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romealeks   
romealeks

why do some asexuals masturbate, if they dont like being touched down there? and also do asexuals feel aroused? and if they do feel aroused then from what do they feel aroused? or do they just feel aroused for no reason?

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bard of aven   
bard of aven

Thank you.

If you search on "masturbation" or, alas "masterbation", as it is often misspelled, you will find several threads and polls which may contain the answers you are also looking for. There is probably also some info in the static content (FAQs, etc.).

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-V-   
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You know its boa when he corrects peoples spelling and uses "alas" at the same time...

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bard of aven   
bard of aven

Alas, 'tis true. Not that anyone who types as badly as I do has room to complain......

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why do some asexuals masturbate, if they dont like being touched down there?

Where asexuals do or don't like being touched really has little to do with it, and is probably dependant on the individual. Let me point out that a person that is "stone" does not like being touched sexually, but they usually enjoy giving in sex. Do they masturbate? I'd have to say thats individual too.

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TeddyMiller   
TeddyMiller

In my case, I do imagine sexual scenarios while masturbating, but they're nothing I'd want to happen in reality. Asexual in my case specifically means not interested in other people sexually; I do sexual things privately, but have no desire to have anyone else involved.

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HolyScarab   
HolyScarab

I think most asexuals have a sublimated idea of sex, so when we get to engage in real life, we find it so boring and different to our fantasies, more concentred in sensuality rathern than genitality, that we prefer to masturbate. That happens to me and also, i don't get excited by just pulling in and out of the vagina.

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sonofzeal   
sonofzeal

Asexuals still have all the same nerve endings as normal people, and most still have all the same hormones in their bloodstream. Being asexual is not about "not liking being touched down there", it's about not having any particular desire to get into those sorts of situations. You'll find people on this site who've had sex, and enjoyed it, and still have no desire to repeat the experience.

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FISH'   
FISH'
In my case, I do imagine sexual scenarios while masturbating, but they're nothing I'd want to happen in reality. Asexual in my case specifically means not interested in other people sexually; I do sexual things privately, but have no desire to have anyone else involved.

Same here.

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Yolly   
Yolly

Personally I masturbate but it's more like a phisical desire rather than sexual desire thing. I do have this strange fascination with kissing/intimacy but not acyual sex but only in fantasy form. I do think this is rather strange as I seem to be aromantic (I've never had a crush, let alone a relationship). Incredibly weird. I think it could just be a curiousity thing, if I actually did kissing with tongues I'd probably be completely put off. As I have no direction for this desire I should probably just keep it to fantasies.

Soz for the rambling

Yolly

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Amcan   
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Asexuals still have all the same nerve endings as normal people, and most still have all the same hormones in their bloodstream. Being asexual is not about "not liking being touched down there", it's about not having any particular desire to get into those sorts of situations. You'll find people on this site who've had sex, and enjoyed it, and still have no desire to repeat the experience.

That's it really the plumbing in asexuals can work and therefore they can enjoy masturbation.

Yolly - I think a lot of asexuals are fascinated by the idea.

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Octarine   
Octarine

What you're probably thinking of is frigidity, romealeks. Frigidity is an inability to enjoy sex. Asexuality is an inability to feel sexual attraction, which I define as not wanting to have sex with a specific person, usually because you want to fulfill a relationship, regardless of whether they want to also. There are some people who are frigid who are asexual, I imagine there are a few that aren't. There are some asexuals who are frigid, but there are a lot that aren't.

Lots of non-virgin asexuals have had sex, even orgasms, usually to please a partner, and liked it. They just aren't particularly inclined to have sex. As I explained to one of my friends, it's a sort of, "I guess if you want to," sort of thing.

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Bruno   
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Asexuals still have all the same nerve endings as normal people, and most still have all the same hormones in their bloodstream. Being asexual is not about "not liking being touched down there", it's about not having any particular desire to get into those sorts of situations. You'll find people on this site who've had sex, and enjoyed it, and still have no desire to repeat the experience.

But then how do you distinguish between an asexual and someone who simply has chosen not to have sex, for whatever reason? E.g. moral convictions or a bad experience with a prostitute? I once knew a guy who had not wanted to have sex since his father had taken him to a prostitute when he was in his late teens. He had found the experience so disgusting he said he preferred masturbation to sex. Maybe this condition used to be more common in the past, when it was relatively normal for young men to discover sex in this way. Would you call these people asexual? After all, they do feel sexual attraction so they shouldn't fit the definition.

What about me? I have never been with a prostitute and never had bad sexual experiences but I find the idea of having/giving oral/conventional/anal sex disgusting. I have tried it several times, just like you do with a dish that looks unappetizing but might be good, and I didn't like it at all. However I do feel sexually attracted to some women. I would like to touch or kiss some of them, but nothing more. Am I asexual?

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Xenon   
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But then how do you distinguish between an asexual and someone who simply has chosen not to have sex, for whatever reason? E.g. moral convictions or a bad experience with a prostitute?

Asexuals didn't choose to be this way -- we simply have no interest in sex. The person who has chosen to not have sex, for whatever reason, has made a deliberate choice.

It's the same distinction as someone declining the opportunity to eat a steak: "No thanks, I'm not hungry" vs "No thanks, I'm a vegetarian". :)

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But then how do you distinguish between an asexual and someone who simply has chosen not to have sex' date=' for whatever reason? E.g. moral convictions or a bad experience with a prostitute? [/quote']

By whatever label they apply to themselves.

“When I use a word,” Humpty Dumpty said, in rather a scornful tone, “it means just what I choose it to mean—neither more nor less.”

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injiktoplqkto   
injiktoplqkto

In my case, I do imagine sexual scenarios while masturbating, but they're nothing I'd want to happen in reality. Asexual in my case specifically means not interested in other people sexually; I do sexual things privately, but have no desire to have anyone else involved.

HEAR! HEAR!

My thoughts exactly. Usually, I suppose, men think to "do" a woman when they see the face, the body shape, the strut or anything else. I still do not get why, so I dismiss it. When I see a beautiful woman, I act like an artistit - appreciate the beauty. Yes, I imagine (want to) touch her, feel her, BUT definitely not having sex with her. Sometimes I even try to imagine what will be like when I need to explain to some girl one day.

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sindi   
sindi

why do some asexuals masturbate, if they dont like being touched down there? and also do asexuals feel aroused? and if they do feel aroused then from what do they feel aroused? or do they just feel aroused for no reason?

aleks. :!: :?: :idea: :arrow: :twisted: :evil:

Because they like being touched down there, just not by others (necessarily, some asexuals apparently like even that).

As for the arousal? I can only speak for myself that it's something random or "out of nowhere" and thankfully quite rare.

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Rower90   
Rower90

Personally, I tend to use masturbation as a way to relax/destress when I'm feeling tense or have a headache. I don't picture anything (much less anyONE) and it's almost like a mechanical process? For me it's similar to massaging out a foot cramp except that I would be much happier to accept a foot massage from someone else than any sort of "nether regions" activity.

It's something I can easily go without but can be a pleasant diversion from time to time.

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Tokamak   
Tokamak

Masturbation for me is purely physical. I don't associate it with sex at all. I've tried thinking about sex while masturbating, and I always end up getting bored. I masturbate because it feels good, and because it releaves stress

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Heart   
Heart

By the way, I hope this won't be seen as spam or similar, but can I find here or in similar places women who would not mind dating guys like me (you can read my post above this one)? I am 28, from Europe. OR does anyone knows women of such kind? Can anyone recommend me some girls?

Unfortunately, AVEN has strict rules about dating adds (legally, AVEN can't be a dating site or anything close), so you're not allowed to create a "personals" kind of post here... but there is in fact a list of dating sites for asexuals that you could check out instead, which allow dating adds and all such stuff :)

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IanH   
IanH

Since I've started, I initially wished I didn't, but it has helped during my withdrawal from my medication by relieving the symptoms.

But for me, masturbation is a purely physical act. I never fantasize about anything nor do I feel the need to. I'm never driven to want sex with anybody, and even after beginning to masturbate, the thought of having sex with someone else is still rather weird for me. To put it frankly, porn, sex and nudity still makes me feel uneasy.

So, to sum it up, when I masturbate, it's a physical act with no fantasies or pornography or anything sexual. A sexual person would read this and say "Boring." My response, "Yep. Boring. That's how I like it. Simple, and not too complicated."

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