I'm feeling like hiding my face.

[interpol]

This is a combination of me realizing I'm probably more related to people than I wish I was and me being shy.

My cousin is book-smart, unmarried, kind of an attention whore, and has a baby with a guy she met at an art show.

I am much younger, will soon hold a graduate degree (summer end), and met a guy at an art show that incites sexual feelings I haven't felt in YEARS.

/hides face./ This isn't allowed. Is it?

[butterflydreams]

My goodness, no. It's totally allowed! How you feel is how you feel. If one day, I found someone who really incited sexual feelings in me, I'd probably be scared, but I'd welcome it. You can choose how you feel about it. Isn't it a wonderful thing that you're able to feel something like that? I think it is. It's a feeling not everyone gets to have in their lives.

Changing feelings over the years just means you're growing I think. It's always ok to grow :)

[Wyrmcraft]

You are a college student, no need to feel bad from just looking. No need to feel bad if you get to know him, like him, and decide to date him. Or if you never see him again. You are ABSOLUTELY allowed to meet and admire anyone you want, from there you just have to see what clicks.

So feel free to be Shy, don't feel bad, and work on getting up the nerve to talk to the nice young man ^_^

[interpol]

You are a college student, no need to feel bad from just looking. No need to feel bad if you get to know him, like him, and decide to date him. Or if you never see him again. You are ABSOLUTELY allowed to meet and admire anyone you want, from there you just have to see what clicks.

So feel free to be Shy, don't feel bad, and work on getting up the nerve to talk to the nice young man ^_^

I know, I know.......I just don't want to be my cousin. >.<

[dandelionfluff]

You are a college student, no need to feel bad from just looking. No need to feel bad if you get to know him, like him, and decide to date him. Or if you never see him again. You are ABSOLUTELY allowed to meet and admire anyone you want, from there you just have to see what clicks.

So feel free to be Shy, don't feel bad, and work on getting up the nerve to talk to the nice young man ^_^

I know, I know.......I just don't want to be my cousin. >.<

Two words: birth control!

[Wyrmcraft]

You are a different person! That fear of NOT being your cousin is all you need to keep yourself from being her, you KNOW you won't because you can't.

However, don't let that fear cripple you. Gather it and use it to make better decisions! Just because you might like A GUY doesn't mean you will be an attention needing girl who has a baby outside of wedlock. You'll still be you, and if getting married is important you can wait until then. Though that doesn't necessarily mean you need to wait on the sexy times, though you can too. All up to you, and if the guy likes you, then the two of you can come up to a decision!

[Guest]

Totally allowed! And since I'm the boss of everything y'all better listen to me, just kidding ;) ;P. Don't get ahead of yourself, just take it one day at a time! Just focus on getting to know him and then take it from there! And don't compare yourself to others you're not your cousin you're you on your own journey. Or as dr suess so wonderfully puts it:

“You have brains in your head. You have feet in your shoes. You can steer yourself any direction you choose. You're on your own. And you know what you know. And YOU are the one who'll decide where to go...” ―Dr. Seuss, Oh, The Places You'll Go!. If your concerned about pregnancy, I have two words for you safe sex..;) Take care and lots of happiness to you.