lizzy123 Posted April 20, 2015 Share Posted April 20, 2015 Im starting to wonder if im gray-ace, if even asexual at all, so I wanna know if anyone can give me some advice here. I dont seek out sex, and I usually dont desire it either (there will occasionally be some instances when I do, but their usually short lived and not very often) and im not really a fan of porn (it makes me uncomfortable if im being completely honest) But now im beginning to question my sexual and romantic orientation. I feel romantic attraction towards both males and females (usually males a bit more) but now i've started to notice that im am feeling some sexual urges towards women. For example, on the internet (on tumblr, and occasionally on google) i'll accidental stumble upon smut pictures. And although looking at smut of males had no effect on me, stumbling on smut of girls will significantly arouse me. I dont exactly understand why im feeling this way, can anyone clear this up for me? im frankly really confused and uncomfortable with these feelings im having. x'( thank you. Link to post Share on other sites
CosineTheCat Posted April 20, 2015 Share Posted April 20, 2015 There is nothing wrong with questioning your sexuality, it's a lifelong journey that doesn't happen overnight when you decide on something. Sexual attraction is different than arousal in my books, sexual attraction is the desire to seek out partnered sex, arousal is just your body. I can't sit here and tell you what you are it's up to you to decide where you fall in the spectrum. I hope this picture helps a little with the different types of attractions! Link to post Share on other sites
LKR Posted April 20, 2015 Share Posted April 20, 2015 Would you want to have sex with the girls or just look at pictures? That should answer your question. Link to post Share on other sites
Ana Posted April 22, 2015 Share Posted April 22, 2015 Would you want to have sex with the girls or just look at pictures? That should answer your question. What if that answer changes over time and from time to time? Link to post Share on other sites
NotApplicable785 Posted April 22, 2015 Share Posted April 22, 2015 I think sexuality is more fluid than people seem to think. If your baseline is ace, there's nothing wrong with identifying as that even if you occasionally feel sexual attraction. It sounds like you still don't desire partnered sex, even if you feel aroused some times, which is still consistent with being ace. Link to post Share on other sites
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