. But like the above user also said, it's possible to not experience sexual attraction and still enjoy some sexual contact. :) Last but not least, and I know you're not asking about this, but please be careful to keep your comfort in mind when you do attempt sexual intercourse (I make it sound like a crime xD sorry!). I personally have been in the position of enjoying sensual activities, becoming aroused, and having me and my partner assume that meant I was "ready for sex".. Just a quick reminder that it's ALWAYS okay to back out at any point.. It doesn't make you any more or less anything. If it's unpleasant, it's unpleasant. I'm just saying, because a bad experience can kind of ruin the sensual thing ^^ Which would be a shame. And just..ya know, take care? :3 But back on topic. Really, your identity is yours to decide. If you feel more comfortable identifying as demi or grey, you should totally do that. :) It sounds likely based on what you wrote, but only you know! If you guys have sex and it's great and you want more..Enjoy it^^ It's supposed to be pleasant and make you happy so don't sweat about the labels. Hmmm.. it's hard to say, really. I mean we pick a label based on our current experiences, and it's hard to tell what the future brings. Like, a person could identify as homosexual for a long time, then one day fall in love with someone of the opposite gender and realize they were bi.. ya know? From what you describe the "easiest" label might be grey-asexual? I mean, you obviosuly haven't had many experiences of sexual attraction before to have identified as asexual, and now you do for the first time. The thing is, you can't really know if it's a one-time thing or a general thing, ya know? Maybe it's just this special guy, and you're demi. Maybe you sometimes in rare cases do feel sexual attraction and you're gray. maybe you will continue to feel these things. for other people in the future etc. and figure out that you're more comfortable identifying as allosexual.. Ya know^^ It's okay..! As Sherlock Holmes said, we should use facts to build theories rather than fitting facts to preexisting theories. But like the above user also said, it's possible to not experience sexual attraction and still enjoy some sexual contact. :) Last but not least, and I know you're not asking about this, but please be careful to keep your comfort in mind when you do attempt sexual intercourse (I make it sound like a crime xD sorry!). I personally have been in the position of enjoying sensual activities, becoming aroused, and having me and my partner assume that meant I was "ready for sex".. Just a quick reminder that it's ALWAYS okay to back out at any point.. It doesn't make you any more or less anything. If it's unpleasant, it's unpleasant. I'm just saying, because a bad experience can kind of ruin the sensual thing ^^ Which would be a shame. And just..ya know, take care? :3 But back on topic. Really, your identity is yours to decide. If you feel more comfortable identifying as demi or grey, you should totally do that. :) It sounds likely based on what you wrote, but only you know! If you guys have sex and it's great and you want more..Enjoy it^^ It's supposed to be pleasant and make you happy so don't sweat about the labels. Hmmm.. it's hard to say, really. I mean we pick a label based on our current experiences, and it's hard to tell what the future brings. Like, a person could identify as homosexual for a long time, then one day fall in love with someone of the opposite gender and realize they were bi.. ya know? From what you describe the "easiest" label might be grey-asexual? I mean, you obviosuly haven't had many experiences of sexual attraction before to have identified as asexual, and now you do for the first time. The thing is, you can't really know if it's a one-time thing or a general thing, ya know? Maybe it's just this special guy, and you're demi. Maybe you sometimes in rare cases do feel sexual attraction and you're gray. maybe you will continue to feel these things. for other people in the future etc. and figure out that you're more comfortable identifying as allosexual.. Ya know^^ It's okay..! As Sherlock Holmes said, we should use facts to build theories rather than fitting facts to preexisting theories. But like the above user also said, it's possible to not experience sexual attraction and still enjoy some sexual contact. :) Last but not least, and I know you're not asking about this, but please be careful to keep your comfort in mind when you do attempt sexual intercourse (I make it sound like a crime xD sorry!). I personally have been in the position of enjoying sensual activities, becoming aroused, and having me and my partner assume that meant I was "ready for sex".. Just a quick reminder that it's ALWAYS okay to back out at any point.. It doesn't make you any more or less anything. If it's unpleasant, it's unpleasant. I'm just saying, because a bad experience can kind of ruin the sensual thing ^^ Which would be a shame. And just..ya know, take care? :3 But back on topic. Really, your identity is yours to decide. If you feel more comfortable identifying as demi or grey, you should totally do that. :) It sounds likely based on what you wrote, but only you know! If you guys have sex and it's great and you want more..Enjoy it^^ It's supposed to be pleasant and make you happy so don't sweat about the labels. Hmmm.. it's hard to say, really. I mean we pick a label based on our current experiences, and it's hard to tell what the future brings. Like, a person could identify as homosexual for a long time, then one day fall in love with someone of the opposite gender and realize they were bi.. ya know? From what you describe the "easiest" label might be grey-asexual? I mean, you obviosuly haven't had many experiences of sexual attraction before to have identified as asexual, and now you do for the first time. The thing is, you can't really know if it's a one-time thing or a general thing, ya know? Maybe it's just this special guy, and you're demi. Maybe you sometimes in rare cases do feel sexual attraction and you're gray. maybe you will continue to feel these things. for other people in the future etc. and figure out that you're more comfortable identifying as allosexual.. Ya know^^ It's okay..! As Sherlock Holmes said, we should use facts to build theories rather than fitting facts to preexisting theories. But like the above user also said, it's possible to not experience sexual attraction and still enjoy some sexual contact. :) Last but not least, and I know you're not asking about this, but please be careful to keep your comfort in mind when you do attempt sexual intercourse (I make it sound like a crime xD sorry!). I personally have been in the position of enjoying sensual activities, becoming aroused, and having me and my partner assume that meant I was "ready for sex".. Just a quick reminder that it's ALWAYS okay to back out at any point.. It doesn't make you any more or less anything. If it's unpleasant, it's unpleasant. I'm just saying, because a bad experience can kind of ruin the sensual thing ^^ Which would be a shame. And just..ya know, take care? :3 But back on topic. Really, your identity is yours to decide. If you feel more comfortable identifying as demi or grey, you should totally do that. :) It sounds likely based on what you wrote, but only you know! If you guys have sex and it's great and you want more..Enjoy it^^ It's supposed to be pleasant and make you happy so don't sweat about the labels. Hmmm.. it's hard to say, really. I mean we pick a label based on our current experiences, and it's hard to tell what the future brings. Like, a person could identify as homosexual for a long time, then one day fall in love with someone of the opposite gender and realize they were bi.. ya know? From what you describe the "easiest" label might be grey-asexual? I mean, you obviosuly haven't had many experiences of sexual attraction before to have identified as asexual, and now you do for the first time. The thing is, you can't really know if it's a one-time thing or a general thing, ya know? Maybe it's just this special guy, and you're demi. Maybe you sometimes in rare cases do feel sexual attraction and you're gray. maybe you will continue to feel these things. for other people in the future etc. and figure out that you're more comfortable identifying as allosexual.. Ya know^^ It's okay..! As Sherlock Holmes said, we should use facts to build theories rather than fitting facts to preexisting theories. But like the above user also said, it's possible to not experience sexual attraction and still enjoy some sexual contact. :) Last but not least, and I know you're not asking about this, but please be careful to keep your comfort in mind when you do attempt sexual intercourse (I make it sound like a crime xD sorry!). I personally have been in the position of enjoying sensual activities, becoming aroused, and having me and my partner assume that meant I was "ready for sex".. Just a quick reminder that it's ALWAYS okay to back out at any point.. It doesn't make you any more or less anything. If it's unpleasant, it's unpleasant. I'm just saying, because a bad experience can kind of ruin the sensual thing ^^ Which would be a shame. And just..ya know, take care? :3 But back on topic. Really, your identity is yours to decide. If you feel more comfortable identifying as demi or grey, you should totally do that. :) It sounds likely based on what you wrote, but only you know! If you guys have sex and it's great and you want more..Enjoy it^^ It's supposed to be pleasant and make you happy so don't sweat about the labels. Hmmm.. it's hard to say, really. I mean we pick a label based on our current experiences, and it's hard to tell what the future brings. Like, a person could identify as homosexual for a long time, then one day fall in love with someone of the opposite gender and realize they were bi.. ya know? From what you describe the "easiest" label might be grey-asexual? I mean, you obviosuly haven't had many experiences of sexual attraction before to have identified as asexual, and now you do for the first time. The thing is, you can't really know if it's a one-time thing or a general thing, ya know? Maybe it's just this special guy, and you're demi. Maybe you sometimes in rare cases do feel sexual attraction and you're gray. maybe you will continue to feel these things. for other people in the future etc. and figure out that you're more comfortable identifying as allosexual.. Ya know^^ It's okay..! As Sherlock Holmes said, we should use facts to build theories rather than fitting facts to preexisting theories. But like the above user also said, it's possible to not experience sexual attraction and still enjoy some sexual contact. :) Last but not least, and I know you're not asking about this, but please be careful to keep your comfort in mind when you do attempt sexual intercourse (I make it sound like a crime xD sorry!). I personally have been in the position of enjoying sensual activities, becoming aroused, and having me and my partner assume that meant I was "ready for sex".. Just a quick reminder that it's ALWAYS okay to back out at any point.. It doesn't make you any more or less anything. If it's unpleasant, it's unpleasant. I'm just saying, because a bad experience can kind of ruin the sensual thing ^^ Which would be a shame. And just..ya know, take care? :3 But back on topic. Really, your identity is yours to decide. If you feel more comfortable identifying as demi or grey, you should totally do that. :) It sounds likely based on what you wrote, but only you know! If you guys have sex and it's great and you want more..Enjoy it^^ It's supposed to be pleasant and make you happy so don't sweat about the labels. Hmmm.. it's hard to say, really. I mean we pick a label based on our current experiences, and it's hard to tell what the future brings. Like, a person could identify as homosexual for a long time, then one day fall in love with someone of the opposite gender and realize they were bi.. ya know? From what you describe the "easiest" label might be grey-asexual? I mean, you obviosuly haven't had many experiences of sexual attraction before to have identified as asexual, and now you do for the first time. The thing is, you can't really know if it's a one-time thing or a general thing, ya know? Maybe it's just this special guy, and you're demi. Maybe you sometimes in rare cases do feel sexual attraction and you're gray. maybe you will continue to feel these things. for other people in the future etc. and figure out that you're more comfortable identifying as allosexual.. Ya know^^ It's okay..! As Sherlock Holmes said, we should use facts to build theories rather than fitting facts to preexisting theories. But like the above user also said, it's possible to not experience sexual attraction and still enjoy some sexual contact. :) Last but not least, and I know you're not asking about this, but please be careful to keep your comfort in mind when you do attempt sexual intercourse (I make it sound like a crime xD sorry!). I personally have been in the position of enjoying sensual activities, becoming aroused, and having me and my partner assume that meant I was "ready for sex".. Just a quick reminder that it's ALWAYS okay to back out at any point.. It doesn't make you any more or less anything. If it's unpleasant, it's unpleasant. I'm just saying, because a bad experience can kind of ruin the sensual thing ^^ Which would be a shame. And just..ya know, take care? :3 But back on topic. Really, your identity is yours to decide. If you feel more comfortable identifying as demi or grey, you should totally do that. :) It sounds likely based on what you wrote, but only you know! If you guys have sex and it's great and you want more..Enjoy it^^ It's supposed to be pleasant and make you happy so don't sweat about the labels. Hmmm.. it's hard to say, really. I mean we pick a label based on our current experiences, and it's hard to tell what the future brings. Like, a person could identify as homosexual for a long time, then one day fall in love with someone of the opposite gender and realize they were bi.. ya know? From what you describe the "easiest" label might be grey-asexual? I mean, you obviosuly haven't had many experiences of sexual attraction before to have identified as asexual, and now you do for the first time. The thing is, you can't really know if it's a one-time thing or a general thing, ya know? Maybe it's just this special guy, and you're demi. Maybe you sometimes in rare cases do feel sexual attraction and you're gray. maybe you will continue to feel these things. for other people in the future etc. and figure out that you're more comfortable identifying as allosexual.. Ya know^^ It's okay..! As Sherlock Holmes said, we should use facts to build theories rather than fitting facts to preexisting theories. But like the above user also said, it's possible to not experience sexual attraction and still enjoy some sexual contact. :) Last but not least, and I know you're not asking about this, but please be careful to keep your comfort in mind when you do attempt sexual intercourse (I make it sound like a crime xD sorry!). I personally have been in the position of enjoying sensual activities, becoming aroused, and having me and my partner assume that meant I was "ready for sex".. Just a quick reminder that it's ALWAYS okay to back out at any point.. It doesn't make you any more or less anything. If it's unpleasant, it's unpleasant. I'm just saying, because a bad experience can kind of ruin the sensual thing ^^ Which would be a shame. And just..ya know, take care? :3 But back on topic. Really, your identity is yours to decide. If you feel more comfortable identifying as demi or grey, you should totally do that. :) It sounds likely based on what you wrote, but only you know! If you guys have sex and it's great and you want more..Enjoy it^^ It's supposed to be pleasant and make you happy so don't sweat about the labels. Hmmm.. it's hard to say, really. I mean we pick a label based on our current experiences, and it's hard to tell what the future brings. Like, a person could identify as homosexual for a long time, then one day fall in love with someone of the opposite gender and realize they were bi.. ya know? From what you describe the "easiest" label might be grey-asexual? I mean, you obviosuly haven't had many experiences of sexual attraction before to have identified as asexual, and now you do for the first time. The thing is, you can't really know if it's a one-time thing or a general thing, ya know? Maybe it's just this special guy, and you're demi. Maybe you sometimes in rare cases do feel sexual attraction and you're gray. maybe you will continue to feel these things. for other people in the future etc. and figure out that you're more comfortable identifying as allosexual.. Ya know^^ It's okay..! As Sherlock Holmes said, we should use facts to build theories rather than fitting facts to preexisting theories. But like the above user also said, it's possible to not experience sexual attraction and still enjoy some sexual contact. :) Last but not least, and I know you're not asking about this, but please be careful to keep your comfort in mind when you do attempt sexual intercourse (I make it sound like a crime xD sorry!). I personally have been in the position of enjoying sensual activities, becoming aroused, and having me and my partner assume that meant I was "ready for sex".. Just a quick reminder that it's ALWAYS okay to back out at any point.. It doesn't make you any more or less anything. If it's unpleasant, it's unpleasant. I'm just saying, because a bad experience can kind of ruin the sensual thing ^^ Which would be a shame. And just..ya know, take care? :3 But back on topic. Really, your identity is yours to decide. If you feel more comfortable identifying as demi or grey, you should totally do that. :) It sounds likely based on what you wrote, but only you know! If you guys have sex and it's great and you want more..Enjoy it^^ It's supposed to be pleasant and make you happy so don't sweat about the labels. Hmmm.. it's hard to say, really. I mean we pick a label based on our current experiences, and it's hard to tell what the future brings. Like, a person could identify as homosexual for a long time, then one day fall in love with someone of the opposite gender and realize they were bi.. ya know? From what you describe the "easiest" label might be grey-asexual? I mean, you obviosuly haven't had many experiences of sexual attraction before to have identified as asexual, and now you do for the first time. The thing is, you can't really know if it's a one-time thing or a general thing, ya know? Maybe it's just this special guy, and you're demi. Maybe you sometimes in rare cases do feel sexual attraction and you're gray. maybe you will continue to feel these things. for other people in the future etc. and figure out that you're more comfortable identifying as allosexual.. Ya know^^ It's okay..! As Sherlock Holmes said, we should use facts to build theories rather than fitting facts to preexisting theories. But like the above user also said, it's possible to not experience sexual attraction and still enjoy some sexual contact. :) Last but not least, and I know you're not asking about this, but please be careful to keep your comfort in mind when you do attempt sexual intercourse (I make it sound like a crime xD sorry!). I personally have been in the position of enjoying sensual activities, becoming aroused, and having me and my partner assume that meant I was "ready for sex".. Just a quick reminder that it's ALWAYS okay to back out at any point.. It doesn't make you any more or less anything. If it's unpleasant, it's unpleasant. I'm just saying, because a bad experience can kind of ruin the sensual thing ^^ Which would be a shame. And just..ya know, take care? :3 But back on topic. Really, your identity is yours to decide. If you feel more comfortable identifying as demi or grey, you should totally do that. :) It sounds likely based on what you wrote, but only you know! If you guys have sex and it's great and you want more..Enjoy it^^ It's supposed to be pleasant and make you happy so don't sweat about the labels. Hmmm.. it's hard to say, really. I mean we pick a label based on our current experiences, and it's hard to tell what the future brings. Like, a person could identify as homosexual for a long time, then one day fall in love with someone of the opposite gender and realize they were bi.. ya know? From what you describe the "easiest" label might be grey-asexual? I mean, you obviosuly haven't had many experiences of sexual attraction before to have identified as asexual, and now you do for the first time. The thing is, you can't really know if it's a one-time thing or a general thing, ya know? Maybe it's just this special guy, and you're demi. Maybe you sometimes in rare cases do feel sexual attraction and you're gray. maybe you will continue to feel these things. for other people in the future etc. and figure out that you're more comfortable identifying as allosexual.. Ya know^^ It's okay..! As Sherlock Holmes said, we should use facts to build theories rather than fitting facts to preexisting theories. But like the above user also said, it's possible to not experience sexual attraction and still enjoy some sexual contact. :) Last but not least, and I know you're not asking about this, but please be careful to keep your comfort in mind when you do attempt sexual intercourse (I make it sound like a crime xD sorry!). I personally have been in the position of enjoying sensual activities, becoming aroused, and having me and my partner assume that meant I was "ready for sex".. Just a quick reminder that it's ALWAYS okay to back out at any point.. It doesn't make you any more or less anything. If it's unpleasant, it's unpleasant. I'm just saying, because a bad experience can kind of ruin the sensual thing ^^ Which would be a shame. And just..ya know, take care? :3 But back on topic. Really, your identity is yours to decide. If you feel more comfortable identifying as demi or grey, you should totally do that. :) It sounds likely based on what you wrote, but only you know! If you guys have sex and it's great and you want more..Enjoy it^^ It's supposed to be pleasant and make you happy so don't sweat about the labels. Hmmm.. it's hard to say, really. I mean we pick a label based on our current experiences, and it's hard to tell what the future brings. Like, a person could identify as homosexual for a long time, then one day fall in love with someone of the opposite gender and realize they were bi.. ya know? From what you describe the "easiest" label might be grey-asexual? I mean, you obviosuly haven't had many experiences of sexual attraction before to have identified as asexual, and now you do for the first time. The thing is, you can't really know if it's a one-time thing or a general thing, ya know? Maybe it's just this special guy, and you're demi. Maybe you sometimes in rare cases do feel sexual attraction and you're gray. maybe you will continue to feel these things. for other people in the future etc. and figure out that you're more comfortable identifying as allosexual.. Ya know^^ It's okay..! As Sherlock Holmes said, we should use facts to build theories rather than fitting facts to preexisting theories. But like the above user also said, it's possible to not experience sexual attraction and still enjoy some sexual contact. :) Last but not least, and I know you're not asking about this, but please be careful to keep your comfort in mind when you do attempt sexual intercourse (I make it sound like a crime xD sorry!). I personally have been in the position of enjoying sensual activities, becoming aroused, and having me and my partner assume that meant I was "ready for sex".. Just a quick reminder that it's ALWAYS okay to back out at any point.. It doesn't make you any more or less anything. If it's unpleasant, it's unpleasant. I'm just saying, because a bad experience can kind of ruin the sensual thing ^^ Which would be a shame. And just..ya know, take care? :3 But back on topic. Really, your identity is yours to decide. If you feel more comfortable identifying as demi or grey, you should totally do that. :) It sounds likely based on what you wrote, but only you know! If you guys have sex and it's great and you want more..Enjoy it^^ It's supposed to be pleasant and make you happy so don't sweat about the labels. Hmmm.. it's hard to say, really. I mean we pick a label based on our current experiences, and it's hard to tell what the future brings. Like, a person could identify as homosexual for a long time, then one day fall in love with someone of the opposite gender and realize they were bi.. ya know? From what you describe the "easiest" label might be grey-asexual? I mean, you obviosuly haven't had many experiences of sexual attraction before to have identified as asexual, and now you do for the first time. The thing is, you can't really know if it's a one-time thing or a general thing, ya know? Maybe it's just this special guy, and you're demi. Maybe you sometimes in rare cases do feel sexual attraction and you're gray. maybe you will continue to feel these things. for other people in the future etc. and figure out that you're more comfortable identifying as allosexual.. Ya know^^ It's okay..! As Sherlock Holmes said, we should use facts to build theories rather than fitting facts to preexisting theories. But like the above user also said, it's possible to not experience sexual attraction and still enjoy some sexual contact. :) Last but not least, and I know you're not asking about this, but please be careful to keep your comfort in mind when you do attempt sexual intercourse (I make it sound like a crime xD sorry!). I personally have been in the position of enjoying sensual activities, becoming aroused, and having me and my partner assume that meant I was "ready for sex".. Just a quick reminder that it's ALWAYS okay to back out at any point.. It doesn't make you any more or less anything. If it's unpleasant, it's unpleasant. I'm just saying, because a bad experience can kind of ruin the sensual thing ^^ Which would be a shame. And just..ya know, take care? :3 But back on topic. Really, your identity is yours to decide. If you feel more comfortable identifying as demi or grey, you should totally do that. :) It sounds likely based on what you wrote, but only you know! If you guys have sex and it's great and you want more..Enjoy it^^ It's supposed to be pleasant and make you happy so don't sweat about the labels. Hmmm.. it's hard to say, really. I mean we pick a label based on our current experiences, and it's hard to tell what the future brings. Like, a person could identify as homosexual for a long time, then one day fall in love with someone of the opposite gender and realize they were bi.. ya know? From what you describe the "easiest" label might be grey-asexual? I mean, you obviosuly haven't had many experiences of sexual attraction before to have identified as asexual, and now you do for the first time. The thing is, you can't really know if it's a one-time thing or a general thing, ya know? Maybe it's just this special guy, and you're demi. Maybe you sometimes in rare cases do feel sexual attraction and you're gray. maybe you will continue to feel these things. for other people in the future etc. and figure out that you're more comfortable identifying as allosexual.. Ya know^^ It's okay..! As Sherlock Holmes said, we should use facts to build theories rather than fitting facts to preexisting theories. But like the above user also said, it's possible to not experience sexual attraction and still enjoy some sexual contact. :) Last but not least, and I know you're not asking about this, but please be careful to keep your comfort in mind when you do attempt sexual intercourse (I make it sound like a crime xD sorry!). I personally have been in the position of enjoying sensual activities, becoming aroused, and having me and my partner assume that meant I was "ready for sex".. Just a quick reminder that it's ALWAYS okay to back out at any point.. It doesn't make you any more or less anything. If it's unpleasant, it's unpleasant. I'm just saying, because a bad experience can kind of ruin the sensual thing ^^ Which would be a shame. And just..ya know, take care? :3 But back on topic. Really, your identity is yours to decide. If you feel more comfortable identifying as demi or grey, you should totally do that. :) It sounds likely based on what you wrote, but only you know! If you guys have sex and it's great and you want more..Enjoy it^^ It's supposed to be pleasant and make you happy so don't sweat about the labels. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
grey~wolf Posted June 26, 2015 Author Share Posted June 26, 2015 Hmmm.. it's hard to say, really. I mean we pick a label based on our current experiences, and it's hard to tell what the future brings. Like, a person could identify as homosexual for a long time, then one day fall in love with someone of the opposite gender and realize they were bi.. ya know? From what you describe the "easiest" label might be grey-asexual? I mean, you obviosuly haven't had many experiences of sexual attraction before to have identified as asexual, and now you do for the first time. The thing is, you can't really know if it's a one-time thing or a general thing, ya know? Maybe it's just this special guy, and you're demi. Maybe you sometimes in rare cases do feel sexual attraction and you're gray. maybe you will continue to feel these things. for other people in the future etc. and figure out that you're more comfortable identifying as allosexual.. Ya know^^ It's okay..! As Sherlock Holmes said, we should use facts to build theories rather than fitting facts to preexisting theories. But like the above user also said, it's possible to not experience sexual attraction and still enjoy some sexual contact. :) Last but not least, and I know you're not asking about this, but please be careful to keep your comfort in mind when you do attempt sexual intercourse (I make it sound like a crime xD sorry!). I personally have been in the position of enjoying sensual activities, becoming aroused, and having me and my partner assume that meant I was "ready for sex".. Just a quick reminder that it's ALWAYS okay to back out at any point.. It doesn't make you any more or less anything. If it's unpleasant, it's unpleasant. I'm just saying, because a bad experience can kind of ruin the sensual thing ^^ Which would be a shame. And just..ya know, take care? :3 But back on topic. Really, your identity is yours to decide. If you feel more comfortable identifying as demi or grey, you should totally do that. :) It sounds likely based on what you wrote, but only you know! If you guys have sex and it's great and you want more..Enjoy it^^ It's supposed to be pleasant and make you happy so don't sweat about the labels. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
grey~wolf Posted June 26, 2015 Author Share Posted June 26, 2015 Oop, all those were an accident. I wanted to say, in reference to all that quoting(my connection was bad), was that I have talked with my partner about my comfort levels, and we know that if I'm not ready, he will respect that and we will stop and try again when I feel ready. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Dee-Ari Posted June 26, 2015 Share Posted June 26, 2015 Haha I was wondering if my computer was the one acting up d: Good thinh you talked about it :) That's obviously very important^^ About the thing of asexual/grey-a.. huuuuh that's difficult I suppose, reading what others are writing. Maybe it's a bit of a personal preference thing? Like I assumed because I can with at least one person do sensual-sexual stuff if she initiates it, that that would make me grey..^^" But I can see the point of it being more about attraction.. Which is a hard to define thing, really.. So basically.. Maybe all could apply? I'm leaning more to grey and ace perhaps, since I think if you were demi you would feel more explicitly attracted to him. Maybe. probably xD Arghj Quote Link to post Share on other sites
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