Frigid Pink Posted October 10, 2015 Share Posted October 10, 2015 Can I just add something I've been noticing - imo disturbingly - often? There seem to be a lot of people on okc who id as asexual and require sex in their relationships. There are actually aces on okc with whom I'm less compatible in regard to sex than with heterosexuals. Just this week two aces looked at my profile and I was like "Cool, slowly but surely more aces register in okc!". Then I looked at their profiles and meh. Need sex 1-2 times a week? Why? I thought we were compatible! TT^TT I don't know if it's important or not, but only men look at my profile. (Even though I'm searching for friendships.) So I almost only know about what male aces on okc are doing. Women might or might not behave differently. Hmm, I don't know about that (someone needing partnered sex doesn't fit with my view of "asexuality"), however, it's partly why I say that sexual orienation doesn't matter as much in sexual compatibility as other factors and where people fall on the sexuality spectrum seems to matter more. Basically, just because someone identifies as "asexual" doesn't mean they're automatically compatible (sexually or otherwise) with another "asexual" person, same goes for "sexual-sexual" pairings. Also, doesn't mean "asexual-sexual" pairings are necessarily incompatible (sexually or otherwise). It really depends on each individual person and what their preferences are. I was very descriptive about my (a)sexuality (and what a romantic relationship with me might look like sexually and otherwise) on my okc profile (when I was on there), as well as the type of relationships I was interested in, instead of using the "asexual" label because "I'm an asexual person" doesn't tell anyone much about me or how compatible (sexually or otherwise) anyone may be with me. Link to post Share on other sites
Wendy Testaburger Posted October 10, 2015 Share Posted October 10, 2015 I met the person I'm in love with on OkCupid (though we're not a couple now) ...so you're stalking them or just broke up? I'm in love with her. We dated a while ago, but were never exclusive (she didn't want to be). I don't know how she feels about me now (I'm scared to ask). But I don't expect her to fall in love with me. Link to post Share on other sites
Chemic Posted October 10, 2015 Share Posted October 10, 2015 I've used the site since this summer. I've talked to a few guys on there who were just looking to chat (ok by me, as I did put down looking for friends as well) but no dating yet. Admittedly I have a bit of aesthetic attraction, but if a guy's profile pic comes off as a creep, I'm going to ignore any messages from him. Also, I do make it very clear in my first paragraph that I'm an asexual and anyone looking for sex in a relationship should move on. I still get about 1-2 messages a week and surprisingly, half of them comment that they really like how I'm a very genuine person based on what I wrote on my profile. That said, I've been tempted to close my account, as it's really not going anywhere. Link to post Share on other sites
Arethusa Posted October 10, 2015 Share Posted October 10, 2015 It's okay... ...I'll see myself out. Link to post Share on other sites
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