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Lord Jade Cross

Ironic since I answered to another similar thread just a little bit ago but, for the past month I re-encountered a girl whom I first saw about 3 or so years ago while working at a summer job. I always thought she looked pretty and she hasn't changed at all since then and I still find myself looking at her. Though nothing more than that. I guess I just appreciate her looks but it makes me feel somewhat odd for some reason.

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LucyFernandez

Maybe you really just like her looks. Or maybe you unconsciously connect a positive feeling from back then with seeing her again?

Of course it could be some kind of weak romantic attraction. But I guess you don't have to worry about it too much.

Either something will happen or it won't~

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Lord Jade Cross

Don't know. I have a hard time deciphering the difference between attractions, aside that I very rarely feel them. I don't have a, I guess I can call it, willingness to pursue any type of personal relationships either. I don't know, it just feels weird to be feeling this.

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Other than romantic, the following attractions can be felt platonically and in different combinations. They are also typically felt with romantic attraction but don't have to be to make it valid.

· Romantic attraction- without the other attractions present and all the variations in intensity and wants and unwants that are possible in a romantic relationship, it's left up to an emotion, and emotions don't translate well into words so it's then left up to your own interpretation if they're platonic, romantic, or queerplatonic (QP). Some people have a physical reaction to the feeling (i.e. butterflies in your stomach, etc,) and others don't. Other threads have tried to put it into words but always came back to it being platonically applicable or too vague. But it at least involves soft/fuzzy feelings and a fixation which can differ in intensity by person.

· Aesthetic attraction- a fixation on someone because of their looks and or mannerisms; having a pull to look at them. It is different from recognizing good looks/what is "aesthetically pleasing" with no fixation. This does not mean a romantic or platonic relationship is desired but attractions can be felt with other attractions.

· Sensual attraction- an urge to have non-sexual physical contact; to cuddle, hold hands, etc. Platonically displaying this more than the norm can qualify as a type of queerplatonic relationship (QPR). This would probably only differ from romantic sensual attraction with chaste kissing and be best compared to the same desired display toward a pet. But this word is typically applied toward other humans.

· Emotional attraction- a fixation on someone because of their emotions; and by extent, personality; how they are stoic, optimistic, etc. I would compare it to admirance or a favorite character. This does not mean a romantic or platonic relationship is desired but attractions can be felt with other attractions.

· Platonic attraction- a strong desire to know or befriend someone (aka squish; a play on the romantic word crush, but a desire to know someone is also typically felt with romantic attraction). Many Aromantics misinterpreted this as romantic attraction before knowing their orientation. Romantics and Aromantics can have squishes.

I've noticed that people who say they can't tell the difference between attractions just feel them at the same time. People are different so if your norm is to feel two at the same time then that's fine. Also, you can find someone charming while not having romantic attraction. Perhaps looking up its definition would help expose the difference.

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Lord Jade Cross

Out of the list I can take out without a second thought, platonic, emotional and sensual as I don't find myself wanting to know the girl or engage in any physical ,whether sensual or sexual, action. I only see her from afar. We don't really engage in conversations or anything friendly either.

That would leave romantic and aesthetic, at least by definition. But I don't feel any butterflies/fuzzy feelings, etc. However there would seem to be some sort of fixation, which applies to both romantic and aesthetic.

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