Guest Posted April 22, 2015 Share Posted April 22, 2015 So I have been having issues with a friend I communicate with on Skype IMing, but we are having a hard time seeing seeing exactly what those issues are. We were going to go to a therapists but even the cheapest option was a bit much. We found a free service that said are best option was to have another friend mediate, but that is something of a problem because we do not have third person in this circle so far so we need somebody outside. I am not sure where else to go with this so I guess I am asking here. Does anybody here think they would be good (or at least good enough) at this and are willing to help us out? It is a friend I care about very much and I would hate to loose them, but we can not keep going the way we have been. Link to post Share on other sites
Absol Posted April 22, 2015 Share Posted April 22, 2015 Mediate how exactly? Link to post Share on other sites
Goaty Posted April 22, 2015 Share Posted April 22, 2015 I'd be willing and I might be able to help (depends on time), but as mentioned I'd like to know what exactly you need. Link to post Share on other sites
Ficulnean Posted April 22, 2015 Share Posted April 22, 2015 Sadly, I don't use Skype, but I do want to tell you that I hope this works out. Link to post Share on other sites
nerdperson777 Posted April 22, 2015 Share Posted April 22, 2015 I would help but I'm not confident in my mediation skills. I just try to take a non-biased look at the situation. Link to post Share on other sites
AnActualAngel Posted April 22, 2015 Share Posted April 22, 2015 I might be able to help, but I don't really understand what you mean Link to post Share on other sites
ZUT Posted April 22, 2015 Share Posted April 22, 2015 I can help, I meditate often Link to post Share on other sites
MissLunarWolf Posted April 22, 2015 Share Posted April 22, 2015 You can add me to your list of potential mediators. Message me if you need anything ^_^ Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted April 24, 2015 Share Posted April 24, 2015 So for those asking, I asked them how to explain what we needed with mediation and they said I could copy and paste this to explain. "You had both sides presenting what they have to say. Their feelings, perspectives, and thoughts And the mediator tries to calm both of them down and try to see where the fundamental disagreements are. They're a third party. That's the whole reason why I sought out therapy. I just wanted a mediator in the first place. It'd be the best thing for us. It would help to defuse arguments before they became arguments in the first place. Someone who doesn't have a personal attachment to us or this relationship can clearly see where things start to go haywire in ways we can't see until it's too late." Basically out conversations are too often devolving into exhausting arguments and we need a third person to help us not do that. Link to post Share on other sites
Calamity Jim Posted April 24, 2015 Share Posted April 24, 2015 You could just copy paste the conversations, not tell us which person is you, and basically get everyone here to mediate so you would get all the sides. Link to post Share on other sites
Goaty Posted April 24, 2015 Share Posted April 24, 2015 You could just copy paste the conversations, not tell us which person is you, and basically get everyone here to mediate so you would get all the sides. I think that's a good idea, if you're comfortable with it OP. Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted April 24, 2015 Share Posted April 24, 2015 You could just copy paste the conversations, not tell us which person is you, and basically get everyone here to mediate so you would get all the sides. I asked them, they said they would not be comfortable with this. Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted April 25, 2015 Share Posted April 25, 2015 I regret to inform you all that based on recent events and a recommendation from a specialists and my parents I have been forced to terminate the friendship indefinitely. Sorry to waste your time with all this. Link to post Share on other sites
Goaty Posted April 26, 2015 Share Posted April 26, 2015 I'm sorry. :( I don't see it as wasted time at all, it was trying to solve a problem. It was good of you to try so hard. I wish you the best. Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted July 5, 2015 Share Posted July 5, 2015 I am happy to say we have re-started communicating after some things. This need for a mediator returns if anybody is interested. Link to post Share on other sites
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