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Spectre/Ex/Machina

What's Your Story?(Sex-Favoroable Aces)

  

268 members have voted

  1. 1. Are you currently sexually active?

    • Yes
      156
    • No
      473
  2. 2. How often do you think of sex?

    • Often
      114
    • Sometimes
      273
    • Rarely
      201
    • Never
      41


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Spectre/Ex/Machina

This why I also prefer, beside dim lights, if Im bottoming to be on my stomach, this way I get the sensation without distraction of them.

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Spectre/Ex/Machina

I couldn't be blind folded or tied up, it would make me anxious. Then again Im more of a Domme. Actually Domme/switch.

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KendraPM

I think I'm mainly after the connection. If I didn't enjoy sexual activity, I'd probably still engage in some if the connection was still the same. It depends, if I really didn't enjoy, maybe not, but in a "this isn't good or bad" sort of situation, the connection would be well worth it.

(Alright! 8 points!)

And I prefer on my stomach.

I can be held down, I like that, but the moment restraints other than my partner's hands are involved ( when they're used on me), I feel trapped. Blindfold.....I don't know, never tried it. Maybe in the right situation. I doubt I'd like it, but who knows. I thought I was a Sub only until I went to try some things that interested me and discovered I enjoyed being the one doing what I thought I wanted to be done to me, despite being the Sub in my fantasy.

I can be alone or with someone, I'm happy either way. But in terms of long term, I want to be married some day. I don't think I could have a relationship without sexual contact (due to the connection) but I would be happy without full on sexual intercourse.

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Spectre/Ex/Machina

I totally see the the abstract angle on sex, Im like that.

I agree with the preference bit too.

I rather my partners hand over cuffs. Though, I as a domme would cuff someone.

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Spectre/Ex/Machina

Well Im a total Fetishist, I like power play and sensation play.

So no need to feel blushy :)

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Spectre/Ex/Machina

:o I can blush if I wanna -_-

True.

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The_Verse

I think I'm mainly after the connection. If I didn't enjoy sexual activity, I'd probably still engage in some if the connection was still the same. It depends, if I really didn't enjoy, maybe not, but in a "this isn't good or bad" sort of situation, the connection would be well worth it.

(Alright! 8 points!)

And I prefer on my stomach.

I can be held down, I like that, but the moment restraints other than my partner's hands are involved ( when they're used on me), I feel trapped. Blindfold.....I don't know, never tried it. Maybe in the right situation. I doubt I'd like it, but who knows. I thought I was a Sub only until I went to try some things that interested me and discovered I enjoyed being the one doing what I thought I wanted to be done to me, despite being the Sub in my fantasy.

I can be alone or with someone, I'm happy either way. But in terms of long term, I want to be married some day. I don't think I could have a relationship without sexual contact (due to the connection) but I would be happy without full on sexual intercourse.

8 points to Gryffindor!

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KendraPM

I think I'm mainly after the connection. If I didn't enjoy sexual activity, I'd probably still engage in some if the connection was still the same. It depends, if I really didn't enjoy, maybe not, but in a "this isn't good or bad" sort of situation, the connection would be well worth it.

(Alright! 8 points!)

And I prefer on my stomach.

I can be held down, I like that, but the moment restraints other than my partner's hands are involved ( when they're used on me), I feel trapped. Blindfold.....I don't know, never tried it. Maybe in the right situation. I doubt I'd like it, but who knows. I thought I was a Sub only until I went to try some things that interested me and discovered I enjoyed being the one doing what I thought I wanted to be done to me, despite being the Sub in my fantasy.

I can be alone or with someone, I'm happy either way. But in terms of long term, I want to be married some day. I don't think I could have a relationship without sexual contact (due to the connection) but I would be happy without full on sexual intercourse.

8 points to Gryffindor!

Slytherin, my dear. :P

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Spectre/Ex/Machina

YES! Slytherin!

Speaking of, I would like to have a fancy place to do my doming, a special room( The Ebony Suite ). I do have a taste for the elegant which I think goes good with my sapiosensuality and polyamory, cause big cozy spaces and a grand study.

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Spectre/Ex/Machina

I usually don't mind things going forward. But sometimes if the person is sooo sure of themselves, it makes it difficult and pisses me off.

All people do need to understand boundaries and to respect their partner(s).

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KendraPM

I usually like sticking in the make-out to heavy petting range.

Too true. I've felt pressure for sex from more than one guy I've dated. And even friends who, when they hear I've been single for longer than a few months, will start telling me I need to go out and have "some fun" etc. Surprisingly, my friends are the ones I really feel the pressure from. When you're dating, the person usually understands that you have your pace and they have theirs and you'll get to each new level of physical when you're both ready, but friends? No, they think it's weird if you tell them that it's been a *insert set amount of time here* and you still haven't slept with the person you're seeing and start in on "jokingly" telling you to "get yours" already. I've also found the guys I've dated to be a bit more understanding if I just want to make out/touch/cuddle or whatever (mostly, I've had one that didn't, but he had more than one issue that caused me to end the relationship, that included), which I admittedly do a lot of, even after we've had sex.

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Spectre/Ex/Machina

It's the whole "sex is awesome" attitude, people see it in an overly positive way and are biased. This is why Im neutral in that regard. When they hear that your are not as in to it as them they take it as a sort of insult, it is strange. It is also a matter of maturity, if they were more mature, your harmless choices would not bother them.

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The_Verse

Making out is my favourite :3

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KendraPM

That's a good point. I love my friends, but most of them are on the immature side. It balances though, since I can be the stick in the mud without that bit of immaturity to pull me out.

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Spectre/Ex/Machina

Yea, balance in all relationships is very important.

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KendraPM

Too true. I abide by the "opposites attract" notion, and balance is a big part of that.

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Spectre/Ex/Machina

I've been experimenting with autoerotica, I feel a lot more a peace with my sexuality. It actually affirmed a lot that I already knew.

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KendraPM

I'm coming more and more into the realization that full on intercourse is more or less something I prefer thinking about over actual doing. Although I enjoy sexual contact, so I don't think this fact affects much. And since I do like sex, I have no issue having sex. I just prefer, well, any other form of fun physical contact. :P

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Ruby Thought

I'm arriving pretty late to this thread, but it since it's still open, I may as well respond. Perhaps another newbie like myself will learn something from my experience...

First of all, I'm a virgin, never had sex of any kind, though I really want to experience it sometime with the right person. Since I haven't felt sexually attracted to anyone in my 26 years of existence, the term cupiosexual really resonates with me.

I've had tons of crushes, but I've never wanted to do more than hold hands, cuddle, or maybe share a couple of kisses with the people I'm romantically attracted to. I also feel more comfortable if those feelings are kind of unrequited, since the moment I sense that my crush may reciprocate my feelings, I run away as fast as I can, emotionally speaking.

What's unique about my particular situation, is that I work in the sphere of the adult entertainment industry, not as a performer but as an SEO writer. This means that I basically watch porn every single day (it's my job, after all) and hence, I think about sex fairly often. However, the few times I've found myself close to having sex with someone (making out with some petting) I felt absolutely nothing and stopped it from going any further.

I guess what I'm trying to say is that though I'm open to sexual contact and even desire it sometimes, it all seems more appealing in my head than it does in reality.

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KendraPM

I guess what I'm trying to say is that though I'm open to sexual contact and even desire it sometimes, it all seems more appealing in my head than it does in reality.

a good way to say it :) I guess I am the same, myself...

That's a pretty accurate description. "Fantasy is bettter than reality" has always resonated with me.

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Ruby Thought

I guess what I'm trying to say is that though I'm open to sexual contact and even desire it sometimes, it all seems more appealing in my head than it does in reality.

a good way to say it :) I guess I am the same, myself...

That's a pretty accurate description. "Fantasy is bettter than reality" has always resonated with me.

I guess what I'm trying to say is that though I'm open to sexual contact and even desire it sometimes, it all seems more appealing in my head than it does in reality.

a good way to say it :) I guess I am the same, myself...

That's a pretty accurate description. "Fantasy is bettter than reality" has always resonated with me.

Right? That's what being a cupiosexual is all about in my opinion.

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Spectre/Ex/Machina

I personally don't mind sex , I wouldn't really prefer real or fantasy. It's just all stimulation and more dependent on the situation.

Im all about free love. I just basically don't care as long as we are all having a good time wether it be sex or just watching youtube vids.

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