Choose? Posted May 3, 2015 Share Posted May 3, 2015 Okay now here's the thing. I've slept with probably 300 women but in the last 7 years have lost all attraction to either men or women. I thought I was gay and have tried dating men but to no avail. It started just before I left my ex when she was trying it on with sex and I just did not want to know. Trust me she was pretty hot but I had no desire. I saw this board after googling things and wondered if anyone has had the same. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Choose? Posted May 3, 2015 Author Share Posted May 3, 2015 I'm 35 and have a good job and social life etc. I think I just find masturbating fills a gap when it needs to be filled. I definitely do not go out ON THE PULL like all my friends. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Lost247365 Posted May 3, 2015 Share Posted May 3, 2015 (edited) Did you feel sexually attracted to all those women back then? Or were you going through the motions? If so it I would think it could be possible that you have always been this way, but it could be that your orientation has changed. No one can choose their orientation, but I hear that sometimes it can change during a person's lifetime. If that is so, I see no reason why a person can't change from a sexual to an asexual.However, based on your comments about masturbation "fills a gap when it needs to be filled" I am not too sure if Asexual would be the correct term. Do you mean you feel the want to have sex with others but not strongly enough to act on it? If so, you could be a grey-A. That could explain why you used to be, ...ummm lets say, prolific in the past but don't feel like acting on it now. Rather than your orientation changing, you just moved down the spectrum from a sexual into grey-A area. Of course, this is all speculation on my part. Only you can know for sure.Edit:Removed colored text. Sorry didn't know red/green text was not allowed. Edited May 3, 2015 by Lost247365 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Choose? Posted May 3, 2015 Author Share Posted May 3, 2015 I felt a connection to maybe two out of 300. I feel kind of bad about it. My last girlfriend dragged me to a clinic to see if there was anything medically wrong but she didn't understand that I just had no interest in the sexual side of the relationship. I don't understand how that happened those years ago and now I have no sexual feeling towards anyone anymore. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Choose? Posted May 3, 2015 Author Share Posted May 3, 2015 Also I must add that I would prefer to retreat and masturbate rather than have any sexual contact at all. The idea now completely disgusts me. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Hellcat67 Posted May 4, 2015 Share Posted May 4, 2015 As frustrating this is to hear, no-one can tell you what you are! I would stick around on AVEN and read other experiences to see if you can relate, that works so well for many! Try research as well (stag away from quizzes, mist aren't accurate!). The most important thing to know is that sexuality is fluid, I don't think anything us 'set in stone' and so you may fluctuate a lot, which is fine! Try not to overthink it and just relax and you'll find what you're looking for! Good luck! Quote Link to post Share on other sites
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