how to respond to "get your hormones checked" etc?

[FoxEars]

most people see a lack of libido/attraction as an unhealthy thing to an individual

We call that 'sexual normativity'. Or, more generally, 'ignorance'.

^ FoxEars ^

[Prairie]

well I have a perfectly healthy, fully functioning libido (an abundance of female 'sex' hormones thay cause me to become aroused often for no reason), I masturbate, I find people attractive, I even feel sensual attraction. [...]

That's how I respond when asked if I've had my hormones checked lol.

Maybe you could throw in TMI just to gross them out and make them sorry they made such a shallow suggestion. :)

I did once have a bf who, feeling shitty about my lack of desire for sex told me I should get my hormones checked. Back then I honestly didn't even really know that asexuality was a thing, and since I'd been told so often that I was abnormal and something was wrong with me I figured he must know what he was talking about so I went to the Dr.

It'd be interesting to ask before you go, "If they check out fine, you'll accept how I am?" This is where you find whether they are just fishing for an excuse to not accept you, and you finding that your hormone levels are within ranges that people consider correct would just lead to another excuse as to why to not accept you (childhood trauma, not really in love, etc.)

[Peachyy]

Well, I already did!

Seriously. I take medication for a hormone deficiency.

My hormones are kept at the perfect level with pills and it's monitored so that it stays balanced.

I'm still not interested in your disgusting sexual organs.

or...

[Touchofinsight]

most people see a lack of libido/attraction as an unhealthy thing to an individual

We call that 'sexual normativity'. Or, more generally, 'ignorance'.

^ FoxEars ^

but it actually can be a thing.. its just something you should acknowledge as a possibility. Its not a 100% never happen situations so naturally they are going to ask this (because they don't know the alternative) but it doesn't have to be perceived as attack on your sexuality/identity... which is often the assumption.

[SMW22792]

I would refer to the DSM-V in that case. If the lack of sexual attraction isn't affecting you negatively, it's not a sexual disorder.

In case anyone’s wondering, here’s the exact wording of the asexuality exemptions in the DSM 5:

For FSIAD, under the Diagnostic Features section it states:

For a diagnosis of female sexual interest/arousal disorder to be made, clinically significant distress must accompany the symptoms in Criterion A. Distress may be experienced as a result of the lack of sexual interest/arousal or as a result of significant interference in a woman’s life and well-being.

If a lifelong lack of sexual desire is better explained by one’s self-identification as “asexual,” then a diagnosis of female sexual interest/arousal disorder would not be made

(Brotto 2012).

For MHSDD, under differential diagnosis section it states:

The presence of another sexual dysfunction does not rule out a diagnosis of male hypoactive sexual desire disorder; there is some evidence that up to one-half of men with low sexual desire also have erectile difficulties, and slightly fewer may also have early ejaculation difficulties (Fugl-Meyer and Fugl-Meyer 2002).

If the man’s low desire is explained by self-identification as an asexual, then a diagnosis of male hypoactive sexual desire disorder is not made

(Brotto 2012).

[lvhq]

Thanks so much everyone! I guess the main takeaway is don't even bother with people on youtube... I ended up muting the post and just moving on. I think it might be a good idea to get my hormones checked, because it seems to give a lot of y'all reassurance. Might give me some reassurance too.

Doge, I think that's an excellent point. It's not causing me any distress, so why would I or anyone else be particularly concerned?

Again thanks everyone!