Hannah97 Posted June 20, 2015 Share Posted June 20, 2015 Hello everyone! I hope you can help me try to understand my sexuality because I have no clue. Ill tell you my story. Thirteen year old me was the most homophobic person you would ever meet. I didn't accept any couple other than straight and was mortified to see a gay couple kiss. When union J were on X factor I thought one of the band members looked really nice. He later came out to be gay. He was the first gay man I thought looked nice but certainly not the last! This confused me because every man I liked seemed to be gay. I have always looked up to older women but that was because I thought they were prettier than me. All the women I like the look of are straight. So why gay men and straight women?! I have only ever kissed one person and it didn't feel natural or right at all. I am a virgin but I do masturbate. I like the look of people but I don't think id ever act on anything. If anyone can make any sense of that, it would be great :) Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Archon Posted June 20, 2015 Share Posted June 20, 2015 Only you can figure out what your sexuality is. I can try to give a suggestion or two, but I can only go off of what you wrote here. Have you ever felt sexually attracted to anyone? In other words, have you ever met someone you wanted to do sexual things with? If not, you might be asexual, or on the spectrum if you have only felt sexual attraction rarely. Liking "the look of people" is not the same thing. Enjoying the looks of someone is aesthetic attraction, which does not necessarily involve sexual (or romantic) attraction. Think of aesthetic attraction as the feeling you get when you look at a sunset. It's nice to look at, but that doesn't mean you want to be sexually or romantically involved with the sunset, right? Also, whether or not you masturbate does not determine your sexual orientation. Some asexuals masturbate, some don't. Like I said, only you can say for sure what you are. Welcome to AVEN! Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Archon Posted June 21, 2015 Share Posted June 21, 2015 I was just looking over my comment and I realized that I didn't explain the difference between sexual and romantic attraction, and I left out some other types of attraction too. So here's the handy attraction graphic you might see elsewhere on this site which might help clarify things. Let me know if you have any other questions. :) Quote Link to post Share on other sites
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