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What's Your Story?(Sex-Favoroable Aces)

  

235 members have voted

  1. 1. Are you currently sexually active?

    • Yes
      148
    • No
      448
  2. 2. How often do you think of sex?

    • Often
      105
    • Sometimes
      262
    • Rarely
      190
    • Never
      39


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GLRDT   
GLRDT

Well crap. I always did suck at tests. I just failed this two question test because I read the second question wrong. Ha ha. Oh well.

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Lovelykat   
Lovelykat

I would call myself a sex-favorable ace I suppose. While I don't really experience sexual desire, I do experience sexual curiosity with most new partners. After the initial curiosity is satisfied however, I have little or no desire for anything.

 

When I do engage in sexual activity, I can find it enjoyable for a number of reasons...

-I like to make my partner happy 

-the feeling of relaxation afterwards

-feeling desirable and attractive

-feeling confident and in control 

 

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jaymes   
jaymes
On 20/06/2017 at 4:13 AM, humansanity said:

I'm aromantic and asexual but have a present (although I think less than most sexual people, although it's hard to tell) sex drive. But since I'm aromantic, I've never had a regular sexual partner. I also have trouble with hook ups because I'm not a party/bar person and I've never been comfortable trying regular dating apps because a) matches tend to be based on sexual attraction, which I don't experience, so I'd just be running off of a general societal notion of "attractive", and b) I'm always worried if I start talking to someone they could develop romantic feelings for me which I could never reciprocate, and that's unfair to them. Anyone have advice on how to deal with this or find understanding hook-ups?

I relate so much. Like, sometimes i want to have relationships and stuff but circumstances make it impossible, also for all the reasons you listed. And i definitely don't understand hook-ups and flirts, it's just all weird to me, sorry i can't help with this .-.:cake:

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Deus Ex Infinity   
Deus Ex Infinity

I had two serious relationships in total. One for each of my two separated lifes. That's it. I won't seek out for anything new till my next life since I'm 100% loyal to my chosen RL (ex-) soulmate. I still use to experience sexual attraction on rare occasions though but only for about 1-2 days a year. No big deal really.

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Echohawk   
Echohawk
On 6/19/2015 at 1:12 PM, Spectre/Ex/Machina said:

Im interested in the experiences and stories of Sex-Favorable Asexuals (Cupiosexuals).

This is my previous thread relating to this topic:

http://www.asexuality.org/en/topic/120292-sex-favorable-ace-erasure/

Well, in the 4 years since my divorce, I've discovered how little import I place on sex or sexuality in my life, have grown to be quite happy in my Hobbit-Hole, and couldn't be happier whenever someone tells me they've got a partner (On my last employment contract I connected on a profound Geek level with a woman half my age, and when she "casually slipped" her boyfriend into the convo, I was fucking RELIEVED...because that meant I could relate to her on a fan-to-fan level.)

 

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Tiger-Lily   
Tiger-Lily

I'm sex favourable I think. If it was down to me then I think I'd rather not do it, but occasionally it can be nice, and I won't complain if my partner instigates it.

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kumiko_itoe89   
kumiko_itoe89

The term gray-asexual is so new to me...... Just got introduced to it today and it seems to fit what I am. Cupiosexual? Wow! There are a whole lot more terms now compared to when I was here 12 years ago!

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Imsoconfusedughgoshdarnit   
Imsoconfusedughgoshdarnit

My story with being a sex favourable ace has been kinda frustrating. Because I was never repulsed by sex and even liked sex to an extent I felt uncomfortable labeling myself as an asexual and as a result, it took a lot of research before I was comfortable. 

 

I have determined that feel almost no sexual attraction but I am all about sensual and aesthetic attraction. For me this means I enjoy the intimacy of sex related acts such as licking, sucking, or grinding, and I am more than happy to give my partner sexual pleasure orally, with my fingers and by insertion. (I think I might need Viagra to stay hard though).

The one hang up I have right now is with handjobs and blowjobs because I don't get aroused and don't feel anything. (Definitely annoying and a bit awkward the first time I got a blowjob because it went on for twenty minutes before we just gave up; nervous to try again).

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Akhin   
Akhin

Well, putting myself on the spot, I've a pretty confused relationship with sex.
Like I was talking to this (really cool, despite how I make her sound here,) about it. She suggested I'd just never had good sex, but I corrected her. I've had pulse pounding, mind blowing, wouldn't-care-if-I-died sex. Just once or twice though. The rest of my sex life has been getting into bed with someone and when it went well it is an experience comparable to how I feel about lasagne, it's nice but it's not something I need. Alternatively, just a feeling of relief and closeness that is the reason I'll still give it a shot if it lands on my lap and I'm in the mood to try.

I remember explaining to my first serious partner when she was telling me about how sex made her feel (and this was the person with whom I had a couple of great encounters with) and me being only able to answer with "I like this, but I can get this at home on my own. I just want to do this with you, that's what I love"

I do find body types attractive. I think it's a sensual thing because partnered sex is a lottery for me. I like making out. Sex (penetrative, oral or digital) feels numb or empty, but orgasm is pleasant if I can remain aroused long enough.

 

I will say I've never quite reconciled my enjoyment of Porn or the fact that I find people's bodies attractive in concept with even the vague blanket term 'Grey-A' for context, but the end results suggest something is up and soul searching for the year since my initial posts here haven't really offered me another answer. Take my contribution to this topic with a pinch of salt, I'm afraid I'm not able to commit to anything yet, lol.

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MisterSpencer   
MisterSpencer

Strange that 24.74% of people on here are having sex but consider themselves asexual????

 

Work that one out!!

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GLRDT   
GLRDT
3 hours ago, MisterSpencer said:

Strange that 24.74% of people on here are having sex but consider themselves asexual????

 

Work that one out!!

There are other reasons for having sex besides sexual desire and sexual attraction. As long as the asexual person isn't sex repulsed or doesn't hate sex or isn't being forced into it, people can compromise if they don't mind sex or even enjoy the sensations when it's happening. They also might do it for other reasons as well. Unless an asexual person has some sort of physical or medical issue making them unable to have sex, asexuals are people just like sexuals and are functionally able to have sex. Often times they just don't want if for one reason or another.

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nothinbuttrouble   
nothinbuttrouble

I've had a decent amount of sex in my life.

 

1) I tried a lot of things, believing that if I kept trying I would get into it.

2) When I get close to someone, I feel compelled to take care of them, satisfy them, etc. Since I'm not sex repulsed,

pleasing them sexually didn't seem like a big deal.

 

But after many years of this attitude, I just can't take it anymore.

I've had no sexual relations for the last three years, and I'm glad.

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Cynorca   
Cynorca

I always think sex looks great when other people doing it.

 

But if it happens at me. It's a big NO.

 

It's complicated. If someone asks me to choose between a chance for mindblowing sex with the hottest dude or .... fried chicken or nuggets or a very good book or art supply, I always choose the latter ∩˙▿˙∩

 

I like to look at guys' shoulder or fingers because I think they're beautiful and looks amazing if I draw them. Not because I want to touch them.

 

I've tried making out with my ex and it results with me being very apathic, unresponsive and big fight and break up.

 

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