How do straight men react when you come out as asexual?

[Nowe13]

I've heard alot of the "so you duplicate yourself" and that sort of response. I've heard from one of my female friend that there father thought i was doing it to sound interesting and more appealing to the opposite gender simply as a reason to get to doing the do with them. Then my best friend also struggles to understand a bit as he often says it "human nature to want to do something that brings you pleasure repeatedly" and "you just need to experience it"

Many others though that know seem to be accepting of it (to my face anyway).

[Marshmallow Tree]

The first couple of people I came out to were boys in my work-place. I was really anxious at first but I dug up the courage and told them. They seemed really interested at first and asked questions (they, of course, asked if I masturbated :|)Then they refused to believe it. They criticised me by saying the usual "you haven't met the ight one yet" etc etc. So I dropped it there and left it. A couple of days later another boy joined us and they mentioned it to him. I got really annoyed and replied angrily what it was, and when he started talking about how it isn't right, the first two boys I told told him off! If felt great. They were suddenly accepting of it, and were trying their best to understand and defend me. I really appreciated that. I know some people will just be downright ignorant and stubborn to think otherwise (boys in my experience still think you want sex...and with THEM ugh...) but at least there are some lovely people out there who can overcome it/accept it.

[Corretto]

Thankfully the net wasn't around in my days at 'varsity.

Instead, I had to put up with a prehistoric 'site' [across the dinner table] with my hyper-sexual mates. Like clock-work, they'd share their Friday night fuck-ographies, and who & how they intended to 'do' it with that night.

Politely and sympathetically; they understood I'd stay at home, do the dishes, 'play' with myself, and play Halo till the early hours. Lacking the concept of 'asexuality', I had no understanding of my behaviour, and envy for their 'achievements' is all I could come up with. Peer-pressure can be a powerful 'thing'.

If I'd only been aware; an ace & aro understanding could have offered me some protection from my perverse peers. Apart from their [faint] understanding of the rising gay-movement, there was only one 'root' [Aust-NZ slang] to take and they were taking it...without me!

[glutenfreecake]

Most of the time, I think they take it as an ego crash.

Males with a sex drive like to think of every woman they know who isn't related to them as a contender for sex and when you tell them you're ace, they're like "Oh, so wait, we can't do it then? You're suddenly less interesting to me".

Or well, the boys I know are that way.

That's a lot of what I've experienced. My dad said "that's a sad way to live" and one of my male friends said I couldn't be that way because he only knew it as a biological term and now he doesn't talk to me anymore. My other male friend I told actually a few hours ago when he asked me out. He seemed like he thought he could change my mind and I was playing hard to get. After I spoke with him about it for a while and tried to be clear and firm he said he was disappointed but would settle for being friends.

I don't know if this other male friend is going to keep talking to me or if he was just trying to save face. It's been my experience that once you're not an opportunity for sex straight guys may decide you're not worth talking to.

It's good to see on this thread that that is not always the case.

[Tarfeather]

I had my ex ask me if I masturbated.... there's a reason he's my ex. Among other things.

I asked my girlfriend if she masturbated. She said no and that was that. I think it's a perfectly normal thing to be curious about in a relationship.

It's been my experience that once you're not an opportunity for sex straight guys may decide you're not worth talking to.

*sigh* Sometimes I have this slight urge to punch most of the representatives of my biological sex in the face. Luckily, though, all my female friends can tell the difference between people like me and "normal guys".

[KittiesSong]

I had my ex ask me if I masturbated.... there's a reason he's my ex. Among other things.

I asked my girlfriend if she masturbated. She said no and that was that. I think it's a perfectly normal thing to be curious about in a relationship.

It's been my experience that once you're not an opportunity for sex straight guys may decide you're not worth talking to.

*sigh* Sometimes I have this slight urge to punch most of the representatives of my biological sex in the face. Luckily, though, all my female friends can tell the difference between people like me and "normal guys".

Yea but he didn't ask out of curiosity... he told me if I didn't I should because I should... "experiment with myself" and then maybe I would like sex and not be asexual anymore. I was tired when I posted that and hadn't thought out a full explanation. I should probably also note that this was after we had already broken up because he lied to me about some things that were very important to me.