Short-Lasting Sexual Attraction (Gray-A)

[anabsolutehorizon]

I was wondering if anyone else has had the experience of being sexually attracted to someone… only to have that attraction fade after a (reasonably short) period of time.

Also, I’ve never been attracted to an actual, non-fictional person. Live action characters, yes. But never their actors.

For example, I will become rather deeply attracted to a character in a TV show. This attraction will last, say, a month, maybe a few months. Then, all of a sudden, I’ll be looking back and realize that I no longer find the character sexually attractive. Will I be repulsed by them? No. Not at all. I’ll still like them as a character; my lack of attraction is something that’s just me - not a result of anything the character has done or the choices the writers have made. And I’ll still find them aesthetically attractive. Just not sexually. It’s almost as if the sexual attraction was never there to begin with.

And, as a second point, when I am attracted to these characters, the attraction is very much not focused on me. I’ll think they’re hot, and will get kind of flustered/aroused, but I don’t fantasize about doing sexual things with them. Not even because I’m shy or anything. I just… don’t have fantasies involving myself. I never have. Even on a subconscious/unconscious level. What will happen, however, are fantasies involving other characters. I guess one might say that I get my fantasies fulfilled through headcanons, fanfiction, and the likes. I also never do that whole ‘picturing yourself in one of the character(s)’ positions’ thing. There’s no vicarious or voyeuristic tendencies in my fantasizing. I’m not sure why this happens, but… I suppose this may be what aegosexuality is.

I identify as Gray-A, partially due to this, and partially because I’ve really only felt sexual attraction to a handful of people.

Sooo… I guess I’m just curious about other people’s experiences with things like this. It’s always nice to have other people to relate to.

: )

- Kelsey

[Star Bit]

Lith-Fictosexual?

Fictosexual= sexual attraction to fictional characters

Lithsexual aka Aposexual= sexual reciprocation immediately or over time causing indifference, loss of interest, or repulsion.

[Blaze]

Actually, I feel the same way. Personally, I believe it's a disconnect with fantasy and reality, much like how a heterosexual will occasionally fantasize about someone of the same sex, although they still are not attracted to them. And yes, my fantasies never involve myself, as well.