PuppiesKittensAndBirds Posted March 26, 2015 Share Posted March 26, 2015 Hello everyone! I am a twenty something-year-old confused female who is now sure whether she is asexual or demi-sexual. I think I need some support from a friendly community, because I receive too much pressure from my friends whom I dearly care. They are heterosexual, independent women who enjoy their sexuality and casual sex, which is totally fine by me. I never judge them, but I feel like I have been judged by them all the time. They keep encouraging me to find a boyfriend, or at least someone to have sex with, although I made it clear that I am not interested. I have become good at ignoring those pressures. I have other friends who tell me “I will be so relieved if I try it just for once,” and stuff like that. I don’t find “hot” male celebrity pictures with their chiseled abs and huge muscles attractive, and they say I am weird. They like going to bars and parties, and get offended when I refuse to join them, because at places like those men will unavoidably try to flirt with me and I feel extremely uncomfortable with it. I don’t think it is because I am traumatized, but I am not interested in meeting a potential partner at all. It would be nice if I had a partner I could feel mentally connected, but I don’t, I am fine with it, and I don’t want it any other way. Link to post Share on other sites
deltaX Posted March 26, 2015 Share Posted March 26, 2015 Hello, and welcome to AVEN!! :cake: Unfortunately, you're the only one who can really determine you orientation, so I can't really do much beside provides possibly you with some resources that may help. My main advice would be too keep researching. Becoming familiar with the the terminology and the different identities on the asexual spectrum will help you figure out which identities that you might fit into. I also found it extremely helpful to read through the experiences of others on this forum to see what I did or didn't relate to, and that might help you out as well. Anyway, I wish you luck in figuring yourself out! Whatever you eventually decide to identify as, you'll always be welcome here, and I hope you enjoy your stay as a member! :) Link to post Share on other sites
SkyWorld Posted March 26, 2015 Share Posted March 26, 2015 Hullo and welcome! Well, you have came to the right place for a friendly and supporting community! ^_^ It seems like deltaX and faeriefate did a pretty good job with advice, so I have nothing else to add other than I hope you enjoy it here! If you have anymore questions, please don't hesitate to ask them. :) Again, welcome! Link to post Share on other sites
Lady Girl Posted March 27, 2015 Share Posted March 27, 2015 Hi and welcome! You've come to the right place to keep learning about asexuality and think about whether it applies to you or not. I hope you find your answers here, enjoy posting around and have fun making some new friends too! :) Link to post Share on other sites
ILoveMe Posted March 28, 2015 Share Posted March 28, 2015 Hi there, I am happy to meet you and hope that you find great comfort in joining this community. I am new myself and already am experiencing such a sigh of relief. I dont know exactly where I fit in as of yet, all I know is that I dont want sex, dont like it and am not sexually attracted to anyone. I find soul and personality attractions perfectly pleasurable. I am a romantic in the sense that I love attention, compliments, hugs and snuggling but thats where I draw the line. Love and blessings to you 😉 Link to post Share on other sites
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