calling all tom boys!

[Skycaptain]

Thank you everyone. As somebody who has "dangly bits" can I just thank you all for the entertainment that this thread has provided. I give you all a large portion of for your contributions

[Hypergraph]

....and don't get me onto shoes!!!!! What's with the shoes???? Who needs all those shoes?

OMG, the shoes! I must have a pair in periwinkle to go with my other 300 pairs! And I'd mortgage my house for a pair of Manolo Blahniks or Christian Louboutins!

Really?

I'm sorry, but I could never understand American women's fascination with having a million pairs of expensive shoes that are impossible to walk in. Then again, I can't understand the practice of foot binding, either (or the idea that it produces beautiful feet).

Is it status, or sexual, or both?

[HomeBirdJen]

Hello fellow tomboys-so I finally updated my wardrobe with lots of "menswear". I use inverted commas because I should just say clothes, right? But I bought them all in the men's section of the stores I went in-oh apart from ONE pair of black jeans. I wore some stuff out in public last night-to be fair I was alone & sat in the cinema all eveing, but it did feel good to be wearing stuff that I finally felt like myself in. I felt a lot more confident. That's saying something I guess.

Don't know where I was going with this post really, just wanted to contribute.

[UncommonNonsense]

I'm a tomboy. Always have been.

When I was about 4, I wanted my parents to stop calling me by my female birth-name and instead call me by a boy's name. Dad played along. Mum freaked out.

I've hated dresses since I was a toddler. As soon as I was tall enough to reach the drawer that held the knives and scissors, my solution to Mum buying dresses and making me wear them was to turn them into shredded rags as soon as Mum brought them into the house. When Mum hid all the scissors and knives, I made use of the car's dirty wheel wells, the muddy spot right under my swing, and the various bottles of motor oil Dad kept in the shed. Finally, Mum got tired of paying high prices for rags and stopped buying me dresses.

Now, all my clothes are men's clothes. I like loose, baggy clothing. I loathe bras and either go without or use a soft, rather loose cotton one if I can't get away without it. I also always choose dark solid colours like black, navy, dark green, and charcoal grey for all my shirts, trousers, and coats. I own a few men's button-downs that I wear over t-shirts, and two of those have stripes, but nothing else I own has prints. I do have a few t's that have silk screened pictures or text, but no patterns.

I own three pairs of shoes and one pair of winter boots. One pair of sneakers/running shoes. One pair of steel-toed black shoes for work. One pair of crocs for gardening. That's it.

I don't do makeup at all. To me, makeup makes my skin feel like I just swam through an oil slick. I have rosacea, so my skin is red and blotchy, but my aversion to the gross feel of cosmetics is so strong that even my severely uneven skin tone won't make me use it. I may have long hair in my avatar pic, but I only grew it so I could donate it in order to pay back after a family member lost her hair due to a major, nearly fatal illness. My hair is now quite short, the way I have always worn it. I don't dye it (yeah, that's my natural colour), and I let my grey hairs show.

My glasses are a women's style, but only because I have short temples and could not find a masculine style small enough that could handle the thickness of my lenses (yeah, my vision sucks). I chose a very plain style.

I wear a men's digital watch and three men's rings. I also wear two women's rings. I do not have pierced ears. I don't wear necklaces.

I never played with dolls. In fact, I had a pronounced phobia/disgust for dolls.. Specifically, the flat, dead eyes and creepy, static facial expression. I didn't have the same problem with the much smaller GIJoe and Star Wars action figures though, and I loved those! I watched cartoons marketed towards boys or towards both genders, but I steadfastly avoided any that were meant for girls. To me, girl cartoons like Strawberry Shortcake and Jem were boring, insipid, and stupid. I also really hated the colours assiciated with girls toys, clothing, and tv/movies. Pink and pastel tones. Yuck!

[jay williams]

Good for you. I have always liked women with an androgynous or tomboy appearance. Perhaps my gray-asexual nature is the reason? I seldom find makeup/mascara attractive---and usually view it as some kind of gaudy look. Also, the frequent look of showing cleavage or letting "it all hang out" is not at all appealing to me. Also, a woman does not look like she would be comfortable if she looks like she is trussed with a bra.

I'm a tomboy. Always have been.
When I was about 4, I wanted my parents to stop calling me by my female birth-name and instead call me by a boy's name. Dad played along. Mum freaked out.

I've hated dresses since I was a toddler. As soon as I was tall enough to reach the drawer that held the knives and scissors, my solution to Mum buying dresses and making me wear them was to turn them into shredded rags as soon as Mum brought them into the house. When Mum hid all the scissors and knives, I made use of the car's dirty wheel wells, the muddy spot right under my swing, and the various bottles of motor oil Dad kept in the shed. Finally, Mum got tired of paying high prices for rags and stopped buying me dresses.

Now, all my clothes are men's clothes. I like loose, baggy clothing. I loathe bras and either go without or use a soft, rather loose cotton one if I can't get away without it. I also always choose dark solid colours like black, navy, dark green, and charcoal grey for all my shirts, trousers, and coats. I own a few men's button-downs that I wear over t-shirts, and two of those have stripes, but nothing else I own has prints. I do have a few t's that have silk screened pictures or text, but no patterns.
I own three pairs of shoes and one pair of winter boots. One pair of sneakers/running shoes. One pair of steel-toed black shoes for work. One pair of crocs for gardening. That's it.
I don't do makeup at all. To me, makeup makes my skin feel like I just swam through an oil slick. I have rosacea, so my skin is red and blotchy, but my aversion to the gross feel of cosmetics is so strong that even my severely uneven skin tone won't make me use it. I may have long hair in my avatar pic, but I only grew it so I could donate it in order to pay back after a family member lost her hair due to a major, nearly fatal illness. My hair is now quite short, the way I have always worn it. I don't dye it (yeah, that's my natural colour), and I let my grey hairs show.
My glasses are a women's style, but only because I have short temples and could not find a masculine style small enough that could handle the thickness of my lenses (yeah, my vision sucks). I chose a very plain style.
I wear a men's digital watch and three men's rings. I also wear two women's rings. I do not have pierced ears. I don't wear necklaces.

I never played with dolls. In fact, I had a pronounced phobia/disgust for dolls.. Specifically, the flat, dead eyes and creepy, static facial expression. I didn't have the same problem with the much smaller GIJoe and Star Wars action figures though, and I loved those! I watched cartoons marketed towards boys or towards both genders, but I steadfastly avoided any that were meant for girls. To me, girl cartoons like Strawberry Shortcake and Jem were boring, insipid, and stupid. I also really hated the colours assiciated with girls toys, clothing, and tv/movies. Pink and pastel tones. Yuck!

[DeathCanoeIV]

A few weeks late to the party, but posting with hopes that it picks back up.

I was definitely a tomboy when I was younger and have had a lot of the same experiences several people here have mentioned. I was often mistaken for a boy as a kid (before I hit puberty and got boobs). I remember one particularly embarrassing incident when another kid asked me if I was a boy or girl around several other children, and in my anxious state, my mouth got ahead of my brain and blurted out "BOY!" Ran away crying from that one, but I laugh at it now.

I dressed almost exclusively in t-shirts and jeans until I got my first job out of college. I couldn't stand the thought of being uncomfortable for the better part of my day five days a week. So, I invested time into finding clothes that I liked wearing and fit my new dress code. It was not easy, but what I did find, I've now adopted as my style. It's still pretty masculine, but as someone else has pointed out, that's kind of in right now - not just with hobbies and interests, but with clothing also. So, I wear a lot of button ups with black or colored pants (and pullover sweaters in the colder months), but it's more form-fitting than the tees and jeans I used to wear. Definitely not skin tight, but just... well fit? And I also have an obsession with shoes. I rotate about six or seven regularly, but have two or three more for specific activities (i.e. basketball shoes and hiking boots). So, I guess you could say I have a stereotypically "girly" (I also hate that word) obsession with clothes and shoes in the sense that I actually think about and care what I put on now, but I execute it in a masculine style.

[Erasmvs]

I'm a teen so idk if it's ok to post in the "Older Forums". But anyway, here's my story...

When I was a little kid I never knew what's the difference between boys and girls. I only knew girls wear pink and have long hair and boys wear dark colours and have short hair. I was dressed up pretty gender-neutral by my family, nothing too girly. When I was in elementary school I remember that I always wanted to pee by standing, I even tried it once, it was fun! xD My family was worried, like a lot.

As I was growing up and learning more about girls and boys, I chose to dress in blue, green and gray (I wasn't allowed to wear black back then). I had a phase when I was really girly and wore pink and other girly stuff. I even exaggerated a bit, like wearing incredibly colourful stuff and smiley earrings, but then I had an accident back when I was 12 or 13, I had my hand operated, not sure if I almost died or not, but I fell in depression and started to wear black. I feel lucky I had that accident I mean, my hand has some ugly scars still, but it changed me and who I am, and now I am calmer and down to Earth than ever. I chose this dark/emo style before I knew the term, then once I saw a photo of some emo people, and I decided that was me. Then I called myself many labels, like scene, goth, emo, vintage, and even tomboy in the end. I liked wearing casual stuff, but wore skirts too. I still have my "emo" hair but I don't consider myself an emo.

People always told me I look like a guy, since I know myself. I didn't take hormones, didn't wear anything like makeup to change my face, I just look like a bloke. I'm tall, I have big black eyebrows and a gender-neutral face. (If you want pictures of me, PM me.) I started to enjoy it, I love attention, but I'm not an attention whore (I only posted two pictures of myself on Facebook, and I was on FB for 3-4 years!!)

It wasn't until last year I cut my hair and only wore mens clothing. This year I started to use mens shampoo and deodorant, it's great. Now I'm thinking about becoming more girly, because many people suggest I can't attract men with this style. Many people thought I was a lesbian or a guy, even trans, and I get bullied by strangers for my gender-neutral looks. I also consider myself a skater (like skater-looks, but I also have a skateboard - only ride it, no tricks sry) and wear band-tees/darker stuff/camo print skirts (I want some pants as well). So that's my story I guess hehe. I'm weird, I know.. xD

[Erasmvs]

I would also like to add, that when I dress girly, no matter how deviant I look (cut-out shirts and big hair, extreme eyeliner, mini-skirt), no one looks at me, but when I dress in gray, no makeup or anything, just jeans, sneaks, hoodie, everyone stares and bullies me. Why is that?

[Agent Rainbow]

I am such a tomboy. I HATE dresses and skirts, makeup makes no sense, girly shoes are terrible, generally, I like to avoid anything girly(which, thanks to my mom, is hard to do.) Jeans, a plain shirt, and a hoodie is my go-to outfit every day(except in warm weather). Short shorts, sparkles, and tight clothes are a no-no. I would much rather wear boyish clothes. I never really played with dolls; I prefered playing with Star Wars LEGOs.I love video games, and comic books. Just a couple of weeks ago, I got my first pair of converse and I am never going back to wearing gym shoes as normal shoes. The pair of vans I wanted were "too skater chick" according to my brother and mom(THAT'S THE POINT, MA!) I seriously want short hair(touching my shoulders at the longest), but no one else agrees with me on that. I hate girly colors, and I am the tomboy in my friend group. I guess I'm a cisgender boyish girl. Thanks for making this topic!

P.S: I don't quite fit into the "older" part, but if Collins can type here, I can too!

[blondie12]

I just wanted to say: tomboys unite! Lol sorry just had to say it......:)

[Kalyke]

Hi Tomboys! I guess I am, and I am very tall too. I have always considered myself a tomboy. At one time I considered going out with women, but I realized that I was not interested in Sex with women either. I like to hang out with evolved people though, which ever the gender or sex. In recent times since leggings and jeggings have been around, I have liked wearing them instead of jeans. Jeans material is too thick. I like having stretch and freedom. I also would rather have long hair. I think it is because I am very tall and I have been threatened by men in cars when I have dared to cut my hair short. In the early 90's I had a short hair cut, because it was popular at that time, and I got things thrown at me a lot because I guess if you don't fit the standards, or conform you are seen as a terrible person. I also get weirdos asking if I have had a sex change operation. Like, was I born female?

So, I always took jobs that struck others as "male." I worked in theater set construction, I was a museum sculptor and carpenter, I was in the army as a soldier, I worked in Newspaper production (press side), and I am a sculptor. My hobbies are and were things that relate to nature and DYI. I am into terrariums, and fish tanks too! My job is Educator now, so that is not gender identified but is more female than male identified.

[aname]

A few years ago, I was at the bakery with my mother, and a cute little girl who was leaving touched my forearm and said "this boy is soft" while touching my arm XD

I have to admit I was embarrassed at first but now I couldn't care less. It's true my forearm is soft though :')

I like plain and large t-shirts that I mostly buy either in sports-focused shops or in the men section, I find clothes showing cleavages gross. Make-up, tweezers, razors... still looking for the definition lol

My vision of the thing is that I don't nee all of these things to be a women. I am the women I want to be, final dot.

May the tom-boys live long! :p

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I find clothes showing cleavages gross.

me too, i mean... WHY?!

i dont even have a cleavage lol

[aname]

I find clothes showing cleavages gross.

me too, i mean... WHY?!

i dont even have a cleavage lol

I do have one though xD

I don't get why women would show this part of their body, except to get some fresh air during summer :')

[Kalyke]

I find clothes showing cleavages gross.

me too, i mean... WHY?!

i dont even have a cleavage lol

I do have one though xD

I don't get why women would show this part of their body, except to get some fresh air during summer :')

I still totally wish we could take our shirts off like the guys get to. It is a total culture construct that it is legal that they go around shirtless, yet illegal when a woman does it.

[aname]

I find clothes showing cleavages gross.

me too, i mean... WHY?!

i dont even have a cleavage lol

I do have one though xD

I don't get why women would show this part of their body, except to get some fresh air during summer :')

I still totally wish we could take our shirts off like the guys get to. It is a total culture construct that it is legal that they go around shirtless, yet illegal when a woman does it.

Actually, both are illegal in my country (except at the beach) which is for the better, but it's true shirtless men are tolerated.

[3seven6]

Total tomboy, I'm known for pretty much always wearing black, flat shoes only, mascara for weddings and that's as far as I go with make up. My hair has to be a short 'wash and go' style and I don't understand how my best friend can take 2 hours getting ready just to go shopping. My one concession is my nails which I like painted, but I can't have them long, I don't know how people do anything with long nails.

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[BadWolfGallifrey]

While my mum was pregnant with me she got a lot of ultrasounds to try and figure out my sex, they didn't find out I was female until the day I was born because I apparently wouldnt let them see. XD I was raised extremely feminine, dresses and pink and frills everywhere. When I got old enough to actually pick out my own clothes to buy, my wardrobe slowly got darker and more masculine. :P I love, love, love button up shirts and black pants. My normal clothes are more often jeans, some sort of tee, my Vans, and my black leather jacket that is somehow both masculine and feminine depending on what I wear underneath. I only wear dresses when I have to. My hair is long but I'm getting it cut very soon. Make up is horrid and I only carry a purse because most women's jeans have either very small pockets or no pockets all together.

Seriously though, what's the deal with eyebrows??? I don't get it! >_<

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most women's jeans have either very small pockets or no pockets all together.

argh whos stupid idea was this! men get big practical pockets to carry stuff in + ours are useless! (if they are there at all)

[Karanna]

Hello fellow tomboys. As far as I can remember I always played with boys and their toys. I found boys toy far more interesting than what was produced for girls. I remember, I think I was about 5 or 6 my parents bought me a baby doll and pram. It stood in the corner of my room for years, I never played with it. When I did pick up the baby doll I would ask myself "what are you doing" and drop it back in the pram. Never liked make-up though I did try it could not get it off quick enough. lol I preferred long pants and barefoot. But now I have put to much weight on so I were loose dresses now. And they are much cooler in summer. Shoes, well one or two pairs is all I need :) how can you wear 20 pairs of shoes? that is the amount some woman have.

As a young girl you would most of the time find me in the garage watching my dad work with tools. Or fixing the car, I found it far more interesting than doing sawing, embroidery with my mother. Though I do do those girly, lady things as well. Anything that involves creating something with my hands I like to do. From wood work to baking a cake which has the extra benefit of been able to eat it! :)