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Demisexuals And Erotica Or Porn


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Hi Everyone,

So, I was reading an anthology of straight erotica the other day and noticed something. I only got turned on if the male reminded me of my FWB, either because he had a physical trait like my FWB'S, or said something my FWB would say. If it was glaringly obvious that the male character wasn't similar to my FWB, I was indifferent to the sex, and just read the piece for the story. Actually, the sex with characters who didn't remind me of him slightly repulsed me sometimes.

I've never watched porn, so I'm not sure if it would be the same or different.

Can anyone else relate? Thoughts?

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I personally don't have a partner, so I can't say anything about experiences like your. But the only erotica I can read is fan-fiction about character that I'm particularly invested in. I have to have that connection to the characters, or else it's just random people doing stuff that doesn't interest me.

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indefinitelywhelmed

I'm just starting to identify as demisexual I think, so I'm just a baby demi. But I have something to say about my own experiences that could be useful to you. I've read erotica and watched porn, I mostly use both of these things as visual cues to spark my own imagination. But in saying that, I have definitely experienced something similar to what you're saying, it's so much more than just a visual thing when an actor or character resembles my past or current partners.

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Megilhirile

I've been lurking on this forum for a while, and this topic made me want to create an account just because thinking about the topic cemented my identity (biromantic bi-grace) for me.

Basically, I've never been into porn. I spent a while a few years ago obsessively watching porn because I wanted to get off and thought that was the way I was supposed to do it, but I'd have to spend 3 hours watching porn to get anywhere close, and it only happened if there was a story in there. I'm also a kink, so I have that fun bit where not only am I rarely interested in sex, I'm also only interested in particular kinds of sex. Woo.

Romantic comedies and fanfiction (ESPECIALLY fanfiction) do it for me so much more than anything else. I get stronger arousal from a good story resolution than I do from the "hottest" porn out there. And a lot of fanfic gets porny and I almost always just tune out at that point and scroll past.

So yes, I completely relate!

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Hi Megilhirile,

Wow, I'm flattered. Glad you've cemented your identity, and welcome to AVEN!

Cake!

Misty

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Dexter James

Ive never been interested in porn but as an experiment I watched a couple of films with unsimulated sex (I guess that's porn) and I still don't understand why people like to watch it regularly.

I didn't find it disgusting, just... ...uninteresting?

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almost alice

I should start by saying I'm still working out for sure if I fall under demi or not, but I'm pretty sure I do.

Anyway, for me video porn and regular written erotica do nothing for me unless, like you, I can sort of mentally equate one of the characters with my partner or someone I am actually attracted to. If I have no one I am attracted to at the time, then porn is just like any other movie to me.

Fanfiction though is another story. I get very attached to certain characters and if I read sexually explicit fanfiction with a character I'm currently into, then I am able to get turned on. It really is just that small handful of characters though that can manage to turn me on, Right now I think its like maybe four or five? Its also important to note that the number of characters that I can actually imagine myself with is even smaller at like two or three. I suspect I am autochorissexual or lithosexual to some degree, but not enough to really identify as such.

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Autumn Season

I am or was (not sure anymore) a lot into yaoi mangas. I read some hentai and watched some porn too, but it never did anything for me. I needed the stories inside of the yaoi mangas: The characters build up a relationship, start loving each other and then have sex. In this case I was like "aawwww, they finally found each other" or something of the like. ^^

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Thanks for all the replies, everyone. I'm happy to hear that my topic sparked some interest. XD I can totally relate to a lot of you about fan fiction. Remus never fails to turn me on ha ha.

So ... I watched some porn this weekend. Yup, the girl turned me on, but I couldn't care less what the guy was doing lol.

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If there's no story, porn usually ranges from boring to disgusting. I have enjoyed a few erotic doujins though. It seems like it has to be built on a good romance story first, or at least have characters and buildup that remind me enough of a good ship. And using drawings instead of real people (ew) also helps.

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It doesn't interest me. In fact if I'm watching something on DVR and there's a love scene I just fast forward through it.

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