terms in the asexual umbrella?

[MoraDollie]

So what are all the actual asexual umbrella terms right now? So far I know about: asexual, demisexual, graysexual, cupiosexual, aegosexual, lithosexual, abrosexual.....is there others? Looking solely for SEXUAL orientations, not romantic/sensual/whatever.

[Earth Sprite]

So what are all the actual asexual umbrella terms right now? So far I know about: asexual, demisexual, graysexual, cupiosexual, aegosexual, lithosexual, abrosexual.....is there others? Looking solely for SEXUAL orientations, not romantic/sensual/whatever.

- Doesn't 'abrosexual' mean just that someone's sexuality changes? That person could be under any umbrella for a certain period, then.

- I would link a fragment about 'lithosexual', then: http://estufar.tumblr.com/post/89121770622/what-is-lithosexual

Three point of views of the fragment linked above:

"I think you would first need to make a case for why being “lithrosexual/lithosexual” is distinct from being allosexual and celibate. With “lithromantic,” the usefulness of the word is obvious because there’s no other word or concept for “generalized satisfaction with unreciprocated romantic feelings or gestures” in our culture.

I did a google search for “lithosexual,” and it mostly turned up acephobic and demisexual-phobic tripe. The word has been used before, but it seems to be more of a talking point or theoretical concept than something people really identify with.

I’m not saying that it can’t be a thing, or that it shouldn’t be a thing. If anyone out there identifies as lithosexual, I’d be happy to hear from them about what it means to them and why they chose to identify that way."

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[Star Bit]

Lithosexual/Lithsexual aka Akoisexual and Aposexual. I prefer Apo because its prefix is not a metaphor like the previous two.

Other asexual spectrum terms are Burstsexual (sexual attraction coming in random bursts), Fraysexual (sexual attraction fading away), and Requisexual (will find a simplafied definition, but maybe it's a type of Burstsexual). Would Autosexual, Fictosexual, and Objectumsexual count too?


@Earth Sprite
Lith can be generalized as "not needing reciprocation," but more precisely the reciprocation (over time or immediately)causes indifference, loss of interest, or repulsion. I think that definition can be generalized/updated as "a negative to indifferent reaction to reciprocation." As the first three of my asexual spectrum terms don't specify the fluctuation can't have a cause.

[Earth Sprite]

Lithosexual/Lithsexual aka Akoisexual and Aposexual. I prefer Apo because its suffix is not a metaphor like the previous two.

Other asexual spectrum terms are Burstsexual (sexual attraction coming in random bursts), Fraysexual (sexual attraction fading away), and Requisexual (will find a simplafied definition, but maybe it's a type of Burstsexual). Would Autosexual, Fictosexual, and Objectumsexual count too?

@Earth Sprite

Lith can be generalized as "not needing reciprocation," but more precisely the reciprocation (over time or immediately)causes indifference, loss of interest, or repulsion. I think that definition can be generalized/updated as "a negative to indifferent reaction to reciprocation." As the first three of my asexual spectrum terms don't specify the fluctuation can't have a cause.

Star Bit, thank you for specifying theoretical concepts.

It would be nice to hear people describe their personal reasons to choose those specific identities above. I don't know, whether most of these people are here among us on the asexual network, or not.

[MoraDollie]

I would think frayosexual would fit the allosexual spectrum better because it does start initially with sexual attraction. It's kind of similar to demisexual. (thank you human sexualityfor being so damn complicated*sarcasm*). Objectumsexual is definetly (in my eyes) more of a fetish than orientation.

*warning, ranty*

requissexual Like not being interested in sex or romance because you’re mentally exhausted is not a sexual orientation that’s just something that fucking happens.

....I agree *gets ready to duck/cover*

[Star Bit]

Yes and no. Although i agree with your quote, they don't understand the definition of Requisexual. The reciprocation causes the negative reaction. An example seems the best way to explain this orientation. Say their tolerence level is at three days, after that the negative emotion starts to develop and they have to take a month long break for it to wear off. And repeat. This emotion can be emotionally drained, stress, repulsion, etc. Think of it like an introvert with social interaction and needing alone time to recharge.

[knout]

Sapiosexual?

[Kalactika]

Idk if this list is legit but omg i think I found a term for me!

http://pastebin.com/pXe1YgD9

[PurplePr1nc3ss]

Lithosexual/Lithsexual aka Akoisexual and Aposexual. I prefer Apo because its prefix is not a metaphor like the previous two.

Other asexual spectrum terms are Burstsexual (sexual attraction coming in random bursts), Fraysexual (sexual attraction fading away), and Requisexual (will find a simplafied definition, but maybe it's a type of Burstsexual). Would Autosexual, Fictosexual, and Objectumsexual count too?

@Earth Sprite

Lith can be generalized as "not needing reciprocation," but more precisely the reciprocation (over time or immediately)causes indifference, loss of interest, or repulsion. I think that definition can be generalized/updated as "a negative to indifferent reaction to reciprocation." As the first three of my asexual spectrum terms don't specify the fluctuation can't have a cause.

[PurplePr1nc3ss]

I wouldn't say that objectumsexual is on the ace spectrilum because they do have sexual attraction towards objects but that's debateable

[Star Bit]

Sapiosexual is on the sexual spectrum; nothing ace about it. But my point with Objectumsexual was the same with Fictosexual; one isn't sexually attracted to real ppl while the other isn't attracted to humans period. I guess you could also include beastiality if you look at it from that angle. I suppose i retract those suggestions then.

[Ninti]

On a side note, the few Objectumsexuals who have talked about their experiences generally anthropomorphize the object of attraction. I remember one woman in particular talked about the "soul" of the object she loved. She even commented about knowing that he loved her back. There are a few interesting documentaries out there; I recommend taking a look if you are interested in that sort of thing.

[Hannah D]

So what are all the actual asexual umbrella terms right now? So far I know about: asexual, demisexual, graysexual, cupiosexual, aegosexual, lithosexual, abrosexual.....is there others? Looking solely for SEXUAL orientations, not romantic/sensual/whatever.

- Doesn't 'abrosexual' mean just that someone's sexuality changes? That person could be under any umbrella for a certain period, then.

- I would link a fragment about 'lithosexual', then: http://estufar.tumblr.com/post/89121770622/what-is-lithosexual

Three point of views of the fragment linked above:

"I think you would first need to make a case for why being “lithrosexual/lithosexual” is distinct from being allosexual and celibate. With “lithromantic,” the usefulness of the word is obvious because there’s no other word or concept for “generalized satisfaction with unreciprocated romantic feelings or gestures” in our culture.

I did a google search for “lithosexual,” and it mostly turned up acephobic and demisexual-phobic tripe. The word has been used before, but it seems to be more of a talking point or theoretical concept than something people really identify with.

I’m not saying that it can’t be a thing, or that it shouldn’t be a thing. If anyone out there identifies as lithosexual, I’d be happy to hear from them about what it means to them and why they chose to identify that way."

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Personally I identify as a panromantic lithosexual. For me that means that I still experience sexual attraction but I don't want to have sex. It disgusts me is a way, really. I don't understand why people like having sex, and I don't understand how they find pleasure in it. Before I found out this term I was really confused and I just thought I was weird, essentially. But as soon as I heard what it was defined as I thought "Yes. This is me. I can relate to this." As of yet I haven't heard of anyone else identifying as lithosexual and I've only found one definition on Tumblr for it, and it kind of makes me feel alone in the sense that no one can relate to me.

[gracious]

Personally I identify as a panromantic lithosexual. For me that means that I still experience sexual attraction but I don't want to have sex. It disgusts me is a way, really. I don't understand why people like having sex, and I don't understand how they find pleasure in it. Before I found out this term I was really confused and I just thought I was weird, essentially. But as soon as I heard what it was defined as I thought "Yes. This is me. I can relate to this." As of yet I haven't heard of anyone else identifying as lithosexual and I've only found one definition on Tumblr for it, and it kind of makes me feel alone in the sense that no one can relate to me.

Do you think being lithosexual is different from being sex averse/repulsed? I think there are probably a pretty good number of sex averse or repulsed people in the asexual community, but they might not always use the term "lithosexual."

[Archon]

Personally I identify as a panromantic lithosexual. For me that means that I still experience sexual attraction but I don't want to have sex. It disgusts me is a way, really. I don't understand why people like having sex, and I don't understand how they find pleasure in it. Before I found out this term I was really confused and I just thought I was weird, essentially. But as soon as I heard what it was defined as I thought "Yes. This is me. I can relate to this." As of yet I haven't heard of anyone else identifying as lithosexual and I've only found one definition on Tumblr for it, and it kind of makes me feel alone in the sense that no one can relate to me.

Do you think being lithosexual is different from being sex averse/repulsed? I think there are probably a pretty good number of sex averse or repulsed people in the asexual community, but they might not always use the term "lithosexual."

Being lith is not the same thing as being sex averse/repulsed. Somebody can be one of those things, neither of those things, or both of those things. Being lith means you experience attraction but don't want to act on it or don't want it reciprocated. Not all lith people are sex averse/repulsed, some are indifferent. And being sex averse/repulsed doesn't specify if one feels attraction or not.

What about placiosexual? It means someone who has little to no desire to receive sexual acts but expresses interest in performing them for someone else. It's one of those terms that deals more with behavior than attraction but I think it's a useful term.

[Darkthrone]

So what are all the actual asexual umbrella terms right now? So far I know about: asexual, demisexual, graysexual, cupiosexual, aegosexual, lithosexual, abrosexual.....is there others? Looking solely for SEXUAL orientations, not romantic/sensual/whatever.

- Doesn't 'abrosexual' mean just that someone's sexuality changes? That person could be under any umbrella for a certain period, then.

- I would link a fragment about 'lithosexual', then: http://estufar.tumblr.com/post/89121770622/what-is-lithosexual

Three point of views of the fragment linked above:

"I think you would first need to make a case for why being “lithrosexual/lithosexual” is distinct from being allosexual and celibate. With “lithromantic,” the usefulness of the word is obvious because there’s no other word or concept for “generalized satisfaction with unreciprocated romantic feelings or gestures” in our culture.

I did a google search for “lithosexual,” and it mostly turned up acephobic and demisexual-phobic tripe. The word has been used before, but it seems to be more of a talking point or theoretical concept than something people really identify with.

I’m not saying that it can’t be a thing, or that it shouldn’t be a thing. If anyone out there identifies as lithosexual, I’d be happy to hear from them about what it means to them and why they chose to identify that way."

As some who fits the label lithosexual/aposexual (you could also call me a sex repulsed allosexual, if you want) here's my two cents. It is a form of allosexuality in that we experience sexual attraction, but allosexual culture would reject it as strange and probably lump it into the same category they would as asexuality, that category being "strange people who don't want sex."

What it means to me is that I experience sexual attraction, I have a libido, but I don't actually want to act on those sexual urges because to do so would be extremely uncomfortable/repulsive/not pleasurable. I chose to identify that way simply because it's a label that accurately describes my experiences with, and relationship to, my sexual desires, my libido, and my actions. This is where I differ from other allosexuals: they like acting on their sexual urges, I don't. I also consider myself apo/litho-romantic.

In terms of ace and demi-phobic remarks coming from litho/apo-sexuals, I personally wish I could remove all of my sexual and romantic attraction. You'd be hard pressed to find me expressing anti-ace sentiment because I basically wish I was ace. Obviously I can only speak for myself though.