Where am I in the asexual spectrum?

[dreamrider]

So I have looked up some info on the asexual spectrum and so far am still a little unsure where I fall on it. I do have my suspicions though. I know that I am heteroromantic for sure. I am not a very sensual person when it comes to people. Very rarely do I feel any urge to hug or cuddle. Kissing is something that grosses me out, but I am perfectly okay with seeing other people do those things. I have done some sexual things, and occasionally feel sexual urges, but then there is a disconnect. I feel the urges, but there is no desire to act on them. The closest I have appeased the urges is through masturbation, and that is occasionally.

One other thing, I am mildly okay with people touching me. I am neutral about sensual things, but I am not too fond of anything sexual. However, I really don't like touching other people. The prospect of touching anyone sends chills down my spine. So what do you think?

[CosineTheCat]

Hello Dreamrider!

Only you can determine where you fall on the spectrum. It's there as a guide to help you figure out where you belong on it. And Asexuality is all about how you feel about sexual attraction, if you feel none of it, some, sometimes, or only when emotional bonds are made with the person you're with. That being said once you figure out where you are on the spectrum, that doesn't mean that you should label yourself as "THIS" and lock away all other experience because it doesn't mash with what you consider your label.

Even as an asexual, sexual urges can be normal, but it's whether or not you want to act out these urges with another person or you're fine just doing it yourself, or ignoring them. Any way it is, it's all for you to decide who you are.

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That's a great answer CosineTheCat... anyone who is unsure about themselves should read it. Brief and to the point.