Calamity Jim Posted June 25, 2015 Share Posted June 25, 2015 snip This is mine No offence, but if I saw this on the middle finger of someone's right hand, I wouldn't recognise it as an ace ring. That's kinda elitist. :( How is it elitist behavior when I state observed ambiguity in a symbol? Because you are, however unintentionally, disqualifying my symbol's validity because you, as an asexual, wouldn't see it as an ace ring. That means that my ring doesn't qualify by some standard as to being a true ace ring because its too ambiguous. And this is a very personal purchase that was hard to make because I have health issues in my hands, so buying a ring is not a simple task for me. Being told that I didn't do it quite right stings, a lot and, you couldn't have known this, it plays into a lot of issues I have with having poor hands and how they disqualify me from doing a lot of things that most people can do, like wear tungsten. Link to post Share on other sites
Rwkropf Posted June 25, 2015 Share Posted June 25, 2015 snip This is mine No offence, but if I saw this on the middle finger of someone's right hand, I wouldn't recognise it as an ace ring. That's kinda elitist. :( How is it elitist behavior when I state observed ambiguity in a symbol? Because you are, however unintentionally, disqualifying my symbol's validity because you, as an asexual, wouldn't see it as an ace ring. That means that my ring doesn't qualify by some standard as to being a true ace ring because its too ambiguous. And this is a very personal purchase that was hard to make because I have health issues in my hands, so buying a ring is not a simple task for me. Being told that I didn't do it quite right stings, a lot and, you couldn't have known this, it plays into a lot of issues I have with having poor hands and how they disqualify me from doing a lot of things that most people can do, like wear tungsten. As you said, I couldn't have known the health issues. Seeing as I don't have health issues, would something like ball bearings inside of the ring help? As for the reason that I said it was ambigious was because it is easy to mistake it for something that isn't an ace ring. I have met people before who wear rings similar to yours on the middle finger of the right hand, and have denied being ace, but if you want to see it as an ace ring, I'm not going to stop you. Link to post Share on other sites
Relle Posted June 26, 2015 Share Posted June 26, 2015 I really dig the amethyst and black rhodium. I'm a bit touchy about my ring because I can't wear most materials available in black. I'm pretty arthritic in my hands, so things like tungsten and hematite are too heavy, and stainless steel and cobalt can't be cut off which poses a serious risk with how much swelling I can deal with in a flare up, plus the weird swoosh in my band gives me enough wiggle room to get my ring off when my hands do start to swell. Black rhodium isn't much of a thing where I live, so once the rhodium wore off I'd still have a silver ring and wouldn't be able to get it re-done. I figured just going for a black stone was basically my only option. And it still stings to hear that my ace ring isn't ace enough for people to notice, partly because it rubs in that I can't wear the same type of rings as many of you because of a health condition. It feels a lot like being disqualified because I have a digimon instead of a pokemon. Thank you! I really like it. (Though I am afraid of the rhodium wearing off, like you mentioned. :x ) Some people get plain silver (or other metal) rings and paint them black with nail polish. If you wanted a second ace ring for all your ace bling needs, you could so that. On a related note, have you seen this video? I'm not sure if you'll find it helpful, but I found it interesting. I understand that it stings, and I would never try to discount the way you feel or tell you not to be upset. I just wanted you to know that his comment was not intended to be hurtful. To be honest, I can't recognize anyone's ring as an ace ring, since I can't see that far,* so, when it comes to me, you're the same as everyone else. (I mean that in a good way!) *I'm legally blind and use a white cane to help me get around. I can only maybe see jewelry positioned less than two feet away from me and withing my narrow field of vision. Link to post Share on other sites
gayasanaro Posted July 3, 2015 Share Posted July 3, 2015 I have two that I got recently, but I'm on mobile so I can't post pics. One is made with little me write beads on an elastic band with a purple bead in the center - not 100% black so might not be recognized as an ace ring by some definitions, but meh. I wear this one for most casual situations. My other one is for more formal situations, partially because it looks better for that kind of thing and also because it's cheap so I can't wear it all the time lest the paint were to wear off. It has a rhinestone or cz or some kind of white gem or pseudo gem at the center in a heart shape - probably a bit more recognizable because the main color is still black, and as a romantic ace the heart shaped center works for me.That's okay, mine has a black band and a silver thing in the middle.I also have an aro ace necklace - a silver archer's bow (like the symbol of Artemis, Apollo, and Athena, all of whom I share queer identities with) with an arrow, on a braided black, purple, and white chain. I have two purple and black macrame bracelets with handmade white and silver beads, and a black, purple, white, and silver macrame necklace. I made all my queer pride jewelry myself, including the beads on my bracelet and my necklace pendant. And I have a bi pride bracelet (gray-ace, sexually attracted to multiple genders when I do feel attraction), a rainbow bracelet, a genderqueer pride bracelet, a trans pride bracelet, and a white ring for aroflux. And I knitted myself an aro pride scarf. Link to post Share on other sites
Lover Of Cats And Cake Posted July 12, 2015 Share Posted July 12, 2015 I wear my ring all the time! Mine's just plain black, so I can wear it with just about every outfit. I also wear a gold ace of spades ring with it sometimes. Link to post Share on other sites
LeaveOnYourColours Posted July 12, 2015 Share Posted July 12, 2015 I bought two in Palma de Mallorca while I was there. One is a little too loose and has silver and black and the other is a little snug and is just wooden and black. For the wooden one, I think I'll mostly wear that one with just a layer of lotion or oil under to make sure I can take it off when I want to. So it's left middle for romantics and right middle for aromantics? Does cupio count as aro? Link to post Share on other sites
Lost247365 Posted July 12, 2015 Share Posted July 12, 2015 So it's left middle for romantics and right middle for aromantics? Does cupio count as aro? I think so, but I am not sure. I believe cupio is a type of aromanticism based upon the link in the AP signature and this. Link to post Share on other sites
Confusion 0 Posted July 12, 2015 Share Posted July 12, 2015 I didn't even know the thing about black rings until I found this site. I definitely need one though :D Link to post Share on other sites
Amy Ghost Posted July 12, 2015 Author Share Posted July 12, 2015 So it's left middle for romantics and right middle for aromantics? Does cupio count as aro? I think so, but I am not sure. I believe cupio is a type of aromanticism based upon the link in the AP signature and this. I had no idea there was a distinction. I thought it always the right middle finger and that it says Asexual, nothing more :O Link to post Share on other sites
Rwkropf Posted July 12, 2015 Share Posted July 12, 2015 So it's left middle for romantics and right middle for aromantics? Does cupio count as aro? I think so, but I am not sure. I believe cupio is a type of aromanticism based upon the link in the AP signature and this. I had no idea there was a distinction. I thought it always the right middle finger and that it says Asexual, nothing more :o Same here, I just simply thought it was right middle finger to symbolize asexuality. Link to post Share on other sites
Lost247365 Posted July 12, 2015 Share Posted July 12, 2015 I don't know for sure. I keep on reading different things.One place it will say it ALWAYS the right hand because the left hand means you are a "swinger," and here I see people saying right hand=aromantic and left hand=romantic orientations.I get the feeling that the rules really haven't been set in stone yet and different people are proposing different things. Seeing as in my culture the left hand is for marriage the left hand for romantic orientations idea makes sense to me. Link to post Share on other sites
Gonzo79 Posted July 13, 2015 Share Posted July 13, 2015 I've got a hematite ring but I wear it on my left thumb, basically cos that's where it feels comfortable and I have an immovable ring already on my right mid finger (damn those cakes!!) Yeah so it's not technically black, and meh it's not on the right finger - it makes me feel good to have it. I went out and bought it literally just a few days after I found AVEN and have been wearing it with pride ever since (incorrectly but still, it's the thought that counts) ;) This isn't 'it' but it's pretty much exactly the same Link to post Share on other sites
Archived Posted July 13, 2015 Share Posted July 13, 2015 This is my ring: http://www.ebay.com/itm/like/291077150878?lpid=82&chn=ps It's not fully black but I still like it. There's a pic of me wearing it on my profile. I rarely take it off unless I'm bored and I just play with it. I currently have my eye on these two though, preferably the first: http://www.amazon.com/Stainless-Comfort-Black-Wedding-Band/dp/B00H22R5FW/ref=sr_1_12?s=apparel&ie=UTF8&qid=1436761422&sr=1-12&keywords=black+band+ring http://www.amazon.com/KONOV-Jewelry-Polished-Stainless-Unisex/dp/B008F7TP38/ref=cm_cr_pr_product_top?ie=UTF8 Link to post Share on other sites
Dodecahedron314 Posted July 14, 2015 Share Posted July 14, 2015 Mine broke and my beading supplies are on the other side of the country for the next month, so looks like I need to find something else, because constantly drawing on my right middle finger with a ballpoint pen will probably get old pretty fast. -_- Link to post Share on other sites
asinglecookie Posted July 14, 2015 Share Posted July 14, 2015 I have a black hematite ring- similar to those already posted. I don't wear it all the time, but I do wear it on the 'wrong' finger (my ring finger of my left hand). To me it's symbolic, because I used to really want to get married- not for marriage itself- but because I was raised in a culture where marriage was the ultimate 'end goal', and being a spinster was the worst thing you could be. Even though I hated being in relationships/anything physical, I was convinced I would just have to 'get on with it'. Now I know I'm an ace. I see it as a reminder of the choice I've made to never have a relationship/get married- painful at times, but at least I'm being true to myself. Link to post Share on other sites
ulasaw Posted July 15, 2015 Share Posted July 15, 2015 Hello, new here.. anyway, I've worn black rings for years, and now I realize why they appealed to me so much! heh Most of mine are Stainless Steel which is very cheap, hypo-allergenic, non-tarnishing and well...just plain cool! Amazon has them as well as hsn.com or qvc.com. Can someone tell me what ACE actually stands for? Is it an acronym for three seperate words? It's a relief to find this website as I have felt this way my whole life. thanks Link to post Share on other sites
asinglecookie Posted July 15, 2015 Share Posted July 15, 2015 Hello, new here.. anyway, I've worn black rings for years, and now I realize why they appealed to me so much! heh Most of mine are Stainless Steel which is very cheap, hypo-allergenic, non-tarnishing and well...just plain cool! Amazon has them as well as hsn.com or qvc.com. Can someone tell me what ACE actually stands for? Is it an acronym for three seperate words? It's a relief to find this website as I have felt this way my whole life. thanks Hi Newbie. Good to meet you, and welcome. I know what you mean about fitting in- I'm fairly new myself, and I finally feel like I can breathe here! Ace/ACE is just an slang abbreviation of 'asexual'- hope that helps! Link to post Share on other sites
acelera Posted July 28, 2015 Share Posted July 28, 2015 I got mine today :) http://www.korumaailma.fi/kirurginteras_sormus_8_mm_glossy_mirror_polished_black_ip_dome_band_ring Link to post Share on other sites
DannyFenton123 Posted July 28, 2015 Share Posted July 28, 2015 Mine (and the rest of my arm because I don't have my phone with me to take a decent individual photo at the moment, and besides, you can clearly see ace flag colours in some of my bracelets. I'm not subtle.) It's glass, large, and has a fair amount of colouring in it but it's still mostly black. Link to post Share on other sites
aventura Posted July 29, 2015 Share Posted July 29, 2015 I want this one so bad!!!! IT'S BEAUTIFUL! Link to post Share on other sites
Unlabeled Posted July 29, 2015 Share Posted July 29, 2015 OP, walk back and forth in front of a highschool parking lots as school lets out. As teens texting while driving crash into you you'll swear you're invisible. :) Link to post Share on other sites
what fine marble Posted July 29, 2015 Share Posted July 29, 2015 I love rings, but my fingers are TINY. I have two silver rings I wear on my index fingers usually, getting anything for my smaller fingers is incredibly hard, but I was motivated to try! The above is a H 1/2 size ring I got, thinking it would be the right size. It would be, but for my damnably crooked middle finger knuckles! It fits the left middle finger perfectly but requires a bit of persuasion (in the form of soap...) to go on the right, which had to be the bendier knuckle, of course. After crossing that tricky bit, it fits just fine. Really pleased with it otherwise, I love the pattern because it makes it shiny in the light. I'm sure no one I meet will ever recognise its meaning, but I'm fine with that, I'm not out to make a statement with it. I just like rings and happen to be asexual ^_^ Link to post Share on other sites
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